*This episode is a re release from a previous season.

In this conversation, Monique is talking with guest family therapist Sidu Arroyo about the critical aspects of emotional regulation, particularly for those with trauma histories. She emphasizes the importance of understanding that emotions are neither good nor bad, and that self-regulation is a skill that requires practice and co-regulation with others. The discussion also addresses the feelings of guilt and shame that parents may experience when they lose control, and the significance of repairing relationships with children after emotional outbursts. Overall, the conversation highlights the need for compassion towards oneself and the importance of creating a safe environment for emotional expression.

takeaways

• Emotions are neither good nor bad; they are experiences.
• Self-regulation is a skill that takes practice.
• Safety is essential for effective self-regulation.
• Co-regulation is crucial for children to learn self-regulation.
• Parents often struggle with guilt and shame after losing control.
• Repairing relationships is vital after emotional outbursts.
• Acknowledging emotions with compassion is important.
• Children need consistent support to develop emotional skills.
• It's okay to be human and make mistakes as a parent.
• This journey of emotional regulation is a process, not linear.

Sidu Arroyo:

https://www.instagram.com/becomingathome/