One thing I’ve learned over the years is that you can self-sabotage by letting your triggers control you.

Let’s talk about the everyday life habits that may keep you stuck negatively. Are you allowing your scared feelings to control you and prevent you from becoming the confident, strong woman you are meant to be? How can we find some ways to slowly change our thinking patterns so we can start living life in a positive view?

I’m all for recognizing when something feels “off”, but I’m also aware of people I meet that are so untrusting because of things that have happened in the past that they trust no one or nothing! I see people questioning every tiny thing that isn’t even relevant to what is actually going on and then they in turn never get to participate the way others do because of their fear and paranoia. 

The best thing to start with is the power of ‘The Pause’…take your time with your thoughts before you speak them out. 

Write out things you would like to start changing. It can be small or big. Don’t limit yourself. Ask God to show you what changes you need to make and let him guide you. Journaling and praying go hand in hand. Don’t skip this step! He has shown me so many times the direction I should go and I wrote it out in my journal.

Don’t let your fear keep you in the same place this year. Start small and start deciding what you want to do.

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*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.