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Honing your intuition is one of the most important parts of getting clear on who you are, what you want, and where you're headed. Without it, you're like a GPS with bad reception — you're not going to get very clear guidance, and you may end up driving in circles.

But honing your intuition can take time and practice, so sometimes it's nice to piggyback off of another GPS you can trust, even if it's just long enough to check your directions.

So, in that spirit, here's another Message from the Universe episode for you! Tune in if you need a little clarity, guidance, or just a fun pick-me-up.

Today we pulled a few cards from our usual favorite, The Enchanted Map deck by Colette Baron-Reid. One or all has a message for you — come find out what it is!

We mixed things up and got … interesting results. You're going to want to hear this one. 😉

Click here to see the cards, as well as read the description of each! And after you listen, come leave a comment to share how this one spoke to you.

OUR HOLIDAY PROMO IS COMING SOON!

2020 was a YEAR, 2021 has also been a year, and you deserve something nice! So, heads up: From Wednesday, December 8 – Friday, December 17, we're bringing back the super-popular promotion we did this time last year! You'll be able to…

• Get the Passion Profile Short Course, our intro course that helps you get clear on your career direction in as little as 1 day, for 30% off its usual price ($174 instead of $249). No discount code needed! The price will be automatically lower on our site.

• Get a single coaching session with one of us! We normally only offer one-off sessions to former clients, but we'll be opening this option up to everyone for a very limited time (we only have about 10 sessions, and when they're gone, they're gone).

We hope it'll be a simple and super helpful way to rid yourself of some 2021 gunk and gear up for a much better 2022. ☺ Stay tuned for when it's available in a couple weeks!

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Lately we've had multiple clients share a worrying pattern. It goes something like, "I can't stop ruminating on this awful experience I had at work. I obsess over it constantly. It's really affecting my mood, energy, performance, and confidence."

If you've had a bad romantic relationship—maybe an ex who said nasty things to your face, or who would scream at you at the drop of a hat, or who neglected your needs and then gaslit you into thinking you were crazy for having needs in the first place—you get to call it what it is. Namely, unhealthy, toxic, traumatic, even abusive.

But when these things happen at work (and they do happen at work, all the time) … we often don't call it any of that. We often think we aren't allowed to have feelings, at all, because we're at work.

So, in this month's brand-new Side Chat, Kristen and I are getting frank and talking about workplace trauma, namely:

• What "counts" as traumatic when you're in a work setting
• Signs that you might be struggling with some form of work trauma
• When to speak up or just plain leave a toxic work situation
• How to heal from this kind of experience

Come leave a comment after you've listened to share your stories of unhealthy work environments (we know you've got them).

KEEP YOUR EYES PEELED FOR OUR HOLIDAY PROMO

2020 was a YEAR, 2021 has also been a year, and you deserve something nice! So, heads up: From Wednesday, December 8 – Friday, December 17, we're bringing back the super-popular promotion we did this time last year! You'll be able to …

• Get the Passion Profile Short Course, our intro course that helps you get clear on your career direction in as little as 1 day, for 30% off its usual price ($174 instead of $249). No discount code needed! Price will be automatically lower on our site.

• Get a single coaching session with one of us! We normally only offer one-off sessions to former clients, but we'll be opening this option up to everyone for a very limited time (we only have about 10 sessions, and when they're gone, they're gone).

We hope it'll be a simple and super helpful way to rid yourself of some 2021 gunk and gear up for a much better 2022. ☺ Stay tuned for when it's available in a few weeks!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Blog: Why everything can get easier when you get a bridge job (June 2019)

Side Chat: When your feelings are ignored, scorned, & gaslit (January 2020)

Side Chat: Why dating & job searching are the same thing (March 2020)

Burn This: Sacrificing your health for a job (May 2020)

Navigating a toxic workplace with Stacy Campesi (February 2021)

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Hello again, friends! I've returned with more Forever Alone … but not Season 2 (yet). Instead, I'm here with something special.

Most of what I shared in Season 1 was very thorough. I said exactly what I needed to say, and have nothing left to add. But there's one thing I wasn't able to go into enough depth about, because I had too much to say and my opinions weren't essential to the story—and that's what I'm here to dig into now.

So, join in for this bonus chapter in which I don my coaching hat (beribboned bonnet? jaunty fascinator?) and dole out opinions, advice, and general musings on how (and whether) to use dating apps without losing your mind.

As always, I love hearing all of your comments and reactions, so after you've listened, leave a comment here or DM me on the Forever Alone site.

NEW TO FOREVER ALONE?

If you have no idea what I'm talking about, never fear! Forever Alone: One millennial's half-agonizing, half-hopeful journey through singledom is my 7-part miniseries podcast I released back in August.

Yes, it chronicles my seemingly never-ending experience as a single person, but it's about so much more than that. Give it a listen if you really want something and can't, for the life of you, figure out how to get it.

If you haven't listened to Chapter 1, you can go back and start here, since these are meant to be listened to in order. I'd also be thrilled if you left a 5-star rating and review, wherever you listen!

As always, you can find Forever Alone on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Play, Amazon, and YouTube, among other places you listen to podcasts.

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Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.

This month we answered questions from:

• Dee, who recently went through a tough breakup with someone that she thought was "it." She's someone who's cautious and does her vetting before getting into a relationship, so she's upset about not seeing this coming. How can she trust herself in the future when she gets a "knowing" about someone?
• Chelsea, who serves us up a philosophical question about … questions. Namely, how to ask good ones. If finding life's big answers depends on asking good questions, then how do we ask questions that actually get us somewhere, rather than spiraling into anxiety loops and making no progress?
• Serena, who's been looking for a job for a while, and recently got offered an 8/10. It's OK, but it's not exactly what she wants … and now she feels guilty for saying no. How can she move past the fear that it's ungrateful if she doesn't accept something less than what she really wants?

And come leave a comment after you've listened to share how our advice for these listeners resonated with you!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Side Chat: Honing your intuition (& knowing when it's really fear) (June 2019)

Side Chat: What happens when your intuition is wrong? (July 2020)

Side Chat: How to spot a red, green, or yellow flag (February 2021)

Side Chat: Balancing the mind, body, & soul (July 2021)

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Calling all fellow bookworms, library nerds, and general lovers of literature — it's time for another book club episode of the podcast!

Whenever there are five Fridays in a month we devote the extra Friday to a book that we can't get enough of. In this episode we're diving into Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most by Greg McKeown, author of the mega-bestseller Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less.

We've got a LOT to say about this book. If you've been following along with the episodes we've been doing this year about masculine & feminine energy, you're going to find this conversation very interesting!

Listen in as we dive into…

• How to achieve more because you're at ease (not in spite of it)
• Strategies for making it easier to focus, making critical work easier to do, and getting the highest return on the least possible effort
• Why it's your responsibility to relax, and why you'll still get better results (and enjoy your life way more) when you slow down

After you listen, come leave a comment to share how this conversation resonated with you!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Magic 8-Ball: Masculine vs. Feminine Energy (March 2020)

Finding a new job in 24 hours with Christina Hart (January 2021)

The feminine energy experiment with Carolyn Canonica (May 2021)

Side Chat: How to actually DO feminine energy (June 2021)

Learning to let go of control with Diana La Femina (September 2021)

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At the very end of Chapter 7 of Forever Alone (tiny spoiler alert, I guess!), I said:

We don't all have the same amount of ambition in every area of life, and that's OK. Some of us are perfectly content with a small, modest townhouse: Comfortable, safe, not flashy, but warm and homey. Honestly, my career ambitions are probably somewhere in that realm—it matters to me, but it's not where my big, big dreams have ever lived. But man, I've got skyscraper ambitions when it comes to love. And I'm not talking some ugly thing that doesn't even win skyscraper of the year award in Architectural Digest. It's gotta be beautiful and impressive and very much larger than life. I think I might have more ambition in love than just about anyone I know.

I've been sitting with this and thinking about it so much that I decided it deserved more than just a single paragraph of attention.

So, in this month's brand-new Side Chat Kristen and I are digging into …

• How Passion Profiles show up outside of your career—in relationships, family, and more
• Examples of how our Passion Profiles differ between business and personal life
• Why it's OK to have varying levels of ambition across different areas of your life
• And of course, our ongoing debate on how many men Kristen would have to meet before she'd marry one of them (I say 25, she disagrees)

Come leave a comment after you've listened to share what your scale of ambition across the different areas of your life!

P.S. We're taking a short podcasting break while I'm jaunting around the UK, so we'll see you again on Friday the 29th for our Bonus Book Club episode about Effortless! Until then, if you get bored, pull up Clarity on Fire on your podcast feed, close your eyes, and scroll until you feel the urge to stop—consider that the episode you needed to listen to. ;)

WANT TO READ A WITCHY BOOK WITH US?

The Clarity on Fire Community is hosting a book club on Sunday, October 24, at 7:00pm EST! This month, in honor of the season, we're reading a novel—The Nature of Witches—and getting together to discuss it.

• Join the $3/month tier (The Spark) for access to occasional bonus episodes and other special content. Think of this like our virtual "tip jar." If you're not interested in the community aspect, but appreciate our work and want to send a little love our way every month, plus get access to bonus content, this is for you!

• Join the $6/month tier (The Flame) for occasional bonus content, access to monthly patron-only Zoom meetups (hosted by our Community Ambassador, Alyx), quarterly Zoom hangs with Krachel, and Discord server where members chat in depth!

Become a patron, here!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Side Chat: The 4 Passion Profiles (December 2018)

Sorting Harry Potter characters by Passion Profile (2019)

Side Chat: How to figure out what to do with your life (June 2018)

Side Chat: Does life purpose even exist? (January 2021)

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I'm as guilty as anyone else of saying that I value creativity, but then as soon as life gets busy, it's the first thing I throw on the backburner.

It doesn't help that many of us got the message (from our parents, from society at large, from wherever) that creativity in adulthood is kind of frivolous and should, at best, be relegated to a side hobby.

Whenever I find myself ignoring my creative side in favor of more "productive" things, I try to remember this quote from Brené Brown:

"Creativity has to be cultivated. Unused creativity is not benign. It metastasizes. It turns into grief, rage, judgment, sorrow, shame. We are by nature creative. It gets lost along the way."

Kara Guilfoyle can attest to just how true this is! After years of working herself into exhaustion in the intense, fast-paced, emotionally exhausting medical world, she finally realized that the best way to heal her burnout and make her feel whole again was to reignite her artistic side.

Listen in as I ask Kara about her evolving relationship with her creativity, including...

• How and why her creative side got shut down when she "grew up,"
• Her view of the healing power of creativity (you'll want to hear her description — it's beautiful!),
• Her struggles with procrastination and the many ways she's learned to overcome it,
• How the "menu approach" opened up a whole new world of creative freedom for her,
• And her advice for anyone who's craving more creativity, but is feeling stuck on how to prioritize it.

After you've listened, leave us a comment to share how Kara's story resonated with you!

MORE ABOUT KARA GUILFOYLE

Kara Guilfoyle is a reformed workaholic, former Pediatric ICU nurse and Sexual Assault Forensic Examiner who sought healing and refuge in art. She is on a journey of tapping into her divine feminine and expanding her creative self. She is a highly sensitive, INFJ, Thriver and Side-Hustler fascinated with cultural anthropology, horticulture, and a love of all things witchy and woo. She has been informed by her nursing students that she is a Ravenclaw. She is currently working as a Nurse Practitioner in a primary care clinic serving uninsured adults in Los Angeles and is considering getting a dog.

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I can't believe this is my life with Solange Luftman

Making space in your life (when you don't believe it's possible) with Anna Gore

Stop regretting & start creating with Todd Searle

Bonus Book Club! Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

Bonus Book Club! The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron

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Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.

This month we answered questions from:

• Jane, who wants to encourage more feminine energy in the workplace, but is running up against an issue. How do you communicate the idea of feminine energy to male co-workers who don't get it, and who might find their masculinity threatened?
• Yuba Love, who quit her old job, moved to a new state, a recently started a new job in a completely different industry. But, in taking the job, she also took a BIG step backward in salary. How can she silence the inner critic that's mad she isn't making more money, and see this new job as the potential big opportunity it is?

We also got an update from Tribe of One, a listener whose question we answered back in November 2020. Find out what happened when she confronted those important people she was convinced disliked her!

And come leave a comment after you've listened to how our advice for these listeners resonated with you.

FOREVER ALONE IS OFFICIALLY DONE!

All seven episodes of Forever Alone, Rachel's miniseries about her journey through singledom, are now available for listening. Get to binging, if you haven't yet, and share with your friends (especially the single ones) who need some uplifting!

And if you've listened to the whole series and haven't left a 5-star rating and review, it would delight her if you'd take a minute and do that today!

As always, you can find Forever Alone on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Play, Amazon, YouTube, among other places you listen to podcasts.

WANT TO READ A WITCHY BOOK WITH US?

The Clarity on Fire Community is hosting a book club on Sunday, October 24 at 7:00pm EST! This month, in honor of the season, we're going to be reading a witchy novel together and getting together to discuss it.

• Join the $3/month tier (The Spark) for access to occasional bonus episodes and other special content. Think of this like our virtual "tip jar." If you're not interested in the community aspect, but appreciate our work and want to send a little love our way every month, plus get access to bonus content, this is for you!

• Join the $6/month tier (The Flame) for occasional bonus content, access to monthly patron-only Zoom meetups (hosted by our Community Ambassador, Alyx), quarterly Zoom hangs with Krachel, and Discord server where members chat in depth!

Become a patron, here!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

How to negotiate anything (even if you're a people pleaser) with Devon Smiley (May 2019)

Dear Krachel: I'm convinced someone important doesn't like me (November 2020)

Side Chat: How to actually DO feminine energy (June 2021)

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Well, dear listener, we've arrived. The grand finale (and I do mean grand … this one's a full HOUR long) of Forever Alone! Thank you for joining me on this journey. It's truly been one of the most fun, gratifying things I've ever done. I might be prouder of this seven-part series than anything I've ever done with Clarity on Fire! (But don't tell Kristen).

So, tune in one more time and enjoy Chapter 7: Stories & Skyscrapers, in which I…

• Consult with a fictional Board of Directors,
• Download Hinge,
• Go on a date with a hot man,
• And finally answer the question I posed at the beginning of this tale.

I've loved hearing all of your comments and reactions, so after you've listened, leave a comment here or DM me on the Forever Alone site.

And if you've listened to this whole series and haven't left a 5-star rating and review, it would delight me to no end if you'd take a minute and do that today!

As always, you can find Forever Alone on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Play, Amazon, YouTube, among other places you listen to podcasts.

1:1 COACHING ENROLLMENT ENDS TODAY!

Today, Wednesday the 29th, is the LAST day we're accepting sign-up forms for new clients. A few pointers to keep in mind:

• This is for people interested in getting started in the next month or so.
• You don't have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.
• The next time we're doing coaching enrollment is in 2022!
• If you're not ready now, or you've found us in-between "official" enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we'll contact you if and when we have an availability.

Check out the details and fill out the form on this page, and we'll talk to you soon!

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Honing your intuition is one of the most important parts of getting clear on who you are, what you want, and where you're headed. Without it, you're like a GPS with bad reception — you're not going to get very clear guidance, and you may end up driving in circles.

But honing your intuition can take time and practice, so sometimes it's nice to piggyback off of another GPS you can trust, even if it's just long enough to check your directions.

So, in that spirit, here's another Message from the Universe episode for you! Tune in if you need a little clarity, guidance, or just a fun pick-me-up.

Today we pulled a few cards from The Enchanted Map deck by Colette Baron-Reid. One or all has a message for you — come find out what it is!

This one made us SCREAM, so definitely come find out why. 😉

Click here to see the cards, as well as read the description of each! And after you listen, come leave a comment to share how this one spoke to you.

1:1 COACHING ENROLLMENT IS HAPPENING NOW!

We're accepting sign-up forms for new clients now through Wednesday, September 29! A few pointers to keep in mind:

• We'll be taking on a small amount of clients this time—probably fewer than 10!
• This is for people interested in getting started in September or October.
• You don't have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.
• If you're not ready now, or you've found us in-between "official" enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we'll contact you if and when we have an availability.

Check out the details and fill out the form on this page, and we'll talk to you soon!

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