DBT and Me

Welcome to the first Mega Q & A episode where 8 listener questions are answered! Kate and Michelle answer questions about processing overwhelming emotions, irritability as a stay-at-home mom, taking a break from marijuana use, ruminating on previous conversations, coping with divorce, workplace trauma, practicing skills when not in a crisis, and if it's okay to learn DBT on your own. 

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If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: 
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Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandme

Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandme

You can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcast

Check out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)

If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Kate and Michelle each share personal examples of how they have noticed dialectics in their own lives recently and how their personal examples can be applied more broadly to dialectics that many people may experience. 

You can sign up for Diana's online DBT community by going to this link: https://www.dbtforlife.com/dbt-for-life-community

Support the show

Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkout): https://www.guilford.com/dbtme

If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: 
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617

Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandme

Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandme

You can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcast

Check out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)

If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about feeling afraid to be happy, determining when coping skills are helpful, using DBT for gaslighting, and accepting strong feelings even when skills are being used. 

Support the show

Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkout): https://www.guilford.com/dbtme

If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: 
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617

Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandme

Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandme

You can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcast

Check out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)

If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Kate and Michelle are passionate about normalizing that there will inevitably be DBT skills that aren't a good fit for everyone and that you're not going to like every skill. In this episode, they each open up about 3 skills that they struggle to use and/or dislike. They went outside of their comfort zone to intentionally use each skill recently and they discuss what those experiences were like. They also share some suggestions for how you can successfully do the same in your own life with skills you struggle with. 

TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 11:02-11:11 and 15:33-15:40.

Support the show

Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkout): https://www.guilford.com/dbtme

If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: 
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617

Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandme

Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandme

You can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcast

Check out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)

If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Kate and Michelle share how they are currently using wise mind in their lives before discussing 3 updates they want to make to how they originally spoke about wise mind in episode 2. They end the episode by sharing 6 new ideas for how to find wise mind that they have not talked about before. 

Support the show

Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkout): https://www.guilford.com/dbtme

If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: 
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617

Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandme

Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandme

You can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcast

Check out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)

If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about dealing with invalidation from others, positive attributes of DBT facilitators, conversations with family members who ignore boundaries, managing obsessive thoughts about health anxiety. 

TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 24:00 to 25:17 

Support the show

Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkout): https://www.guilford.com/dbtme

If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: 
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617

Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandme

Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandme

You can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcast

Check out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)

If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Kate and Michelle talk about limerence (the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person) by answering a series of listener questions about the topic and discussing how DBT skills can help when this is being experienced.

Magic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time order at https://www.magicmind.com/DBTAPR20 by using code DBTAPR20 (make sure to use all caps!) at checkout. 

Support the show

Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkout): https://www.guilford.com/dbtme

If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: 
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617

Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandme

Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandme

You can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcast

Check out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)

If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Accepting the ending of any kind of relationship can be extremely challenging and filled with grief. Kate and Michelle share personal experiences of struggling with and practicing radical acceptance with friendship losses they've experienced in recent years. They also each share reflections on how radical acceptance can be practiced when a relationship ends and other DBT skills that may help. 

Magic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time order at https://www.magicmind.com/DBTMAR20 by using code DBMAR20 (make sure to use all caps!) at checkout. 

Support the show

Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkout): https://www.guilford.com/dbtme

If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: 
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617

Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandme

Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandme

You can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcast

Check out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)

If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

If you've been using DBT for awhile, you know that it can become difficult to maintain momentum and desire to keep using skills consistently. In this episode, Kate and Michelle discuss four common challenges that can arise as barriers to regular skill use: not thinking about DBT enough, feeling willful about using skills, struggles to establish a consistent routine with skills, and feeling burnt out by trying to do too much DBT at once. For each challenge, they share helpful tips on how to overcome it. 

Magic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time order at https://www.magicmind.com/DBT20 by using code DBT20 (make sure to use all caps!) at checkout. 

Support the show

Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkout): https://www.guilford.com/dbtme

If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: 
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617

Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandme

Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandme

You can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcast

Check out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)

If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Kate and Michelle discuss active passivity and apparent competence by first explaining each concept in-depth, followed by sharing personal examples and skills that can help with shifting into a place of healthier balance when struggles with these states take place. 

Support the show

Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkout): https://www.guilford.com/dbtme

If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: 
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617

Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandme

Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandme

You can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcast

Check out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)

If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]