Have you ever felt overlooked, unprioritized, or like an afterthought in the relationships that matter most? Whether it's family, friends, or romantic partners, feeling like the low man (or woman) on the totem pole can be frustrating and emotionally exhausting. In this episode of The Decoding Success Podcast, we dive deep into the pain of feeling unimportant, how it impacts our actions and mindset, and, most importantly, how to reclaim your self-worth and prioritize yourself.

🚀 In This Episode, You'll Learn: ✅ Why feeling unprioritized leads to self-sabotage and emotional drain ✅ How childhood neglect and craving attention shape our adult behavior ✅ The power of chosen family and surrounding yourself with the right people ✅ Why prioritizing yourself first teaches others how to treat you ✅ When and how to have the hard conversations about feeling undervalued

💡 Feeling unseen or undervalued? It's time to change that. This episode will empower you to take back your energy, shift your mindset, and step into your worth.

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Are you constantly seeking validation from people who never seem to give it to you? Do you feel emotionally drained, anxious, or stuck in a cycle of chasing approval? In this episode of The Decoding Success Podcast, we dive deep into the emotional cost of seeking validation and why reclaiming your personal power is the key to self-worth.

🚀 In This Episode, You'll Learn: ✅ Why high achievers often seek approval from the wrong people ✅ The hidden toll of emotional and physical exhaustion in the pursuit of validation ✅ How to recognize what others can and can't give you ✅ The game-changing mindset shift to take back your energy ✅ How to reframe rejection and turn it into personal empowerment

The truth is, approval from others is a bonus—not a requirement. It's time to stop waiting for validation and start validating yourself.

💡 If you've ever felt unseen, unappreciated, or stuck in a loop of seeking recognition, this episode is for you.

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Today, I'm diving into the transformative power of pain and why, in some cases, the people who've hurt us are the same ones who propel us toward our greatest growth. I open up about reframing our perspective on painful experiences—because while we can't control the events themselves, we do have a say in how we interpret and learn from them. If you've ever felt resentment or been stuck in the aftermath of hurt, this conversation is all about helping you see the lessons in your pain, find gratitude for the journey, and move forward with a clearer sense of purpose and emotional intelligence.

• Pain as Transformation Pain can be a catalyst that reshapes who we are and what we do next.
• Shifting Perspectives We can't always control what happens, but we can choose how we view it—and that shapes our outcome.
• Gratitude for the Hard Stuff Over time, even painful experiences can reveal the gifts they bring—like clarity, growth, or newfound strength.
• Process the Hurt Identifying who hurt us and how is the first step to turning pain into a lesson rather than a lingering wound.
• Emotional Intelligence Embracing the ups and downs of our story helps us develop deeper emotional awareness and resilience.

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In this episode of the Decoding Success podcast, I'm diving deep into the complexities of the tension between wanting to heal and actually being ready for it. I share some personal stories and insights on why self-assessment is key, why it's vital to set intentions, and how trusting in divine timing can make all the difference in your journey. If you've ever felt frustrated when your healing doesn't happen fast enough or wondered why painful emotions keep resurfacing, this conversation will help you see why patience and courage are so crucial for genuine transformation.

• Desire vs. Divine Timing I've learned that just because we want to heal right now doesn't mean we're fully prepared for it.
• Healing Can't Be Rushed My own experiences taught me that healing follows its own timeline, no matter how much we try to force it.
• Self-Assessment Is Crucial I emphasize the importance of being real with ourselves, recognizing our emotional state, and figuring out if we're truly ready to do the work.
• Pain as a Motivator Sometimes it's that deep ache that ultimately pushes us to take real, purposeful action toward healing.
• Intention-Setting Having a clear "why" helps focus our healing efforts and makes them more effective.
• Navigating Emotions I talk about how real healing is about understanding and moving through negative feelings, not just wishing them away.
• Inner Resources I believe we already have what we need inside of us; it's just a matter of tapping into our inner strength.
• Effort vs. Outcome While we can control our commitment and work ethic, we can't always control how quickly results will appear.
• Courage Matters Healing can be scary. It requires us to confront painful truths, but that courage is exactly what fuels genuine growth.

• [00:00] The Burden of Bad News
• [01:07] The Journey of Healing
• [04:00] The Reality of Healing Timelines
• [07:52] Self-Assessment in Healing

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In this heartfelt episode of the Decoding Success Podcast, I'm opening up to you all about the multifaceted nature of grief and how it uniquely impacts all of us who've always felt like outsiders in their families. Drawing on my personal stories—particularly memories of the acceptance I received from my grandpa (who, btw, was a guest on this show!)—I'm going to illustrate the power of self-love and the importance of creating a meaningful legacy. From honoring the love of those we've lost to finding ways to pass on that same love to others, this conversation provides actionable insights and real-world guidance for anyone navigating the complexities of grief.

• Grief Is a Journey Embrace the ups and downs; it's never a straight line.
• The 'Black Sheep' Perspective Feeling isolated can magnify the pain of loss.
• Acceptance Matters Losing someone who truly accepts you can feel like losing that sense of belonging.
• Self-Love Is Essential Healing involves cultivating the same love and acceptance for yourself.
• Legacy Through Love Honor your loved ones by passing on the love they gave you.
• Healing Through Community Identifying others who also need love can create bonds and support.
• Emotional Growth Grief can be a catalyst for deeper self-awareness and stronger relationships.

• [00:00] Navigating the Journey of Grief Introduction to the concept of grief as an ongoing process.
• [03:05] The Impact of Acceptance and Loss How feeling truly accepted by someone can shape how we cope with losing them.
• [05:58] Embracing Self-Love and Acceptance Practical steps to nurture a sense of belonging from within.
• [08:52] Creating a Legacy Through Love Using the love we've received to forge connections and uplift others.

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In this episode of the Decoding Success podcast, we dive deep into why so many of us tackle challenges from the wrong angle. By highlighting the crucial difference between emotional and logical problems, we're revealing how understanding which approach to use can make or break our success. Sharing personal anecdotes and practical exercises, we're guiding you toward developing the invaluable skill of balancing mind and heart. If you've ever felt stuck or frustrated by constant trial and error, this episode provides the actionable insights you've been missing.

• Balance is Essential: Mastering when to lean on emotional reasoning and when to use logic is key.
• Wrong Mindset, Wrong Outcome: Approaching emotional issues logically (or vice versa) can create even more conflict.
• Identify the Nature of the Problem: The first step to success is recognizing whether an issue is rooted in emotions or logic.
• Utilize a T-Chart: A simple yet powerful method for clarifying decisions and pinpointing which mindset to apply.
• Skill Overlooked in Personal Development: Knowing when to use your head or your heart isn't often discussed, but it's a true game-changer.
• Flex Your Decision-Making Muscle: Repetition and reflection on decisions strengthen your ability to choose the right approach every time.

Chapters

00:00 Mastering the Balance of Mind and Heart 07:13 Practical Steps to Solve Problems Effectively

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Welcome to The Decoding Success Podcast, where we dive into a transformative conversation with Anna Runkle, widely known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy. In this episode, Anna shares her profound insights into healing from trauma, emphasizing that while we cannot heal trauma itself, we can heal how it affects us. Together, they unpack the misconceptions around trauma, the power of daily practices, and the tools that help us move forward.

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✨ You can't heal trauma, but you can heal its effects. 🧘‍♀️ Healing starts with self-regulation and daily practices. 📖 Writing can be a powerful tool to process emotions safely. 🌿 Connection with nature fosters healing and belonging. 🧠 Trauma impacts the nervous system but can be managed. ⏳ Time can catalyze healing but isn't the only factor. 🙌 Community and support are crucial for emotional well-being. 💡 Trauma is an injury—not an identity.

Two of our favorite quotes from this episode:

👀 "Trauma is an overwhelming life experience, but healing is possible." 🔥 "You can start feeling better today with the right tools."

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Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Healing Trauma's Effects 03:15 What Trauma Really Is (And Isn't) 06:22 The Role of Self-Regulation in Healing 10:04 Writing as a Tool for Emotional Clarity 13:47 Spirituality and Its Role in Recovery 16:25 Understanding Neglect: The Silent Trauma 19:38 Nature and Belonging: Finding Your Grounding 23:10 Daily Practices to Regulate Emotions 26:45 The Present Moment: Where Healing Happens 30:08 Trauma Symptoms vs. Identity: A Mindset Shift 33:21 How to Start Healing Today 36:04 Community and Support: Why You Don't Have to Go It Alone 39:17 Final Thoughts: Practical Tools for Lasting Change

Welcome BACK! Or, maybe it's your first time here. I'm Matt - your host of the top 1% globally ranked podcast, Decoding Success.

Buckle up - we got a deeply moving episode as I sit down with mental health advocate Jose Cruz, known for his impactful presence on the Brooklyn Bridge, where he holds powerful signs reminding passersby of the importance of love, mental health, and self-awareness.

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Together, we dive into the vital themes of gratitude, self-reflection, and self-mastery. Jose opens up about his personal journey to finding peace and the life-changing practice of acknowledging "bad moments" without letting them define an entire day.

👇 Key Takeaways From This Episode - Discovering the inner light that guides your life's purpose. - How setting daily intentions can shape your experience. - Why gratitude is essential to mental well-being. - Tips for managing reactions and redefining what makes a "bad day." - The impact of the *World Needs Love Tour* on strangers and communities. - The transformative power of writing and self-reflection. - How small acts of kindness create a culture of love and compassion. - The journey of self-love and how it can heal personal struggles. - Understanding that expressing emotions is a sign of strength, not weakness. - Building support systems that uplift mental health and foster well-being.

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In this episode of The Decoding Success Podcast, we dive into the journey of embracing what makes us different and learning to view those differences as powerful strengths. Growing up, many people feel like 'black sheep'—isolated, rejected, or just different. Through personal stories and reflections, I discuss how these feelings of being an outsider can actually be transformed into assets.

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By embracing our uniqueness and valuing the traits that set us apart, we're able to discover our true selves and find communities that celebrate us for who we are. We provide you with actionable insights on how to navigate the path to self-acceptance and unlock the potential of being authentically you. This episode is an empowering reminder that feeling like a 'black sheep' isn't a weakness; it's an invitation to live a more fulfilling, purpose-driven life.

Key Takeaways:

• Recognize that there's no one you-er than you.
• Embrace the idea that you're made exactly the way you're meant to be.
• Differences are strengths—use them as a springboard to new opportunities.
• Feeling like a black sheep can open the door to valuable self-discovery.
• Write down what makes you different to gain clarity and direction.
• Find communities that appreciate your uniqueness and offer support.
• Love yourself fully—differences and all—and transform your life.

Listen in to discover how embracing your uniqueness can lead to new connections, opportunities, and a life that's truly aligned with who you are.

In this episode of The Decoding Success Podcast, we dive deep into the powerful dynamics of fear, love, and respect while we explore how these forces influence our personal and professional lives. Can true respect exist without love? Is fear an essential tool for leadership, or can influence be built on a foundation of love and mutual respect?

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Join Matt as he unpacks these questions and reveals how fear might create short-term influence, but lasting impact and authentic connections are born from love and respect.

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Here Are The Key Takeaways 👇

Why Fear Isn't the Only Way: Discover how to lead and inspire others through respect, without resorting to fear.

The Love-Respect Connection: Understand how love can foster a deeper sense of respect, transforming relationships at home, at work, and beyond.

Creating Lasting Influence: Learn how influential figures—think Elon Musk and Steve Jobs—have wielded love, respect, and even fear to build their legacies.

Lessons in Leadership: Explore the dynamics between fear and love in leadership and why some of the most impactful leaders choose love and respect as their guiding principles.

Respect as the Core of Legacy: Uncover how true respect can ripple through generations, creating a legacy that transcends personal fame or recognition.

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00:00 The Art of Dining vs. Eating

03:09 The Perception of Time

06:02 Walking for Clarity

08:55 Mindfulness and Silence

11:46 The Journey of Self-Discovery

14:45 Fasting and Mental Clarity

18:12 The Experience of Eating

21:07 Mindful Eating Practices

24:02 The Importance of Presence

26:54 Legacy and Being Forgotten

38:55 The Legacy of Influential Figures

40:01 Impact Beyond Recognition

42:25 Fear vs. Love: Leadership Dynamics

44:39 Healthy Fear and Respect

46:08 The Alter Ego Effect in High Performance

49:04 Navigating Personal and Professional Relationships

51:42 Visualization and Achieving Goals