Today Barbara is joined by Marty Stevens-Heeber, founder and CEO of Clear Home Solutions. An accomplished business woman and entrepreneur, Marty tells Barbara why she was drawn to working with older adults. They discuss her work as a Senior Move Manager, a fairly new but growing role devoted to helping families deal with the difficult (and potentially traumatic) experience of moving loved ones into a new living situation. Her company can take over any and all of the logistics associated with the move – from the packing up and shipping to the unpacking and setting up to the final sale or lease of the home. They talk about how Marty discovered this niche, and why it’s so important to make these moves feel as comfortable and familiar as possible, especially for seniors with dementia. It’s rewarding as well, she says, because these services are very much in demand. She launched her company nine years ago, and says she “never looked back!” 

Today Barbara is joined by Bobbie Schwarcz to talk about Bobbie’s father-in-law, Chuck, who died several years ago. When Bobbie met Chuck, he’d already been diagnosed with dementia. Bobbie describes Chuck as an intelligent, charming, and fascinating man who’d been quite an accomplished musician. As his disease progressed, Bobbie started listening to music with him. When she’d play Marie Callas, his all-time favorite singer, he’d light up and smile. “It was like a light bulb would go off,” she says, “and he was happy.” She and Barbara talk about the weight and responsibilities that caregivers take on, and the importance of finding humor whenever and wherever possible. 

Today Barbara is joined by social gerontologist Benjamin Surmi. As director of culture, training and Koelsch Innovation Lab for Koelsch Communities, Benjamin focuses on seeking the most effective ways to support family caregivers. In the past, he says, most tools were human – nurses, dog walkers, house cleaners, drivers, bookkeepers. These days, thanks to technological advances and COVID, many are virtual. Benjamin shares some of the items in his “Tech Toolbox”: tracking devices that look like watches; GPS shoe inserts; a device that looks like jewelry that detects falls. Also on the market, a belt that senses a fall and inflates with air in time to protect hip bones and avoid injury. Many of these devices are expensive, but Benjamin advises weighing the one-time expense against the cost of long-term injury and pain.

A lot has happened since Ted Snyder was Barbara’s guest on Dementia Discussions last April. Today he tells Barbara how his wife Rena’s condition has progressed from mild cognitive impairment to late-stage Alzheimer’s; how she is often unresponsive, although she always responds well to music. Unstable on her feet, after Rena fell several times in the long-term care facility, Ted moved her into a small “board and care” in March. When she fell and broke her hip in September, Ted and his family were faced with a difficult decision. What happened next was a situation he had never anticipated. It’s a stunning example of the highs and lows of caregiving, and how the healthcare community can be your biggest impediment or a generous and unexpected ally.

Today Barbara welcomes back Owen Frances. Owen lost Rhonda, his precious wife of 52 years, to Alzheimer’s disease last year. In a beautiful, heartfelt, and extremely moving tribute, Owen shares memories and stories about Rhonda. He describes a remarkable woman who helped countless others through their grief as a bereavement counselor. “There was nobody who ever met her who didn’t come away better for it,” he says. 

In her first podcast of 2022, Barbara is joined by Cheri Dickard whose mother, 82, was diagnosed with Lewy body dementia (LBD) three years ago. Cheri tells Barbara how one of her sisters -- a professional healer who works with many older clients -- had picked up on the signs much earlier, recommending natural remedies (exercise, fresh air). But her parents are traditional and waited until they received the official diagnosis from a medical doctor before taking her advice. Cheri tells Barbara she's grateful that she and her siblings can be around and give her dad a much-needed “respite” from his caregiving duties. They also discuss family dynamics and the complexities of sharing caregiving responsibilities with other family members.  

Happy Holidays from Dementia Discussions! In Barbara’s last podcast of 2021, she reflects on the past year and why she started Dementia Discussions. She also talks about the importance and benefits of gratitude, and two of the things she’s especially grateful for this year. 

Today Barbara is joined by Dr. Linda Ercoli, a clinical psychology professor and the director of UCLA’s Longevity Center. Linda has always been fascinated by what happens in the brain with dementia, and her graduate work was in geriatric psychology and the issues that elders face in our society. She talks to Barbara about neuropsychology, in which the focus is an assessment of cognizant and intellectual functions. She gets called in by neurologists, psychologists, and sometimes even lawyers to help tease out brain-related diagnoses by looking at brain scans, blood tests, and medications. After the evaluation – which she says is usually triggered by memory issues – Linda works with individuals and families to help them understand what is happening and to recommend treatment.

Today Barbara welcomes Stefanie Elkins to the podcast. Stefanie is an aging-life care manager and an end-of-life doula whose company, Be Present Care, supports and guides families through end-of-life caring and planning decisions. They discuss the breadth and roles of a family caregiver, and how difficult it can be to make end-of-life decisions for a loved one. Stefanie talks about the importance of planning ahead and getting certain directives in place, and gives advice on how to initiate these uncomfortable yet important conversations.

Today Barbara talks with Karen Tucker, who attends her Lewy Body Dementia (LBD) support group at UCLA. Karen takes care of her 71-year-old husband, who was diagnosed with LBD last year, as well as her 95-year-old mother who lives in her guesthouse and her 45-year-old son who still struggles after a psychotic break at 23. They discuss Karen’s journey as her husband’s condition declined, and some of her biggest challenges, such as learning not to take things personally -- even when her husband gets upset and yells at her. She’s also learning how to navigate taking on the jobs that he used to do while still preserving his dignity. Karen says the hardest part is carving out time for herself.