Does grief get easier throughout the years? 

Short answer: that grief will always stay with you, it will just look different as time moves on.

40 years ago, I lost my first son Linton. There is no timeline for grief for sure. I cry just as much today as I did 40 years ago. 

The crazy thing was about 25 years ago, there was a time each year when I would get depressed and didn’t know why. I always forgot his birthday, until it was right there! The day of or a few days after. I didn’t know how to mourn well, no one taught me and I was so used to stuffing things down, I blocked it out but my body KNEW!

You should always take the day to honor those you have lost. As I got healthier, I allowed myself to ask for what I needed on this day. Stop trying to mourn the way other people want you to, even if they are a part of your household. It’s not their grief. It’s yours.

Our lives don’t stop from a loss, it’s a detour and there is more. . .

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