Alanis sat with relational experts Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman and discussed love in all its forms, as well as consistent challenges that can plague our relationships and how to work through them together.  In this conversation, they dive into topics ranging from the importance of maintaining curiosity with others to how to maintain a connection when things get hard. etc join us as we go for it. love you

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In this current episode, Alanis has a deep dive conversation with Dr. Ramani Durvasala about narcissism and personality disorders, and their effects on relationships and culture. 

Alanis sat down with Dr. Gabor Maté for this month’s podcast to talk about the de-stigmatization of addiction and how best to understand and support the recovery process, ADHD and how sensitivity and a sense of self directly affects the body.

Below are books by Dr. Gabor Maté:

In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction

When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress

Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder

Hold On to Your Kids

Alanis sat down with Karen Koenig for this month’s podcast to talk about emotional and restrictive eating and how to maintain a healthy relationship with food.

Below are books by Karen Koenig:

Starting Monday: Seven Keys to a Permanent, Positive Relationship with Food

The Rules of "Normal" Eating: A Commonsense Approach for Dieters, Overeaters, Undereaters, Emotional Eaters, and Everyone in Between!

The Food and Feelings Workbook: A Full Course Meal on Emotional Health

What Every Therapist Needs to Know about Treating Eating and Weight Issues

Nice Girls Finish Fat: Put Yourself First and Change Your Eating Forever

Outsmarting Overeating: Boost Your Life Skills, End Your Food Problems

In this episode, Alanis talks with Gordon Neufeld about developmental psychology, the power to parent, and the value in staying connected with our children as they get older.

Below is a book by Gordon Neufeld:

Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

In this episode, Alanis talks with Nina W Brown about the four kinds of destructive narcissistic patterns and how to navigate relationships with them.

Below are some books by Nina W Brown:

Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents

Loving the Self-Absorbed: How to Create a More Satisfying Relationship with a Narcissistic Partner

Whose Life is it Anyway? When to Stop Taking Care of Their Feelings & Start Taking Care of Your Own

The Destructive Narcissistic Pattern

In this episode, Alanis talks with Daniel Goleman about Emotional Intelligence, empathy, different styles of leadership, and emotional competency.

Below are some books by Daniel Goleman:

Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ

Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships

Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence

Altered Traits: Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain, and Body

In this episode, Alanis talks with Pia Mellody about codependence and addiction recovery as well as parenting and creating functional relationships.

Below are some books by Pia Mellody:

Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives

Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love 

The Intimacy Factor: The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth, Respect, and Lasting Love

Additional information:

Pia developed the Developmental Model of Immaturity which is used by the Meadows where she is a Senior Fellow.

In this episode, Alanis talks with Byron Katie about Self Inquiry.

Below are some books by Byron Katie:

Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

I Need Your Love - Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead

A Thousand Names for Joy: Living in Harmony with the Way Things Are

Who Would You Be Without Your Story? Dialogues with Byron Katie

A Mind at Home with Itself: How Asking Four Questions Can Free Your Mind, Open Your Heart, and Turn Your World Around

Additional resources:

Free worksheet mentioned in the podcast by Byron Katie.

In this episode, Alanis talks with Dr. Alexandra Katehakis about sex addiction.

Below are some books by Dr. Alexandra Katehakis: 

Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex After Recovery from Sex Addiction 

Sex Addiction as Affect Dysregulation: A Neurobiologically Informed Holistic Treatment (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)

Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence

Making Advances: A Comprehensive Guide for Treating Femail Sex and Love Addicts