Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon

Discover What You Really Want in Bed: A Guide to Sexual Adventures (ep. 138)


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In this episode, Heather guides listeners how to bring a sense of adventure and exploration to their sex lives.

Understanding Your Sexual Identity

  • How to differentiate between what you think you "should" want versus what actually excites you
  • Recognizing that preferences can evolve and change over time
  • Moving past shame or judgment around desires that feel "different"

Communication and Exploration with Partners

  • How to have conversations about fantasies and boundaries. Yes, no, maybe list. 
  • Creating safe spaces for vulnerability and honesty
  • Navigating mismatched desires or comfort levels

Solo Exploration Techniques

  • Mindful masturbation and body awareness exercises
  • Fantasy journaling or exploration
  • Using erotica, audio content, or visual materials as discovery tools

Practical Adventure Planning

  • Setting up "sexual dates" with yourself or a partner specifically for exploration. Kissing lab. Sensory night. Positions month. 10 toys to try. Create a kissing lab (pecks, open mouth, long and deep, short and repeated, lots of tongue, little tongue, trace partner's lips with tongue, teasing and breathing while keeping mouths close to each other)
  • Creating the right environment (physical space, mindset, timing)
  • How to debrief and integrate new discoveries

Overcoming Common Roadblocks

  • Performance anxiety when trying new things. 
  • Religious or cultural conditioning around sexuality
  • Body image concerns that limit exploration
  • Fear of rejection or judgment from partners

Building Sexual Confidence

  • Celebrating small discoveries and wins
  • Developing a growth mindset around sexuality
  • Learning to advocate for your needs and desires

Check out Heather's Amazon Storefront for Books and Tools to Help You Explore! Heather Shannon, LCPC's Amazon Page

We Should Try It Couples Quiz - We Should Try It - online sex questionnaire for couples

Yes, No, Maybe List - https://www.sexedwithbyrd.com/yesnomaybelistfreebie



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