Date Your Wife

In this week's podcast, Garrett and Danielle are back at it again as they have a conversation about the seduction game and the importance of knowing what your partner needs; otherwise, the sexual victim card gets played.

Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication

In This Week's Podcast….SEX Point #1: Seduction and Sex

• In the conversation of seduction, Danielle shares how seducing Garrett can be as simple as her walking through the room wearing some cute, lace panties or slowly undressing, whereas seeing Garrett confident and in his element is far more seductive and sexy to her than watching him prance around in a thong.
• Doing your business in private vs doing it with the door wide open proves to be a spicy topic. When playing the game, "Things That Guarantee You Will Not Get Laid," the friend zone, tampons, hairy ass cheeks, and the naggy bitch mode top the list.

QUESTION

What tops your couple's list of Things That Guarantee You Will Not Get Laid?

Point #2: Tracking and Lacking

• Back when their marriage was a shit show, Danielle thought the only reason Garrett was helping out was to get laid, which was actually true. He felt he had earned sex because of all of the things he was doing for her. She noticed the difference in his energy and attitude when they had sex vs when she withheld sex from him.
• Garrett found himself in an isolation and desperation game while tracking how much sex they weren't having. As a man who had been successful in breaking the codes in his businesses, Garrett was trying to figure out how to break his wife's code, hoping his gifts to her would result in a blow job for him. Danielle was pissed because he was tracking, Garrett was pissed because his sex life was lacking.

QUESTION

In what ways is your relationship similar to their "shit show" years?

Point #3: The Leverage Game

• A man tends to leverage money and power to get sex, whereas a woman will leverage sex to get the power she wants. Garrett felt hurt and angry for being rejected sexually, while Danielle continually had her guard up and felt like she was always walking on eggshells.
• Garrett's constant challenge became: When is my wife going to want me? He began strategizing, which backfired and began killing the attraction between them. Danielle was watching from the sidelines and figured he was a ticking time bomb.

QUESTION

How are you playing the Leverage Game in your marriage?

Point #4: Men: Take the Sexual Victim Card Off the Table

• Although Danielle and Garrett existed in a space better than war, it wasn't victory – it was a place where he needed to get laid, and she wanted peace in the house. Sex became awkward. When men become more powerful in business, they also become more sexually charged.
• Being completely consumed with the frustration, anger, fear and doubt around this topic of sex, and constantly being rejected, Garrett became a sexual victim. As a married man 100% committed to his wife, until he could stop the war between he and Danielle, he began neutralizing the playing field by handling his needs himself via a sex tool.

QUESTION

What space are you existing in as a couple?

Point #5: Submit and Surrender

• While Danielle agreed she was being a bitch about withholding sex, Garrett admits he was being a dick and complete asshole by withholding time and energy from her. He would deliberately set up situations for Danielle to fail so he could feel like he had control.
• Garrett remembers the day he submitted to the reality that Danielle needed him to show up and give a shit as a husband and as a lover, even if he wasn't getting laid. He was going to direct all of his energy towards her and not hold her hostage anymore. He felt that by giving her space, he would show her that he wanted her as a person, beyond her body, and that he was ALL IN.

QUESTION

What are the ways you hold your spouse hostage? What behaviors could you let go of that would be a game changer in your relationship?

Communication Challenge:

Talk about and demonstrate the ways you love seducing and being seduced.

Date Night Topic:

Do you use Garrett's formula of TTF? Or a different formula? Talk about the formulas that work for you in your marriage.

Quote of the Week:

"People would look at us as this attractive couple and I was like fuck that! I've got a g*ddamn frozen ice block barbie in a box goin' on. I don't get to touch it – nothing! It's like a doll that I get to look at. I'm like a dog on a leash that's held just past where the hamburger is sitting, and I'm not ever getting it. And if I do take a bite, I get beat with a fuckin' stick."

—Garrett J White

"You promote me, you talk about me, you say I'm your Queen, so show me! Come over to my side and show me that what you're preaching is true. If you believe in me, if you believe in my business, if you believe in my vision, then jump on board with me!"

—Danielle White

Garrett and Danielle have a conversation about the three components necessary in order to create favorable conditions for communication inside your marriage.

Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication

In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: The Mirror in the Closet

• Danielle has a mirror and bench inside her closet which comes in handy for the "get it done" sex. "It's a good view for us both: He's got his mirror and I've got my shoes," says Danielle. Garrett: It's awesome. Not only is it great sex, but it's also visual content and stimulus for my mind for days.

QUESTION

How can you spice up your "get it done" sex?

Point #2: Date Your Wife Podcast

• Garrett came to Danielle last year at this time and told her they were going to be doing a weekly podcast called Date Your Wife. They are ready to hit their 50th episode which represents at least 25 hours of communication.
• Garrett: The podcast was a favorable condition that we created with time, energy, and money, and has proven to be the best therapy of all time for us.

QUESTION

What favorable conditions have you created in order to have better communication with your spouse?

Point #3: Lacking Sex?

• If you're a guy and sex is not happening, it's a guarantee that what is also not happening is communication – direct, intimate communication which is the ability to communicate and connect.
• If you have not invested time, energy, or money to create those conditions, then you also cannot be entitled to the results that come through sex and connection.

QUESTION

Where in your relationship are you investing money and energy, but not time?

Point #4: Date Night

• You must create favorable conditions for communication on your dates. If you are always going out with friends and family for your Date Nights, that is not an environment where the two of you are able to have deep, intimate conversation.
• Garrett enjoys getting together with other couples about once a month, but anything more than is too much, even if they're good friends because it turns into Team Girls and Team Guys instead of the one-on-one time together that they are desiring on their dates.

QUESTION

What has been your Date Night pattern?

Point #5: Time, Energy, and Money

• If you're going to create communication, you must be willing to create favorable conditions for communication. You're going to have to invest time, energy, and money at some level, whatever it is.
• Many men will not invest the time and energy, but will invest the money, or will invest the time and energy, but not invest any money. All three components of the Trifecta must be present.

QUESTION

What portion of the Trifecta are you missing?

Communication Challenge:

Figure out how you're going to create favorable conditions for communication inside your marriage.

Date Night Topic:

What can you add to your sex life to spice up those times when you have the "let's get it done" sex?

Quote of the Week:

"You must be willing to invest to create favorable conditions for communication to exist."

—Garrett J White

"Women look to men for safety and security. In reaching for that safety and security you have to look inward and realize that you are part of creating your own safety and security inside of that relationship."

—Danielle K White

Garrett channels his inner DJ for this week's Date Your Wife podcast where he and Danielle talk about some problems they're facing in the parenting department with their once snuggly-cuddly seventh grader, and also share some of the victories they're experiencing with Garrett's nineteen-year-old son.

Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication

In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Cell Phone Game Changer

• Cell phones have changed the game for kids, forcing them to grow up much faster and at the same time, they're NOT growing up. They've gotten really good at being able to communicate via text, but they haven't learned how to commutate face-to-face.
• Danielle recalls waiting for boys to call her when she was in Junior High. She was nervous and sweating, hoping she wouldn't sound like a dork or stutter. Today, it's a matter of text, erase, edit, and send.

QUESTION

How has communication changed since you were a teen?

Point #2: Bed Time Shenanigans

• The bed-time routine at the White household can sometimes look more like a shit show, with their seventh grader going into psycho mode while Garrett takes away her cell phone.
• Unbeknownst to Garrett who is in the middle of a yelling match in one room, Danielle is in another other room consoling their seven-year-old who has a pillow over her ears saying, "I hate this part!"

QUESTION

What does your bed time routine look like?

Point #3: Old School Discipline

• When their oldest daughter back-talks Danielle, Garrett wonders if her mother would have tolerated that behavior. As a seventh grader, Danielle remembers being backhanded by her mother while they were driving.
• As an eighth-grader, Garrett found himself wandering the streets of their new city for four hours after his mom kicked him out of the van for fighting with his siblings. That was before cell phones.

QUESTION

How do your discipline techniques differ from those of your parents?

Point #4: Jump Through the Windows

• Danielle: When kids are little, they operate on your agenda; when they turn into teenagers, you operate on their agenda – that's your window in. In order to gain that connection, I'm constantly looking for my windows.
• Garrett: We have some traction in her world. The key is being present with what her issues are and what's going on in her world. Perhaps we actually do know what we're doing.

QUESTION

What can you do to be more aware of those little windows of opportunity to connect with your children?

Point #5: Navigating the Parental Waters of Divorce

• It was only a couple years ago that Garrett's nineteen-year-old son wouldn't talk to him. Today, he is an integral part of the Warrior landscape as he and Garrett forge a new relationship that has recently included bringing Garrett's ex-wife and her family into the picture.
• A family intervention during the Warrior Woman event in the summer of 2018 proved not only healing but life transforming as Garrett and his ex-wife were able to take radical responsibility, let go of stories, and come to a peaceful place, demonstrating that anything is possible.

QUESTION

How are navigating the waters of parental divorce?

Communication Challenge:

Have a discussion about the challenges cell phones have brought into your family.

Date Night Topic:

How can you better support each other in how you parent? Brainstorm different ideas and strategies and choose one or two to begin implementing.

Quote of the Week:

"The emotional fortitude of children isn't what it used to be. Kids today are growing up intellectually very quickly, with great articulation and communication, but emotionally they're going backward."

—Garrett J White

"Because you are so mad and so bitter, and are not dealing with your own shit and your own stories, it is ultimately holding you back."

—Danielle K White

As highly successful producers, Danielle and Garrett have a conversation about their business growth, their goals for the upcoming year, and how they are going to simplify the game moving forward.

Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication

In This Week's Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Cleaning House

• Danielle spent a portion of the year stepping outside of her business, watching it explode in growth, but at the same time, she realizes she may have stepped out a little too far.
• The goal of 2019 inside of Wake Up Warrior is to unify the men, tighten up the game, and simplify it.

QUESTION

What areas of your life can you tighten up as we head into 2019?

Point #2: The Money Game

• During the early years of their marriage, Danielle and Garrett were both working; Garrett was paying the bills and Danielle was stockpiling money.
• While Danielle's father paid the bills, her mother paid for their lifestyle. Garrett's parents had the agreement that his mom would stay home with the kids, which she wanted to do, and his father would pay the bills.

QUESTION

What role did your parents play in the money game when you were growing up? What role do you play?

Point #3: Mommy Guilt

• Many women wonder how they can work because it will take time away from their kids. It's Danielle's belief that working makes women less crazy.
• Danielle: If you feel like you want to pursue those passions and talents of yours, do it. It's my belief that it makes you a different and better person.

QUESTION

As a wife and mother, what would be possible for your life if you began pursuing some of your passions and talents outside of the home?

Point #4: Different AND Equal

• Back in the day, the economic engine of life was the home where both the man andthe woman were producers. Upon the arrival of the Industrial Revolution, a rift took place within the fabric of the home.
• The trend that Garrett sees happening inside of this conversation of money is that women are seeing themselves as a vital piece of the production game, and at the same time, they don't want to do it alone.

QUESTION

How do you view your roles as producers?

Point #5: Power and Stress

• A lot of men begin to feel inadequate if their wives are working; it's very frightening for them. They are weak men who get threatened by their wives having any kind of power.
• Garrett's goal and target is to always make 10x more than Danielle. Danielle: Garrett deserves to make ten times the amount I do because I'm not willing to take on that stress.

QUESTION

As a man, how are your feelings of inadequacy affecting your relationship with your wife?

Communication Challenge:

Have a discussion about your current roles inside of your marriage. What would you like to change as you move into 2019?

Date Night Topic:

What are your passions and desires as a couple? What would you like to do together in 2019? Get out your calendars and start making plans.

Quote of the Week:

"If a woman controls sex AND money, it leaves a guy in a very interesting place. He has to be very confident and certain as a man."

—Garrett J White

"Maybe I could have been the best damn version of me had I not worked, but In my experience, me working has made our relationship better."

—Danielle K White

The White's have a conversation about their nine-day sex drought.

Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication

In This Week's Podcast….SEX Point #1: Drought

• After experiencing a miscarriage earlier this year, Danielle wondered if she and Garrett had lost the fun in their sex life, even though they were both enjoying the 'let's-try-for-another-baby' sex
• The time change, an increased workload, massive changes within their businesses, and Garrett turning Danielle down for the first time in their 17 year marriage, have all led to their current drought.

QUESTION

What is contributing to the droughts you're experiencing?

Point #2: One For The Team

• When it's been a while, Garrett tends to go into this retreat mode where he doesn't even try to initiate sex with Danielle.
• Garrett: When we experienced a drought in the past, I would begin thinking I was in the wrong relationship. Now, I just torch the shit out of people in business.

QUESTION

Where do you place your energy when you're in a drought?

Point #3: The Slip and Drift

• Garrett: If we're three days into having sex twice a day on vacation, I'm that guy who could use a couple of days of rest.
• When they're experiencing a drought, Danielle begins to lose that attraction factor, and both she and Garrett begin to feel that loss of attraction.

QUESTION

What actions do you take to get back that attraction factor?

Point #4: Universal Hot-Crazy Matrix

• Garrett played a video during the show called The Universal Hot-Crazy Matrix. You have your crazy axis and your hot axis. Hot is measured from 0 to 10, and Crazy is measured from 4 to 10.
• You've got your No-Go Zone, your Fun Zone, your Date Zone, your Wife Zone, and your Unicorn Zone. Garrett: Danielle's a Unicorn: 4 Crazy and 14 Hot.

QUESTION

Where is your spouse inside this matrix?

Point #5: Just F***ing Do It!

• At about seven days into a drought, most men begin to unplug from their wife. The best thing a couple could do at this point is to just have sex; just fucking do it.
• During the podcast, Garrett and Danielle venture into a little sex talk foreplay with both committing to ending the drought after the show.

QUESTION

Where is your favorite place to end the drought?

Communication Challenge:

What would be possible for your relationship if you were to have a plan in place the next time a drought crops up out of seemingly nowhere?

Date Night Topic:

Have some fun with this: Universal Hot-Crazy Matrix

Quote of the Week:

"When I turned you down for the first time in seventeen years and said I'm too tired, I think that hurt you, yet I've heard the same thing from you four thousand times!"

—Garrett J White

"When I feel a drift, that's usually when I bring out the morning sex weapon. Recognize the drift and correct it, otherwise, no relationship will work out."

—Danielle K White

In this week's Date Your Wife Podcast, Danielle and Garrett have a conversation about their conflicting parenting strategies – as well as possible solutions – as they reveal real-life challenges.

Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication

In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Permission to Pursue Your Passion

• Danielle: I was raised as a Mormon where I felt like I had to be this perfect mom. If I work, I better figure out how to balance it all. As a result, there has been a lot of mommy guilt as I've tried to create a balance between all of the hats I'm wearing. One day the Voice said to me, "You will impact way more people if you pursue this passion [hair]." I've discovered that by pursuing my passion, I ultimately affect my children.
• Garrett: There tends to be a war within women – women who produce and work outside the home, and women who work only inside the home. Both of these sides tend to throw stones at each other. At the end of the day, it's not about whether you produce outside or inside of the home. At some level as a woman, you have to give yourself permission to pursue a passion or purpose beyond your children.

QUESTION

As a couple, how do you feel about your wife pursuing her passions in addition to raising a family?

Point #2: If-Then Scenario

• When asked by Garrett if she believes that producing outside the home makes her a better mom, Daniellereplied: I don't know. I know I'm a better me, but sometimes I feel like a shitty mom. There are moments as a kid that mold us. As much as I feel like I'm fucking up, hopefully, I have enough of those moments of me leading and guiding other women or of just being me where they're going to say "I want to be like my mom."
• Garrett: She would only be giving a quarter of who she is to her children if she wasn't working. They would never see a woman taking a stand for her life. I know she's a better mother because she's a better producer. But this doesn't mean that every single woman listening to this must launch a business to be a better mom. At the end of the day, the key phrase is, as you are becoming better as a woman, then the relationship you have as a parent ultimately expands by default.

QUESTION

Do you believe you're a better mom because you do or because you do not work outside of the home?

Point #3: Conflicting Parenting Strategies

• Garrett: You and I are very different people. As a result, we have very different parenting strategies. When there's a problem with our kids, I collide and conflict with them, while you pretend it's not there. Your parenting strategy is to literally ignore and hold out and wait for the storm to pass. Your game is: The tsunami is coming, get to high ground.
• Danielle: When you get mad and yell at our girls, my thought is, "Garrett, they're girls. Don't yell at them like that!" When the girls are crazy emotional, I ignore them. When I'm pissed, my thoughts are: Just get out of my way, just let me be pissed. As girls, we tend to have more of an emotional side. So when I see that the girls have flipped their lid – and I can't get reel them back in no matter what I say – I know I need to give them space.

QUESTION

What are your parenting stratetgies?

Point #4: Assasin Attack vs Retreat to Higher Ground

• Garrett: I have a different strategy: I don't ignore it. When the tsunami comes, I run down like Spartan 300 to hell's gate against a million people and I wage war on the ensuing enemy. I can see the same crazy spot where the storm cannot be negotiated with, but the difference is, I come in like an assassin in the night and grab the situation by the horns.
• Danielle is uncomfortable with conflict, while Garrett is uncomfortable with sitting and allowing the storm to brew. "Danielle's picture of parenting is us running to high ground. I see that and I pee on it. My parenting plan is my wife's got war paint on her face, she's wielding a sword and a shield, and I'm yelling, "Woman, we're going to the front line!" I start running and when I look back, she's squatting and peeing on my parenting plan."

QUESTION

How are you relating to Danielle's and Garrett's differences in parenting strategies?

Point #5: Walk and Talk

• Garrett: If the challenge is my daughter is a lot like me, here's the reality: If I had to get out of bed and then 15 minutes later had to be at school or work or anywhere, I'd be fucking crazy too. Last night, I asked my daughter to go for a walk. We held hands, we talked about how dad is crazy in the morning, and how I noticed she's also experiencing a lot of crazy in the morning.
• We've implemented The Walk and Talk with our daughter, and I've also brought it to the Warrior brotherhood: You go for a 30-minute walk with your child, you hold hands, and just let them talk. The whole focus is to let them get their feelings out, to validate those feelings, and to throw yourself under the bus, thus giving your child the chance to be ok with being human.

QUESTION

Do you have a child where investing in a daily Walk and Talk would make a world of difference for them?

Communication Challenge:

What are your parenting strategies? If they are causing collision and confusion in your relationship and in your family, how you can unite them?

Date Night Topic:

Have a conversation centered around your wife pursuing her passions beyond that of a being a wife and a mother.

Quote of the Week:

"For the guys out there, if I am a leader in my home, then this means I must also take the lead as a man on the parenting side, which means I've also got to take a stand for their greatness and in their weakness."

—Garrett J White

"I'm kind of an introvert, yet I believe if you find something you're passionate about, you can outgrow the person you think you are. For me, getting outside of my comfort zone is a new high that fuels me."

Garrett and Danielle have a conversation about momentum in this week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast. It has taken many years for the White's to get to a place where they are experiencing momentum in all areas of their life and share with their listening audience through stories and experiences what has brought them to the place where, only a few short years ago, they wondered if they would even make it.

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Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication

In This Week's Podcast…MONEY Point #1: Tipping Point

• Danielle feels like her business has hit a tipping point, leading her to the conclusion that it's the small things in life that push people forward.
• She questions why so many people are not consistent with those small things that create momentum, knowing they would ultimately lead them to the outcomes they desire.

QUESTION

Where in your world have you experienced the momentum of the tipping point?

Point #2: Marriage Is a Lifestyle

• Anything great takes a fucking long time to build. When people see the White's and their success, they begin wanting that in their marriage and become frustrated when it doesn't happen on their timetable.
• Garrett: The number of years that you were a dumb-ass and caused a lack of momentum or momentum in the wrong or weak direction, is not going to be turned around in two days. The fundamental disciplined habits must be changed and maintained over time.

QUESTION

How can you demonstrate more patience in your marriage?

Point #3: Merry-Go-Round

• Marriage is like a Merry-Go-Round: It takes great effort to get it moving at first as you grab on with both hands and push hard. Pretty soon you can give it a little push and it keeps going because momentum has kicked in.
• Inside of marriage, many people kill the momentum by quitting before they hit the tipping point. Others experience momentum but take their eyes off the prize, losing the edge and the momentum they have gained.

QUESTION

Where is your relationship within this conversation of the Merry-Go-Round?

Point #4: Gaining Momentum

• The fastest way to gain momentum is to start going on dates every single week. Start taking your wife on Date Nights and each day send her notes of love, honor, and appreciation. She's got to know that these are not going to stop.
• Momentum is built inside of your marriage and business when you build up momentum inside of yourself. Garrett and Danielle are at a point where, when they collide, there is so much momentum, certainty, and power within each of them that neither one of them can stop the other.

QUESTION

What can you do to start gaining or increasing momentum in your relationship?

Point #5: Character and Contrast

• During sticky phases, you're doing the work yet are becoming more bitter and angry towards one another. These are the times you must shift your energy. Once you have that momentum, do the little things to maintain that momentum.
• Garrett loves the different characters and looks of Danielle from her formal look in Louis Vuitton's to her ponytail and Lulu pants. Danielle loves Garrett in a suit but finds him especially sexy when he wears a t-shirt and jeans.

QUESTION

What are the different looks of your partner that take your breath away?

Communication Challenge:

Have a conversation about the Flywheel Effect.

Date Night Topic:

What are some things you can do for each other to gain or maintain momentum within your relationship?

Quote of the Week:

"Business and marriage fall apart for the same reason: people let go of momentum OR they don't have the courage to keep pushing to even get to the point where momentum can begin."

–Garrett J White

"Sometimes we want to look at our business and marriage separately, but taking some of those business tactics and applying them to marriage isn't that far off."

–Danielle K White

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In this week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, Danielle and Garrett explore their Dark side, and share how embracing both the Dark and the Light has given them the freedom to find harmony inside of their relationship, within themselves, and with humanity.

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Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication

In This Week's Podcast… Point #1: Jekyll and Hyde

• Danielle: Everyone is raised to put themselves in a box. As you get comfortable with yourself, you own EVERY side of yourself, including the crazy, but you learn how to manifest the crazy in a productive way.
• Garrett: Most people cannot accept that there are literally two sides to them. I spent most of my life putting who I was, away: my desires, the anger, the rage, the fire, the questions, the sexual desire.

QUESTION

What is it about you that you are you hiding in a box?

Point #2: Super Power

• Danielle: I can't operate as Susan all of the time, so it's literally learning how to cohesively live together with your multiple personalities. It's learning how to be cool with yourself and tapping into this dark, crazy side of you, looking at it as your Superpower. Ex: I gotta handle some shit in business, so Dark Susan's coming out. I gotta be a wife and a lover, so Danielle's coming out.
• Garrett: Relationship is the ability for a person to be able to be ALL of themselves in a relationship. My mission for myself and for Danielle was to be able to figure out how to be ALL of ourselves. There's Dark Susan sex, and there's Danielle sex – totally different sex, both are amazing. As we become more adaptable to ourselves, I think our relationship blows up in a big, beautiful way.

QUESTION

How do you handle ALL of you? How do you use the different parts of you to your advantage?

Point #3: Critical Bitch

• Garrett: Danielle has an aspect to her that I deeply love now but that I hated and loathed for most of our marriage, until the last four to five years. This side is what I considered to be Critical Bitch. Whatever was going on, there was always this chipping away, and for most of our relationship I thought, "Fucking crazy woman."
• Anything to do with Danielle's dark side was viewed as wrong, broken, over-thinking. What I had viewed as critical, all of a sudden become powerful. She had the ability to see things clearly amidst the chaos, and not be sucked in by emotion.

QUESTION

What have you previously viewed as wrong or broken in your spouse, but now view as powerful?

Point #4: Embrace the Dark AND the Light

• Garrett: When you start accepting that this is true inside of you – the Diabolical AND the Divine – when you accept that this is true about you, when you come to terms with and embrace and love both sides of you, you start to love and appreciate humanity and people around you at a level you never could before because you're not fucking hiding anymore.
• Inside Wake Up Warrior, Warrior Woman, and Big Money Stylist, we lead individuals on this path that accepts the true power of who you are on both extremes: in the Dark AND in the Light, in the Night AND in the Light, so they can ultimately gain the purest sight of being able to see truth.

QUESTION

What part of you are you suppressing and not embracing?

Point #5: Submission vs Sedation

• Danielle: How do I get to the end result I'm looking for in a particular situation? What are the steps required? It always requires submission at some level. Ultimately, I'm happier and get what I want. That overall feeling is better than retreating and closing down. Sedation can be a sneaky little bastard, and it can come in many forms.
• Garrett: Most couples don't want to submit, so they sedate. They go to whatever they need to in order to avoid having to collide: they eat, drink, pop pills, ignore, delve into fitness. People go to religion to justify the shitty relationship they're in; that somehow it will be magical when they die.

QUESTION

Where inside of your relationship are you sedating to avoid collision?

Communication Challenge:

How has your upbringing affected your ability to embrace both the Darkness and the Light within you?

Date Night Topic:

Have a conversation about your particular Crazy. What is the name of your Dark side?

Quote of the Week:

"Individually, if you do not come to terms with the fact that you have a brilliant side that is filled with light, AND you have a brilliant side that is filled with Night, that your Crazy offsets your Creator, and that your Creator cannot exist without your Crazy; until you can come to terms with yourself on this, you will never find harmony long-term in a relationship with any other person, specifically with your wife."

–Garrett J White

"I think people sedate their blessing. They think their blessing is their curse, so they sedate the thing that can actually give them power. What if you looked at these things as a blessing and not a curse? What if you used these to learn how to navigate through life instead of sedating what God gave you as 'different?' What if you learned how to use it to your benefit?"

–Danielle K White

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This week's episode is from the recent Warrior Wealth for Women event in Dana Point, California, where Garrett and Danielle trained over 300 women in the art of making, keeping, and growing money.

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Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication

In This Week's Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Greedy Bitch?

• Many people sacrifice everything for their business and end up broken and run down. A lot of people think that money doesn't matter, or the if they do say it matters, they're looked upon as a greedy bitch.
• You can only sacrifice so much before there's nothing left. Heart and sacrifice don't pay the bills, and no one is coming to save you.

QUESTION

Where in your world are you sacrificing and have nothing left?

Point #2: Doormat Dora

• When you surround yourself with people and clients who don't value you, who don't value your service, and who don't value your time, you end up feeling like a doormat.
• When you begin finding value in yourself, things begin to shift, and you start making new choices that align with the new level of value you see in yourself.

QUESTION

As you take a look inside your life, who are you surrounding yourself with?

Point #3: Magic in the Moments

• There is a voice inside of you that will guide you through the war with yourself. God happens to be the closest spectator to spar with, to make you strong enough to go to war with you.
• Look into the moments that occur, the moments that shift things forever, where the voice says, "Consider this." Listen for the moments where truth is laid out for you exactly how you need to hear it.

QUESTION

What magic moments are you hearing right now?

Point #4: Value the Shit Out of Yourself

• When your calling, vision, and purpose are clear, you can become rest-less as you have this relentless yearning to run towards your goals.
• As we prune and purge our lives, and begin valuing the shit out of ourselves, the clients and friendships we lose are the shit we are cleaning out of our systems and lives.

QUESTION

Where in your world do you need to do some house cleaning in order to create some space?

Point #5: Who Must I Become?

• If you're raising the bar for yourself, can you honestly say you're giving the best possible experience that you know how to give?
• Every day, you must kill yourself and become the next new version you, one step at a time. A new purpose must burn inside your heart; you hunt the money to find the next version of yourself.

QUESTION

What is the vision you have for yourself?

Communication Challenge:

Have a conversation around this idea of Magic in the Moments.

Date Night Topic:

What vision do you have for you as a couple inside this topic of Money?

Quote of the Week:

"Consider the purpose of your life is expansion; that money, marriage, and children are the trifecta of expansion."

–Garrett J White

"You have to be able to produce in order to find the next version of yourself."

–Danielle K White

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On the heels of a fabulous weekend getaway to New York City, Danielle and Garrett have a conversation about the importance of taking time away from their children and their day-to-day responsibilities, and reconnecting with each other as a couple on a deeper level.

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Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication

In This Week's Podcast….Sex Point #1: Weekend Getaways

• At least four times a year, Garrett and Danielle take long weekend trips to reset their relationship.
• Before Garrett began committing to these getaways, he was unable to see the ROI in them. For ten years, he had a difficult time reconciling spending money on any types of vacations.

QUESTION

When was the last time you and your spouse went on a weekend getaway?

Point #2: Refresh and Unplug

• In the Strategic Coach program, Dan Sullivan created the Entrepreneur Time System. Inside of that, you have Focus Days, Buffer Days, and Free Days.
• When you go on weekend getaways, there are a couple of things that have to happen: 1- you must be able to refresh, and 2- you must be able to unplug.

QUESTION

What do you and your spouse do in order to come away refreshed from these getaways?

Point #3: Can't vs Can

• You'll always find something that can get in the way of taking time away from the kids in order to be with each other; you don't have time, the conditions aren't right, it's either all or nothing.
• A lot of times, we focus on what we can't do instead of what we can do. If your marriage is in a rough place, it's even easier to justify why you can't do something.

QUESTION

What excuses can you clear away in order to make room for weekend vacations with your spouse?

Point #4: Sexual Distance

• When Danielle feels like they're in a weird place, she thinks back to the time when they were dating. "What were the behaviors I was doing that I don't do anymore?"
• Garrett: If you have some distance sexually, it's very easy to get stuck in a routine where you start going through these phases: anticipation, desperation, fuck you, and apathy.

QUESTION

What are some things you did when you were dating that you're no longer doing?

Point #5: Primal Connection

• If you don't get space away from your current environment, you can't return to the primal nature that actually connected you in the beginning. If
• you're not connecting regularly, you end up inside of a stale relationship where you're simply partners in the game, sans the lust and the primal connection.

QUESTION

What are you doing to retain and ignite the primal connection you felt when you first met and dated your spouse?

Communication Challenge:

Take a walk down memory lane and reminisce about the things you loved doing together when you first met and while you were dating.

Date Night Topic:

Get your calendars out and plan your weekend getaways for the next 12 months.

Quote of the Week:

"I'm constantly creating opportunities inside of our relationship to have space away with Danielle."

–Garrett J White

"Let's hit the reset button before it gets too far into the fuck you mode."

–Danielle K White

Head over to Amazon to pick up your copy of the book, Be the Man. warriorbook.com, dkwstyling.com, wakeupwarriorwoman.com