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If you haven't been in the Clarity-verse (it's a thing, I've decided) for a while, you might have missed the fact that one year ago Kristen got a full-time job.

Not because she desperately needed one. Or because Krachel was on the verge of a breakup (going strong, thanks!).

It was because she wasn't walking her talk.

Ironically, one of the people who created the Passion Profile Quiz was struggling because, go figure, she wasn't working like a Thriver. They say you teach what you most need to learn!

So, on the year anniversary of Kristen getting a full-time job, I got the inside scoop about how it's going. We got into…

• How she knew this job was going to be able to meet her needs, before she got hired.
• What it's been like to balance a job with coaching and running a business.
• How her energy levels have totally shifted in the last year.
• How she's dealt with overwhelm when it's come up.
• Why making a decision that seemingly defies logic might land you with more time and energy than you thought possible.

Come leave a comment after you've listened to share how Kristen's update is landing with you!

GETTING OVER PEOPLE PLEASING — COMING IN AUGUST!

A four-week course for people-pleasers, perfectionists, and anyone who wants to stop caring so much about what others think.

Get on the VIP list for more info when we open enrollment for Getting Over People Pleasing in August!

• We haven't run this course in 2 years, and we have no idea if/when we will again. So consider it a one-time thing!
• It will last for about 4 weeks, and during that time you'll get short weekly video lessons and workbook prompts.
• There will be a forum so that you, and the other members of the group, can ask us questions and share your stories.
• This course is for people who want to bridge the gap between knowing what they should be doing, and actually doing it.
• Consider this course a fun-yet-challenging boot camp of sorts! We're going to help you heal some old wounds that keep you trapped in the need to please and get desensitized to the discomfort of things like setting boundaries, saying no, and speaking up for yourself.
• This course will be action-oriented. Yes, there will be some teaching, but everything we teach is going to be actionable. And we're going to hold you accountable for taking that action!
• By the end, we know you'll feel a LOT freer, calmer, more confident, and resilient.

If you haven't joined our VIP list yet, please do! There will be goodies for people who are on that list when we launch the course.

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Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.

This month we answered questions from:

• Giamhi, a senior in high school whose parents are pushing her to go into a field like engineering or teaching. She doesn't know what she wants — but she knows she doesn't want to do that. How do you make a career choice when you're feeling pressured to do something that will make other people happy?
• Summer, who asked us, "What do I do when I'm burned out and not sure if ANY job will reignite my passion?"
• Less than Optimistic, who was excited to pursue a career in a very specific field, but after applying to over 100 jobs and never getting anything, moved on to something totally different. After a decade, he still has dreams of pursuing his original interest … but obviously he's not hopeful. How can you tell if something is a pipe dream vs. a real possibility?

Come leave a comment after you've listened to share how our advice for these listeners resonated with you!

GETTING OVER PEOPLE PLEASING — COMING IN AUGUST!

Get on the VIP list for more info when we open enrollment for Getting Over People Pleasing in August!

• We haven't run this course in 2 years, and we have no idea if/when we will again. So consider it a one-time thing!
• It will last for about 4 weeks, and during that time you'll get short weekly video lessons and workbook prompts.
• There will be a forum so that you, and the other members of the group, can ask us questions and share your stories.
• This course is for people who want to bridge the gap between knowing what they should be doing, and actually doing it.
• Consider this course a fun-yet-challenging boot camp of sorts! We're going to help you heal some old wounds that keep you trapped in the need to please and get desensitized to the discomfort of things like setting boundaries, saying no, and speaking up for yourself.
• This course will be action-oriented. Yes, there will be some teaching, but everything we teach is going to be actionable. And we're going to hold you accountable for taking that action!
• By the end, we know you'll feel a LOT freer, calmer, more confident, and resilient.

If you haven't joined our VIP list yet, please do! There will be goodies for people who are on that list when we launch the course.

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Dear Krachel: How do I get my boss to let me work less? (June 2021)

Blog: What if we told you that you could major in life? (June 2018)

Magic 8-Ball: Masculine vs. Feminine Energy (March 2020)

Finding a job with less force, more ease, & amazing results (February 2022)

Side Chat: Is it not working? Or is it not working YET? (November 2020)

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Honing your intuition is one of the most important parts of getting clear on who you are, what you want, and where you're headed. Without it, you're like a GPS with bad reception — you're not going to get very clear guidance, and you may end up driving in circles.

But that takes time and practice, so sometimes it's nice to piggyback off of another GPS you can trust, even if it's just long enough to check your directions.

In that spirit, we're back with another Message from the Universe episode for you! Tune in if you need a little clarity, guidance, or just a fun pick-me-up.

Today we pulled a few cards from The Enchanted Map deck by Colette Baron-Reid. One or all has a message for you — come find out what it is!

We also started out this episode with some fun stories we've heard lately from clients about how the Universe showed up for them. If you've got a good one to share, we'd love to hear (and maybe share it in a future Message from the Universe episode)! Email us at [email protected], subject line "Universe," with your stories. ✨

Check out the cards and written descriptions here. And after you listen, leave a comment to share how this one spoke to you!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Message from the Universe: Prepare to be amazed (April 2022)

Bonus Book Club! Outrageous Openness by Tosha Silver (November 2018)

A deep dive into manifestation with Chelsea Jewel (March 2022)

Bonus Book Club! It's Not Your Money by Tosha Silver (March 2019)

Bonus Book Club! E-Squared by Pam Grout (January 2020)

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Ever seen that meme of a circle with text in it that says "your comfort zone," and then a little dot way outside the circle that says, "where the magic happens?"

Ugh, makes us want to roll our eyes. Because it's TRUE. And we wish it weren't!

But alas, magic does happen when you're willing to get uncomfortable. Except it's not easy at ALL to get out of your comfort zone. Especially if you want to get out and stay out.

So, in this month's brand-new Side Chat, we're diving into how to successfully exit your comfort zone. We talked about …

• An interesting way to train your body/nervous system to be OK with emotional discomfort.
• How to know whether you should get out of your comfort zone — what if it's just not worth it?
• A little tough love about ways you might be sneakily sidestepping hard things.
• And a simple way to figure out the first step you should take, so that you don't end up crashing and burning.

Leave a comment after you've listened to share how this inspired you to get out of your comfort zone!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Side Chat: Copping out vs. letting yourself off the hook (April 2020)

Blog: When is it worth getting out of your comfort zone? (September 2018)

Magic 8-Ball: 7 questions to ask yourself before saying yes to anything (April 2020)

Getting over your 'all or nothing' obsession with Amy Everhart (October 2018)

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For those of you who don't know (or maybe forgot, since it's been so long), Rachel and I used to write a new blog post every single week for YEARS. In fact, our writing was what we were most known for in the early years of Clarity on Fire.

All of our old blogs are still available on our site (check out our full library). But many of those old posts haven't seen the light of day in a while, even though they're just as relevant today as they were when we first wrote them.

So today, I'm highlighting one of those old posts! This is a concept I still share with my clients when they're struggling with burnout. Listen in as I read you the blog, or read it in full on our site.

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I'm sitting here on a Friday afternoon, and I have a running mental list of everything I could or should be doing right now. I should be responding to emails, or going to the gym, or running errands, or planning dinner, and on and on.

But it's Friday afternoon, and I'm just not feelin' any of it. All I want to do is sit outside with an iced coffee on this gorgeous sunny afternoon and do some writing. So that's what I'm doing.

An older version of me would have shamed myself into doing something "more productive." I would have pushed through my "laziness" until I checked everything off my list. And the quick thrill of satisfaction that comes from being productive would've soon been replaced by exhaustion and a nagging sense that I'd betrayed myself.

I've fought this internal battle over and over again: What I WANT to do today vs. what I SHOULD do today…

Listen in to hear the blog in-full!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Healing burnout through creativity with Kara Guilfoyle (October 2021)

Dear Krachel: How do I recover from burnout? (January 20219)

How to feel more energized at work (& generally in life) (December 2019)

Magic 8-Ball: Masculine vs. Feminine Energy (March 2020)

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Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.

This month we answered questions from:

• Andrea, an artist who's been working in her field for 4 years. She's struggling to enjoy her job because her work isn't as good as other, more senior artists. Does she need to be good at her job to enjoy it? Or is the lack of enjoyment a sign she's on the wrong path?
• Bailey, who's made an admirable effort to "stop going to the hardware store for milk"—AKA, she's not trying to get emotional support from people who can't meet her needs. But where CAN she go to get the support she craves, when there's nothing but proverbial hardware stores everywhere?
• Ready to Rebel, a Firestarter/Thriver combo who's struggling to balance her conflicting Passion Profiles. She deeply craves freedom BUT has a crippling fear of losing stability. How can she somehow find both?

Come leave a comment after you've listened to share how our advice for these listeners resonated with you!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Bonus Book Club! Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert (June 2018)

Blog: Stop going to the hardware store for milk (November 2018)

Dear Krachel: How do I ask people to meet my needs? (April 2021)

Special Episode! Why Kristen just got a JOB (July 2021)

Side Chat: The 4 Passion Profiles (December 2018)

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I recently heard Sam Laura Brown get interviewed on a podcast I occasionally listen to, and I immediately had three visceral reactions:

1. This woman deeply understands what's behind perfectionism and talks about it in a way I've never heard before.
2. I really want our listeners to hear her wisdom, because I know so many of them will relate.
3. Uh oh, I think I might be more of a perfectionist than I thought… 😬

Trust me, you're going to want to listen to this one in-full, even if you don't necessarily think of yourself as a perfectionist (Sam actually shares why so many perfectionists don't see themselves that way).

Listen in as Sam and I talk about…

• How she figured out she was a perfectionist, and how to recognize if YOU are one too.
• Some of the most common misconceptions about perfectionism, and what's really behind it.
• The relationship between perfectionism, procrastination, and motivation (and why trying to force motivation never works long-term).
• The difference between a growth vs. fixed mindset, and why this is critical for letting go of perfectionist tendencies.
• A few surefire ways to start releasing perfectionism, so you can finally make progress in your life and career.

After you've listened, leave a comment to let us know how Sam's widsom resonated with you.

MORE ABOUT SAM LAURA BROWN

Sam Laura Brown is a perfectionism coach, host of the top-rated podcast The Perfectionism Project and founder of Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - a group coaching program for perfectionists who are building businesses. Sam teaches perfectionists how to follow through with their plans and get out of their own way in their business.

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IF YOU LIKED THIS, YOU'LL ALSO LOVE…

Ditching your perfectionism with Terece Hahn (August 2020)

Why highly sensitive people struggle with perfectionism (June 2019)

Side Chat: Curing your people-pleasing disease (May 2018)

You will NEVER be done (August 2019)

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In the 17-or-so years that I've been working, I've quit a LOT of jobs. I could probably do an Ariana Grande-style 7 rings musical rendition of all the jobs I've quit … but I'll spare you.

(Though if you did want a list, you could just go back and listen to us recount all the (embarrassing) things we've quit on the podcast.)

From the Old Navy store at the outlet mall, to nannying, to investment firms, to law firms — I've quit 'em all.

The longest I ever had any job was about a year-and-a-half — hardly long enough to achieve anything, but certainly long enough to know I hated it!

So, how did someone practically allergic to employment end up doing a job (I'm talking about coaching, obviously) for 10 years without quitting?

That's what Kristen and I are diving into in a brand-new, super in-depth Side Chat! Listen in as we talk about:

• Learning the hard way what a job is, and isn't, meant to do for you
• How your enjoyment of a job can magically change, even if you hated it before, when your mindset shifts
• Getting clear about whether the problem is you, or the job
• And a LOT more!

LAST DAY TO APPLY TO WORK WITH US 1:1!

How awful would it be to keep quitting jobs, over and over, thinking you just haven't found the right one yet … when really, the solution is to work on yourself?

We're proof that when you address you first — your desires, your triggers, your boundaries, your default settings, your talents, your bad habits, your emotional ups and downs, your identity — then a job (or a relationship, or anything) you truly enjoy (and one that has staying power) is the natural byproduct.

That's what we do for other people in coaching. And if you like the sound of that, then allow me to inform you that TODAY, May 20th, is the last day we're accepting applications for new coaching clients!

• We have space for maybe a couple clients, so act quickly if you think this could be for you.
• This is for people interested in getting started in May or June.
• We've temporarily brought back the option of doing 3 months of coaching, rather than the traditional 6! We probably won't offer that level of coaching next time we accept applications.
• You don't have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.

Ready to talk about it? Fill out the form on this page to apply, and one of us will schedule an info session with you!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Bonus Side Chat: All the (embarrassing) things we've quit (October 2020)

Side Chat: How to figure out what to do with your life (June 2018)

Expecting the perfect job to be your savior with Sarah Knight (October 2019)

Side Chat: The 4 Passion Profiles (December 2018)

Side Chat: Problem transfiguration (November 2019)

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Ever been so burnt out that you were ready to up and quit your job with no plan?

We've been there — and actually done it … more than once. 😅 My client Sonya has, too, which is why I invited her to be this month's "interview with a normal person."

Listen in as Sonya and I get into:

• How a toxic job and boss made her start questioning a career she thought she loved.
• What happened after she made the decision to quit with no new job or plan, whatsoever.
• How following her curiosity and exploring a new hobby led her, in a roundabout way, to a brand-new path.
• How she landed a dream job at a very impressive company, making more money than she'd ever made before, without stressing or putting in much effort at all.

Come leave a comment after you've listened to share how Sonya's journey resonated with you!

APPLY TO WORK WITH US 1:1!

Can you relate to feeling burnt out and wanting to quit your job with zero plan?

Hey, it's always an option! It worked out for Sonya. 😉

But if you'd like to pause before you do anything rash — maybe get to the root of whether it's really your job that's the problem, or you — then we've got good news:

We're CURRENTLY accepting applications for new coaching clients!

We officially open doors for new clients just a few times per year, so if now feels like the right time, let's talk.

• We have space for maybe 8 clients, so act quickly if you think this could be for you.
• This is for people interested in getting started in May or June.
• We've temporarily brought back the option of doing 3 months of coaching, rather than the traditional 6! We probably won't offer that level of coaching next time we accept applications.
• You don't have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.

Ready to talk about it? Fill out the form on this page to apply, and one of us will schedule an info session with you!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Side Chat: How to tell if you have career trauma (November 2021)

Finding a dream job after years of searching with Teanca Shepherd (September 2018)

Waiting on a dream job for 13 years with Natalie Burgess (June 2021)

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Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.

This month we answered questions from:

• Tiffanny, a Thriver (on the Passion Profile Quiz) who works full-time and has spent the last 2 years trying to get a business going on the side. She's changed directions multiple times, spent countless hours on webinars, classes, and consults, but can't seem to stay on course and make something work. Could this be an indicator that entrepreneurship isn't for her? Is she chasing something she wants, that doesn't want her?
• Tina, who's wondering how people who struggle with their mental health navigate finding their passion and having a fulfilling career. Even if they get what they want, what if their brain doesn't allow them to enjoy it?
• Bea, who's eyes have recently opened to just how many of her beliefs were influenced by her culture and upbringing. How do you untangle what values, opinions, and goals are actually yours, vs. ones you've been conditioned to want?

Come leave a comment after you've listened to share how our advice for these listeners resonated with you!

APPLY TO WORK WITH US 1:1!

There comes a point where you're ready to stop hoping things will change and start knowing they will. You're probably very clear about what you don't want out of your life and career, but know you need to dive a whole lot deeper into what you do want. You might be a little nervous about the prospect of massive change … but at this point in your life, you deeply understand that the only real risk is not changing. If you want individual attention, someone to hold you accountable, and the benefit of our substantial experience focused solely on you, then we've got good news:

We're CURRENTLY accepting applications for new coaching clients!

We officially open doors for new clients just a few times per year, so if now feels like the right time, let's talk.

• We have space for maybe 8 clients, so act quickly if you think this could be for you.
• This is for people interested in getting started in May or June.
• We've temporarily brought back the option of doing 3 months of coaching, rather than the traditional 6! We probably won't offer that level of coaching next time we accept applications.
• You don't have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.

Ready to talk about it? Fill out the form on this page to apply, and one of us will schedule an info session with you!

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