Growing up in a dysfunctional family, did you ever think about birth order when growing up? If you are the oldest, what responsibilities did you feel were put on you? The same goes if you are the middle child or a younger one.

It’s also a great time to take a few personality tests, just to understand a little bit more. Not to be used as an excuse for your behaviors, but to learn and grow. You should always be open to learning more and taking a different approach when needed, and 100% rely on the direction God tells you to go.

I have taken other kinds of personality tests and I find them fascinating. Birth order is also something we generally gravitate towards naturally in families. We each play a role. The problem can arise when we make excuses for the patterns we fall into because it’s easy. 

When you love people because you understand them the conversations are deeper, the help for each other is pure and loving. Think about the personalities that each sibling has and see if there is a strength in them that you may not have thought of before. I think when we get older, we start to see the strengths (and weaknesses) that we can be more of a support to them. It will also be a bonding for when you all have to come together for family situations; good or bad. 

This is what can make for a fun, beautiful individual family!

I have often told my girls “You are very different people, respect the differences.”

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