In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with psychologist, leadership advisor, and author Bob Rosen to explore what it really means to let go—not of people, but of the stories, fears, and beliefs that silently run your life.

Whether you’re obsessively checking your partner’s texts, chasing success but never feeling satisfied, or stuck in pain from your past, Bob’s message is clear: your attachments are stealing your peace.

Together, they unpack how detaching from control, perfection, and outdated narratives helps you build emotional security, deeper relationships, and a more grounded sense of self-worth.

From the fear behind obsessive thoughts to the healing power of self-forgiveness, this episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to stop spiraling—and start feeling free.

💎 Golden Episode Nuggets:

💎 We obsess to feel in control—but it keeps us stuck in fear.

💎 Letting go of the past isn’t forgetting—it’s releasing your grip on pain.

💎 Control shows up as perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overthinking.

💎 True intimacy starts when we stop trying to manage the outcome.

💎 You can’t build a secure relationship without building self-trust first.

🔑 Key Moments:

· 3:00 – The 10 invisible attachments that are silently running your life

· 6:45 – How childhood wounds show up in your adult relationships

· 8:50 – Why control and perfection are actually fear-based addictions

· 12:10 – How to stay connected to your partner without getting consumed

· 16:00 – The real reason self-love is essential to relationship security

· 21:00 – What “obsessive thoughts” are trying to do—and how to break the loop

· 24:50 – Bob’s personal battle with addiction, and how he finally let go

· 29:00 – The success myth: why achievements won’t heal your insecurity

· 32:00 – Why we fear aging—and how to detach from youth-based worth

· 35:00 – How to take Bob’s Attachment Assessment and start your own healing

👤 About Our Guest:

Bob Rosen is a psychologist, leadership expert, and author of Detached: Letting Go to Gain Clarity, Control, and Peace. With decades of experience coaching Fortune 500 CEOs, Bob brings a unique blend of Eastern and Western psychology to help people release mental baggage and reclaim their peace.

He shares not only client stories but his own powerful personal journey—including his recovery from opiate addiction and perfectionism—and how letting go gave him his life back.

📍 Find Bob’s book, take the Attachment Assessment, or download his Book Club Kit at: www.bobrosen.com

📚 Resources Mentioned:

• Book: Detached: Letting Go to Gain Clarity, Control and Peace
• Free Attachment Assessment: bobrosen.com

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