Decoding Success with Matt LeBris

"It was 30 years ago. I should be over it by now." No, you shouldn't be. And you won't be, until you deal with it.

Terri Cole is back. She's a psychotherapist with 30 years in the chair, she's helped tens of thousands of people across the globe, and her new book, Father Wound, goes straight at the thing most of us have spent our whole lives working around.

This one got me. Five minutes in, I had homework. We get into why you can't skip the messy middle and jump straight to "he did the best he could," how the relationship with your father quietly shapes who you date, how you work, and why you can't stop proving yourself, and what it takes to be mended instead of just high-functioning. Terri also opens up about her own dad, including the story she didn't learn until after he died.

In this episode:

• Why you can't jump to grace, and what has to come first
• How to mourn the father you wanted so you can accept the one you got
• The question that changed everything for Terri: can you feel loved by the way he was capable of loving you?
• Why healing your father wound has nothing to do with your father (you don't even have to tell him)
• Why his changed behavior won't heal your wound
• The hidden signs of a father wound: people-pleasing, perfectionism, hyper-independence, and working for love
• "Co-wounding": how your other parent made it better or worse
• Why you either talk it out or act it out

If you've ever turned your pain into achievement and still felt like something was missing, this conversation is for you.

Get Terri's book, Father Wound: https://fatherwoundbook.com/ Pre-order and submit your receipt on the site to get access to Terri's 3-hour virtual retreat on October 24.

Connect with Terri Cole: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/terricoleny

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Laura Day has spent 45 years as a working intuitive... advising billion-dollar companies, predicting the 2008 recession, and counseling clients like Demi Moore and Brad Pitt. She's also a New York Times bestselling author of seven books, including her newest, The Prism. But none of that came easy. Laura built her career out of a childhood marked by suicide loss and dysfunction, and turned what most people would call trauma into a discipline she now teaches to CEOs and civilians alike.

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In this episode, we get into the real difference between intuition and anxiety (and why most people confuse the two), why intuition is data, not a feeling, and how to actually train it instead of just "trusting your gut." Laura breaks down why you can't think your way out of a pattern you're currently in, why "manifestation" as a buzzword might actually be disempowering you, and the deceptively simple practice she uses with every client: pick three goals, document what shows up, and do one thing differently, even if it feels ridiculous.

What we cover:

• The real difference between intuition and anxiety and why "actionable, accurate, and immediate" is the test
• Why intuition is data, not a feeling, and how to start documenting it
• Why you can't think outside the box you're in... you have to do something different
• The truth about synchronicity and manifestation, and why the "magical" language can actually disempower you
• Why the answer isn't inside you and where to actually look instead
• How one small changed habit (a different walk to work, wearing a different color) can shift your entire life
• The "sleep work" practice Laura does with her students to work on goals while asleep
• Why intuition isn't inherently good or bad and how it can work against you
• The one piece of advice Laura wants to be remembered for

If you've ever felt stuck repeating the same patterns — in relationships, work, or money — and wondered whether your gut is actually telling you something real, this conversation will change how you listen to yourself.

Grab Laura's new book, The Prism, linked below.

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If you feel anxious after a date, they're probably not your person.

Serena Kerrigan is a dating coach, content creator, and the author of the new book Let's Fucking Date. She has coached thousands of women to stop shrinking, stop performing, and start dating like they're the prize, because they are.

In this episode, Serena gets raw about the armor she built as "Serena F*cking Kerrigan": the confidence that carried her career but put up walls in her love life. We get into anxious attachment, why the right person feels like peace instead of butterflies, dating a younger man despite societal judgements, and how rethinking her dating standards led her to her person. This one cracked me open in a way I didn't expect.

Key takeaways:

→ Talk to yourself in the mirror. It feels corny, and it works.

→ Confidence that rejects before it gets rejected isn't confidence. It's a wall.

→ Anxiety after a date isn't a flaw in you. It's a signal about them.

→ The #1 trait to look for in a partner is safety, the freedom to be your raw self.

→ Adopt a "vacation mentality." Say yes to random sh*t and get out of your routine.

→ Date someone at face value, not for their potential.

→ Your dating standards should be about the foundation, not the flex.

→ Being the prize means setting boundaries and walking away from what doesn't serve you. Dating doesn't need to be survived. It needs a rebrand.

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Why do you keep ending up in the same relationship patterns, the same financial ceiling, the same health struggles — no matter how hard you try to change? In this episode, I sit down with Bruce Lipton, cell biologist and New York Times bestselling author of The Biology of Belief, to unpack the science behind why 95% of your life runs on subconscious programming you downloaded before age 7 and the three actual ways to rewrite it.

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We get into how your thoughts function as a broadcast field rather than something confined to your head, why cancer has more to do with disharmony than genetics, the real reason you might keep dating your father (or mother), and a self-hypnosis technique you can do in your sleep to change a 50-year-old belief in about 15 minutes. We close out talking about Darwin's theory of competition, why civilization is running on a broken program, and what Bruce wants to be remembered for.

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🔗 Bruce Lipton's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brucelipton 🔗 Bruce's Website: https://www.brucelipton.com/ 🔗 Bruce's New Book, Beyond Darwin: https://www.brucelipton.com/product/beyond-darwin/

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About Bruce Lipton: Bruce Lipton is a cell biologist, former medical school professor, and New York Times bestselling author of The Biology of Belief. His research on epigenetics helped pioneer the science of how belief and environment — not just genes — shape human biology. His newest book, Beyond Darwin, is out now.

What if the reason you can't get ahead financially has nothing to do with money and everything to do with the six areas of your life you've been ignoring to chase it?

Koya Webb is a wellness expert, author, and founder of the Well-Being Rituals movement. Her new book breaks down the seven areas of well-being — spiritual, emotional, mental, nutritional, physical, social, and financial (yes, financial is last) — and the science-backed rituals that rebuild each one from the ground up.

This conversation goes deep — from why Koya had to heal her obsession with "having it all figured out," to the moment she lost her mother and had to relearn how to grieve without numbing out. We get into transformational letter writing, breath healing, the rice experiment that proves your words carry energy, and why chasing perfection is actually sabotaging your well-being. If you've ever felt like success without peace is a hollow win, this one's for you.

Takeaways:

• Well-being isn't about having it figured out — it's about self-awareness, daily
• Financial well-being is last for a reason: chase it first and the other six collapse underneath it
• Emotions aren't the enemy — suppressed emotions become constriction, and constriction becomes disease
• Transformational letter writing lets you process pain without confronting the person who caused it
• "Stack your rituals" when you're in a season of grief — you don't need to do everything, just the next small thing
• Perfectionism doesn't fill your buckets — it drains them
• Chills are a spiritual "yes" — learn to listen to what your body already knows
• High-functioning doesn't mean healed — "I'm fine" is often the loudest sign you're not processing

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He doesn't marry the right woman; he marries at the right time. That single idea reframes almost everything about how we think we're supposed to find love.

Nelly Sudri is a matchmaker and dating coach who works with high-achieving men and women navigating love, timing, and compatibility in 2026. She joins us for a no-filter conversation about why "wife material" doesn't guarantee a ring, why society's shifting money dynamics are quietly wrecking relationships, and why most people's dating checklists are actually keeping them single.

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👉 In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why a man doesn't marry the "right" woman, he marries when he's ready, regardless of who's in front of him
• The real reason women out-earning their partners see higher divorce and infidelity rates
• Why most dating checklists backfire, and what "need to haves" vs. "nice to haves" actually looks like
• The difference between chemistry and compatibility and why you need both to make it work
• Why approaching someone in person still beats swiping, and the exact line that makes it easier
• What "cab light theory" reveals about timing in relationships
• Why the law of attraction isn't about what you want, it's about who you become
• The one habit Nelly says is a lost art in dating: just communicating

If you've ever felt confused about timing, money, or why the "right person" didn't work out, this conversation will help you see the pattern.

Nelly's Website: https://www.nellysudri.com/ Nelly's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nellysudri/?hl=en Nelly's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ask.nelly?lang=en

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Suzy Batiz built an empire, lost it twice, rebuilt it a third time — and last year, she almost lost it all again. This time, the fight wasn't legal. It was spiritual.

Suzy Batiz is the founder of Poo-Pourri, a bankruptcy-to-billion-dollar entrepreneur, and the creator of a new app called Supernatural, designed to help people uncover their life's purpose through the meaning of their name. Her new podcast, Holy Shit, launches this month.

In this episode, Suzy opens up — for only the second time publicly — about the moment a lender tried to force her out of her own company through a forbearance agreement that would have cost her the business, her voice, and her right to fight back. She walks through the 14-hour spiritual reckoning that led her to refuse to sign, the surprising reason the lender backed down, and why she ultimately chose not to sue for the tens of millions she was owed. Along the way, she and Matt dig into childhood trauma, the false stories we tell ourselves about God, the real meaning behind their names, and why she believes the obsession with "self" — self-development, self-healing, self-actualization — might be the very thing keeping people stuck.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why Suzy believes chasing specific goals can actually limit what's possible for your life
• The real story behind the forbearance agreement that almost cost her everything — and the 14-hour spiritual standoff that changed her mind
• Why she chose not to sue for $30–50 million, even after winning
• How the meaning behind her birth name shaped her entire career, without her realizing it
• The difference between "doing" your purpose and simply "being" it
• Why she believes narcissism is rooted in unhealed pain, not ego
• How studying the original Hebrew and Greek meanings of scripture changed the way she reads the Bible
• Why "look up" is the one piece of advice she wants to be remembered for

If you've ever built your identity around self-reliance and found yourself asking "is this really it?" — this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.

Links mentioned in this episode:

• Free Brand Call: https://freebrandcall.com/mattlebris/
• Matt's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matt_lebris/
• Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MattLeBris
• Matt's Website: https://mattlebris.com/
• Suzy's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suzybatiz/
• Suzy's Website: https://suzybatiz.com/
• Suzy's new podcast, Holy Shit (launching late July): COMING SOON!

Sometimes the life you're meant to live can't begin until the version of you clinging to safety falls apart.

Jade Shenker is a star of Netflix's Owning Manhattan, an entrepreneur, and an investor whose life looked successful from the outside. Behind the scenes, she was navigating betrayal, heartbreak, and eventually the devastating loss of her father... experiences that forced her to rebuild her identity from the inside out.

Getting cheated on became the catalyst for everything. Instead of allowing pain to harden her, Jade leaned into healing. From therapy and energy work to spirituality, grief, and learning to trust her intuition, she discovered that the hardest seasons of life often become the beginning of our greatest transformation.

What you'll hear in this conversation is how she stopped searching for validation from other people, why she believes every painful experience is preparing us for something greater, and the "hero's journey" mindset that completely changed the way she approaches adversity, relationships, and purpose.

Jade on Instagram

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In this episode you will:

• Discover how betrayal became the turning point that helped Jade rebuild her confidence and identity
• Learn why traditional talk therapy wasn't enough—and the healing modalities that transformed her life
• Hear how losing her father deepened her faith through unexpected signs, synchronicities, and a new relationship with grief
• Understand why seeking validation from others keeps us stuck, and how to begin trusting yourself again
• Rethink every painful chapter of your life through the lens of the hero's journey and why your greatest setback may actually be preparing you for your greatest purpose

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Most people don't feel lost because they lack direction. They feel lost because they've spent years becoming someone they thought they were supposed to be.

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In this deeply moving conversation, Monica Berg challenges one of the biggest assumptions we make about happiness, purpose, and success: that if we achieve enough, we'll eventually feel fulfilled. Instead, she argues that many of us are unknowingly living from our ego rather than our authentic selves, pursuing lives shaped by expectation instead of intention.

Together, we explore what it really means to reconnect with who you are beneath the conditioning. We discuss why so many high achievers still feel disconnected, how to recognize when you've drifted from your true self, and why trust, not control, is the foundation of a meaningful life.

If you've ever questioned your purpose, felt disconnected from yourself, struggled with change, or wondered why success hasn't brought lasting fulfillment, this conversation will give you a completely new perspective.

Connect with Monica Berg

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicarberg74/

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Website: https://www.rethinkitlove.com/

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to know if you're living the life you truly want or the life you've been conditioned to pursue
• Why so many successful people still feel lost, disconnected, and unfulfilled
• The difference between living from your ego versus living from your soul
• How childhood conditioning quietly shapes the decisions you make as an adult
• Why trust, not control, is the key to creating a more meaningful life
• The surprising reason change leads to greater happiness and fulfillment
• How to reconnect with your curiosity, intuition, and authentic self
• Why your greatest challenges may actually reveal your life's deepest purpose
• The mindset shift that helped Monica navigate raising a child with Down syndrome
• Practical ways to stop living for other people's expectations and start becoming who you were created to be

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In this episode of The Decoding Success Podcast, Matt sits down with renowned sexologist, therapist, and intimacy expert Chantelle Otten for a powerful conversation about self-love, intimacy, connection, identity, and what it truly means to find yourself again.

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Many people spend years searching for deeper relationships, more meaningful friendships, and lasting love without realizing that the relationship they are missing most is the one they have with themselves.

Chantelle explains why so many people feel disconnected in today's world, how fear, loneliness, people-pleasing, and external validation pull us away from ourselves, and why intimacy is about so much more than sex. Together, Matt and Chantelle explore the connection between self-awareness and healthy relationships, the importance of curiosity over certainty, and how the people in our lives often serve as mirrors reflecting both our strengths and our blind spots.

The conversation dives into therapy, attachment styles, resilience, self-discovery, friendship, grief, courage, and the surprising role that fun plays in living a fulfilling life.

Chantelle also shares deeply personal reflections on love, loss, her mother's final life lessons, and the reminder that success means very little if we forget to actually enjoy the life we're building.

If you've ever felt disconnected, lonely, stuck, misunderstood, or unsure of who you are becoming, this conversation offers a refreshing perspective on how to reconnect with yourself and create a life that feels more authentic, meaningful, and alive.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why so many people feel disconnected from themselves
• The surprising connection between intimacy and self-awareness
• How fear and external validation impact your relationships
• Why loneliness can exist even when you're surrounded by people
• The role friends play in helping us discover who we are
• How to receive feedback without losing yourself
• Why curiosity is essential for personal growth
• The difference between confidence and courage
• How healthy relationships act as mirrors for self-discovery
• Why self-love requires action, not just affirmation
• The impact of grief, loss, and resilience on personal growth
• Why "having more fun" may be the advice we all need most

Connect with Chantelle:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chantelle_otten_sexologist/

Website: https://chantelleotten.com/

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