Today I'm talking with Crystal Byrd Farmer, a polyamorous speaker and writer from Gastonia, North Carolina. We talked about her book, The Token - Common Sense Ideas for Increasing Diversity in Your Organization, and how to do the work to have more inclusive communities.  Plus loads of good stuff about polyamory, solo poly, BDSM, and more!

Crystal is the former website editor of Black and Poly, an online community for black people exploring non monogamy. She also serves as a board member with the foundation for intentional communities and the BIPOC intentional community council. Her book The Token: Common Sense Ideas for Increasing Diversity in Your Organization, is out now. 

💨 TLDR;

• 2:32- The Journey from Monogamy to Solo Poly
• 7:57- Naming Your Needs
• 11:06- Kids and Non-monogamy
• 12:33- Creating Equitable Spaces
• 20:52- Being Open to the Uncomfortable
• 27:36- Creating Healthy Relationships

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www.crystalbyrdfarmer.com

📚 Books mentioned: 

• The Token, by Crystal Byrd Farmer
• Polysecure, by Jessica Fern
• Codependent No More, by Melody Beattie

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