Deep Dive with Ali Abdaal

We tend to think that love and relationships occur naturally - you can't work on them or improve them because love is something outside of our control. But the truth is more scientific than that. It turns out that we can actually have a big impact on how our relationships work, and whether or not they fail. By being more considerate of our partners, and really investing in quality time together, we can build bonds that last a lifetime. In this bonus episode of Deep Dive, Drs John and Julie Gottman, world renowned relationship experts, talk you through some of the things you can do to make your relationship truly happy and fulfilling, and the red flags to look out for which could indicate future trouble. All of their advice is super actionable and I've found it very useful in my own relationship - enjoy!

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BONUS EPISODE
(00:00) Intro
(01:25) Common relationship mistakes
(08:30) Why relationships fail
(15:39) How to cool down from conflict
(20:30) Tips for strengthening your relationship

🔗 CONNECT WITH GUEST
📕 The Seven Day Love Prescription
📱 The Gottman Card Decks App
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🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI
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📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED
The Science Behind Why Relationships Last Or Fail - Drs John & Julie Gottman
How To Not Die Alone by Dr Logan Ury
8 Dates by Drs John and Julie Gottman
The Seven-Day Love Prescription by Drs John and Julie Gottman 

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We’ve all been to parties where we meet people at the centre of the room, oozing charisma and confidence, and we think they must be born with it. But I’m beginning to discover that social confidence can be practice and learned - it’s not just something you have or you don’t. Today’s guest has a personal story that illustrates this really well. Aliénor Hunter is a professional public speaking coach with Ultraspeaking, a company that helps people speak confidently, spontaneously and conversationally in 30 days. But - she used to be too nervous to even phone the hairdressers or speak to cashiers at the grocery store. In this episode, we’re going to talk through Aliénor's journey, and give you some clear, effective, and actionable steps to improve your confidence and to feel less anxious in social situations, when you’re giving a work presentation or meeting someone for the first time. If we have the tools to manage our social anxiety we’ll also be better at putting ourselves out there and looking for opportunities that might change the course of our lives. We’re going to talk about public speaking, and even play a few of Ultraspeaking’s confidence building games, so you can see that there’s a path towards getting the most out of life through levelling up your mindset.

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Season 7 Episode 10
(00:00) Intro
(02:20) Aliénor's backstory
(04:13) The difference between social anxiety and shyness
(08:47) Is shyness bad?
(14:42) Aliénor's journey to becoming confident 
(24:27) Breaking down limiting beliefs
(32:54) The unrealistic expectations we put on ourselves
(36:41) The impact of ultraspeaking
(42:40) Change your perspective on speaking
(50:25) The importance of conviction
(59:09) How Aliénor became a speaking coach
(1:05:21) Habit One: Musicality
(1:06:56) Habit Two: One thing
(1:12:42) Habit Three: Recovery
(1:17:06) Habit Four: Silence
(1:20:24) Habit Five: Self-talk
(1:24:04) How to start a conversation
(1:29:53) Getting over the fear of judgement
(1:32:01) Boosting your self-esteem
(1:36:33) Finding joy in speaking
(1:40:55) Ultraspeaking games
(1:51:17) Final words of wisdom

🔗 CONNECT WITH ALIÉNOR 
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📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED
Leading Psychologist: How To Finally Overcome Stress & Anxiety - Dr Julie Smith

🎙 ABOUT THE PODCAST

Deep Dive is the podcast that delves into the minds of entrepreneurs, creators and other inspiring people to uncover the philosophies, strategies and tools that help us live happier, healthier and more productive lives.

Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistor

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even one line helps! You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, thoughts from the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏

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In your 20s it can feel like you're bombarded by all these life choices: "should I travel or work on my career?" "should I be finding a relationship or single? "should I quit my job and follow up passion". In this snippet, host of The Psychology of Your 20s podcast, Jemma Speg, explains how the paradox of choice can impact us in our 20s.

🔗 CONNECT WITH JEMMA
 
The Psychology of Your 20s
🎙 Podcast
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🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI

🎥 YouTube Channel

💻 Website

📸  Instagram

🐦  Twitter

👥 Linkedin

Everyday we're hearing more and more about the benefits - and risks - of AI. It seems like it's either going to transform the world, or destroy it. So what's the truth? Is AI really as dangerous as some people think? In this episode I sit down with big data expert Kenneth Cukier. Kenneth has written multiple books about tech and AI, and he's currently an executive editor at The Economist. In this conversation we talk all about how AI really works, how we can protect ourselves from it, and the many benefits humans have in comparison to their computer counterparts. We also chat about the moral problems of the modern world and how to be come a more well-rounded thinker. Kenneth is such an intelligent and thoughtful man - I learned so much from him I'm sure you will do too. Enjoy!

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Sponsored by Kajabi - go to https://www.kajabi.com/ali to get FREE access to the keynote.

Sponsored by Trading 212 - download the Trading 212 app https://trading212.com/promocodes/ALI  and use the promo code "ALI" after signing up and depositing to receive a random free share worth up to £100. This is not financial advice. Investments can fall and rise. Past performance is no guarantee of future results. Other fees may apply*. Capital is at risk.

📚Check out my New York Times Bestselling book Feel-Good Productivity!
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Season 7 Episode 9

(0:00) Intro
(01:45) Ken's background in AI and big data
(06:54) The possibilities of big data in medicine 
(14:01) Kenneth's book - Big Data
(23:43) The basics of AI
(39:28) How computers learn
(53:28) The benefits of AI
(59:47) The difference between AI and humans
(1:07:27) Are there existential risks from AI?
(1:12:04) The moral problems of the modern world
(1:23:04) Will AI take our jobs?
(1:26:30) What advantages do humans have over AI?
(1:29:03) Working at The Economist
(1:36:29) Becoming well-read

🔗 CONNECT WITH KENNETH
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🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI
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📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED
Big Data by Viktor Mayer-Schonberger and Kenneth Cukier
Framers by Kenneth Cukier, Viktor Mayer-Schonberger and Francis de Vericourt
The Intelligence Podcast 

🎙 ABOUT THE PODCAST

Deep Dive is the podcast that delves into the minds of entrepreneurs, creators and other inspiring people to uncover the philosophies, strategies and tools that help us live happier, healthier and more productive lives.

Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistor

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even one line helps! You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, thoughts from the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏

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In this snippet, Dr Alex George,  best-selling author and Youth Mental Health Ambassador to the government explains why our brains are negatively biased, why imposter syndrome (the inability to believe that your success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved) is a universally human problem and how to deal with it. 

Listen to the full episode here

🔗 CONNECT WITH DR ALEX 

📕 The Mind Manual Mental Fitness Tools For Everyone
🎙 Stompcast 

🎥 YouTube Channel

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🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI

📲 Join My Telegram Community - https://t.me/+bH5gLHty5kBiOGZk

🎥 YouTube Channel

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It might seem super difficult to become well known in a space if you're just starting out, but there are some tips and tricks which will level up your reputation and the opportunities which come your way. In this episode of Deep Dive, I chat with Chris Ducker, an entrepreneur and business mentor who helps people build online future proof businesses. We chat about how you can build a personal brand, produce great online content, and how to become a 'Youpreneur' who stands out from the crowd. Enjoy!

Sponsored by Kajabi - go to https://www.kajabi.com/ali to get FREE access to the keynote.

Sponsored by Huel - go to https://www.huel.com/deepdive and with your first order you’ll get a free t-shirt and shaker.

Sponsored by Trading 212 - download the Trading 212 app https://trading212.com/promocodes/ALI and use the promo code "ALI" after signing up and depositing to receive a random free share worth up to £100. This is not financial advice. Investments can fall and rise. Past performance is no guarantee of future results. Other fees may apply*. Capital is at risk.

📚Check out my New York Times Bestselling book Feel-Good Productivity!
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Website

Season 7 Episode 8

(01:44) Chris' life story
(07:40) Why we don't like the word 'sales'
(17:27) What is a personal brand?
(25:02) How to build a personal brand
(36:15) Building a long-term reputation
(43:12) Producing valuable online content and products
(50:02) Can anyone build a profitable personal brand?
(58:37) Finding and serving a specific niche
(1:08:10) Becoming a 'Youprenuer'
(1:11:13) Should you hire a virtual assistant?
(1:17:11) Balancing health and relationships with work
(1:26:33) Final recommendations and advice

🔗 CONNECT WITH CHRIS
💻 Website
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🎥 YouTube Channel
🎤 Podcast

🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI
📲 Join My Telegram Community
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🐦 Twitter
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💻 Website
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📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED
The 36 Questions To Fall In Love
Virtual Freedom by Chris Ducker
See You At The Top by Zig Ziglar
Rise of the Youpreneur by Chris Ducker
Crush It by Gary Vaynerchuck

📄SHOW NOTES & TRANSCRIPT

Visit the website for the transcript and highlights from the conversation - https://aliabdaal.com/podcast/

🎙 ABOUT THE PODCAST

Deep Dive is the podcast that delves into the minds of entrepreneurs, creators and other inspiring people to uncover the philosophies, strategies and tools that help us live happier, healthier and more productive lives.

Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistor

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If you enjoyed listening to the podcast, we'd love for you to leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts to help others discover the show :) https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast...

👋🏼 GET IN TOUCH 

You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, ideas or thoughts about the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏

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In this snippet, serial entrepreneur Steven Bartlett explains the 5 reasons why you could be unhappy at work and what you need to change it.

Listen to the full episode here

🔗 CONNECT WITH STEVEN

📕 33 Laws Of Business and Life 

🎥 YouTube Channel

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🐦  Twitter

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🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI

🎥 YouTube Channel
🐦 Twitter
📸 Instagram
💻 Website
👥 Linkedin

Sponsored by Huel - go to https://www.huel.com/deepdive and with your first order you’ll get a free t-shirt and shaker.

Sponsored by Trading 212 - download the Trading 212 app https://trading212.com/promocodes/ALI and use the promo code "ALI" after signing up and depositing to receive a random free share worth up to £100. This is not financial advice. Investments can fall and rise. Past performance is no guarantee of future results. Other fees may apply*. Capital is at risk.

Sponsored by Kajabi - go to https://www.kajabi.com/ali to get FREE access to the keynote.

📚Check out my New York Times Bestselling book Feel-Good Productivity!
Amazon
Website

Season 7 Episode 7

Today I’m joined by Professor Steve Peters. He’s a world renowned psychologist who’s dedicated himself to understanding the way the human mind works. He’s worked with elite athletes like the Olympic cyclists Sir Chris Hoy and Victoria Pendleton, 5-time snooker world champion Ronnie O’Sullivan, as well as the England football team, to help them overcome mental barriers and optimise their performance. He’s perhaps best-known for his first book, 'The Chimp Paradox', which has sold millions of copies worldwide. The book gives us a mind management approach based on the idea that there are three forces which govern our brains. The emotional and primal 'chimp' is impulsive and often anxious, while our inner human is calm, logical, and rational. This system can help us better understand our behaviour and handle moments of stress and difficulty. In this episode we’re going to talk about how to use the Chimp Model to change your life, and how it can revolutionise the way you see yourself and others. You’ll get an insight into Professor Steve Peters’ world renowned coaching methods that have helped so many people lead happier, healthier and more successful lives. Enjoy!

(0:00) Intro
(6:53) Steve’s work
(12:01) The Chimp Paradox
(27:42) Dealing with imposter syndrome
(37:00) Dealing with mental goblins and gremlins
(46:00) Motivation and commitment
(51:53) Goblins vs. gremlins
(1:0054) How to cope when things go wrong
(1:06:17) Understanding and describing our emotions
(1:13:54) Can we really control our emotions?
(1:23:21) Managing anxiety
(1:27:00) ADHD and depression 
(1:31:06) Being an elite performance coach
(1:37:30) Do you need to work out your life plan?
(1:42:33) Does success lead to happiness?
(1:47:44) Figuring out your values
(1:52:39) Final words of wisdom

🔗 CONNECT WITH PROF STEVE
🐦 Twitter
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💻 Website

🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI
📲 Join My Telegram Community 
🎥 YouTube Channel
🐦 Twitter
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📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED
The Chimp Paradox by Steve Peters - https://geni.us/7r522O
A Path through the Jungle by Steve Peters - https://geni.us/Scf12N2
Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn - https://geni.us/u1a3dL
Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn - https://geni.us/BR9b

📄SHOW NOTES & TRANSCRIPT

Visit the website for the transcript and highlights from the conversation - https://aliabdaal.com/podcast/

🎙 ABOUT THE PODCAST

Deep Dive is the podcast that delves into the minds of entrepreneurs, creators and other inspiring people to uncover the philosophies, strategies and tools that help us live happier, healthier and more productive lives.

Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistor

🎧 LISTEN FOR FREE 
Apple Podcasts - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast...
Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/7gZkflC...
RSS - https://feeds.transistor.fm/deep-dive

🙏 LEAVE A REVIEW 

If you enjoyed listening to the podcast, we'd love for you to leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts to help others discover the show :) https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast...

👋🏼 GET IN TOUCH 

You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, ideas or thoughts about the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏

PS: Some of the links in this description are affiliate links that I get a kickback from 😜

 Sponsored by Huel - go to https://www.huel.com/deepdive and with your first order you’ll get a free t-shirt and shaker.

Sponsored by Trading 212 - download the Trading 212 app https://trading212.com/promocodes/ALI and use the promo code "ALI" after signing up and depositing to receive a random free share worth up to £100. This is not financial advice. Investments can fall and rise. Past performance is no guarantee of future results. Other fees may apply*. Capital is at risk.

Sponsored by Kajabi - go to https://www.kajabi.com/ali to get FREE access to the keynote.

📚Check out my New York Times Bestselling book Feel-Good Productivity!
Amazon
Website

A lot of us dream about starting a business. But so many people spend years and years planning a business without actually taking the plunge and going for it. We want to plan for every challenge and potential problem, and forget that the most important step is to just start something. It turns out that some of the best businesses are born from spur of the moment decisions and taking surprising and exciting risks. In this episode of Deep Dive I chat to Thom Elliot, co-founder of the restaurant business Pizza Pilgrims. Pizza Pilgrims started on a whim when Thom and his brother went on a trip around Italy trying to taste test the best pizzas in the country. From there, Pizza Pilgrims has become an award winning business, which has survived all the adversity of the pandemic to celebrate its tenth birthday this year. In this conversation we talk all about how to become an entrepreneur, how to turn set backs into opportunities, and the importance of taking risks when starting your dream business. Enjoy!

Season 7 Episode 6

(06:30) The origin of Pizza Pilgrims
(15:57) Thom’s trip to Italy
(22:55) The importance of random conversations
(29:36) Getting Pizza Pilgrims off the ground
(37:00) The difference between employment and entrepreneurship
(45:22) Should you quit your job to start a business?
(51:19) Why you need to take risks
(58:16) Founder’s naivety
(1:06:33) Pizza Pilgrims' stats
(1:11:15) Sustainable growth and long- term thinking
(1:20:10) How Pizza Pilgrims survived the pandemic
(1:31:54) Franchises and the Pizza Academy 
(1:38:44) Growth and giving back
(1:45:19) Balancing family life
(1:48:21) Lessons for aspiring entrepreneurs

🔗 CONNECT WITH THOM
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🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI
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📄SHOW NOTES & TRANSCRIPT

Visit the website for the transcript and highlights from the conversation - https://aliabdaal.com/podcast/

🎙 ABOUT THE PODCAST

Deep Dive is the podcast that delves into the minds of entrepreneurs, creators and other inspiring people to uncover the philosophies, strategies and tools that help us live happier, healthier and more productive lives.

Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistor

🎧 LISTEN FOR FREE 
Apple Podcasts - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast...
Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/7gZkflC...
RSS - https://feeds.transistor.fm/deep-dive

🙏 LEAVE A REVIEW 

If you enjoyed listening to the podcast, we'd love for you to leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts to help others discover the show :) https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast...

👋🏼 GET IN TOUCH 

You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, ideas or thoughts about the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏

PS: Some of the links in this description are affiliate links that I get a kickback from 😜

We all have days where we just can't seem to switch of the chatter in our heads, and it can be really difficult to break the cycle. In this Snippet, Psychologist Dr Julie Smith explains how these cognitive biases work and how to overcome them.

Listen to the full episode here 👉 https://open.spotify.com/episode/5zf3QjS60BofCEHHRe2RAs?si=T6rlkPrsQUqmbRBnLTX7aA

🔗 CONNECT WITH JULIE
 
📕 Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
📱TikTok
📸 Instagram
💻 Website
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🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI

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