In This Episode: 

• There are all sorts of ways to handle custody agreements. In the best-case scenario, we would hopefully be able to resolve custody with some sort of parenting agreement or separation agreement.
• How do you enforce a contract? First of all, what do you need to have a contract? You need two reasonable people, even though they both have a position they want, are willing to (not necessarily meet in the middle) but compromise.
•  We talk about the differences between a parenting agreement and a separation agreement.
• There is not a template for custody. People have different needs specific to their family, different temperaments, what is important to them, mental health issues, etc.
• We discuss what happens when one party breaches the contract. 
• Who controls the decisions for your children, especially when it affects the other parent? What are ways to navigate these issues?
• We discuss what terms you can include in your custody or separation agreements.
• What happens when your ex starts to date? Can you control whether or not they bring their significant others around your children? The answer might surprise you.
• If you came into contact with certain issues in your marriage it is likely that similar or the same issues will show up in your co-parenting relationship. 
• We talk about the role of parenting coordinators and their role in separation agreements and parenting agreements.
• We discuss what a court order is and how it can be useful when people don't hold up their end of the agreement.
• It's important to document issues that come up with your custody arrangement with your spouse, keep good factual records not a record of your feelings. "You call your friends you text your ex." 

Links To Things I Talk About: 

• The origin of the phrase "Mind your Ps and Qs."
• If you're listening and you think you might need a parenting agreement or can, or it's all issues, separation agreement, then, talk to your attorney or us. Or if there are issues already with co-parenting really consider doing a custody consent order.

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