In this episode I talk with Kari Lu Cowell, not only about non-monogamy, but soulmates, monogamous conditioning, whether or not you should start your non-monogamous relationship in the beginning of your relationship or if you should build a monogamous foundation first, and so much more!

Kari Lu Cowell is a Dating Coach for Nerds. She helps people feel authentically comfortable and confident with dating so they can find the relationships of their dreams. She works with all relationship desires, specializing in people who seek non-traditional relationships like kink, BDSM, ethical non-monogamy, Sugar Daddy/sugar baby, etc. Having dabbled in all of those things for the past two decades, Kari leads with an open heart and an open mind. With her background in therapy and trauma informed wellness, along with her core value of play, Kari brings a unique mix of mindfulness, psychology, and fun to all of her teachings. Outside of her coaching, Kari loves reading, axe throwing, pole dancing, Doctor Who, connecting with others, and her dog Beau.

www.facebook.com/groups/datingfordorks

www.instagram.com/karilucoaching

https://bookme.name/DatingforDorks

https://mailchi.mp/ea8220097497/dungeons-and-dating

Bullet points of key topics & time stamps: 

• 2:30- Labels
• 8:35- Ethical Non-Monogamy
• 13:37- Jealousy
• 20:43- Monogamy as a Foundation
• 28:58- NRE and Balancing Partners Needs
• 34:01- Opening Up Sexually
• 35:57- Social Perceptions
• 37:42- Threesomes
• 41:48- Relationship Dynamics and Communication
• 45:47- Kari’s Coaching

List of resources mentioned in episode: 

● Polysecure by Jessica Fern https://amzn.to/3ymbhjA

● Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller 

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