Doing It! with Hannah Witton

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Alayna Joy, who is a Canadian content creator making LGBTQ+, self-compassion, and mindfulness content. In this episode Alayna discusses her experience this year ending a long-term relationship with a man after realising she is not bisexual but is gay. She and Hannah talk about Alayna’s journey with her sexuality over the years and why it took her until her late twenties to realise she was gay (hint: compulsory heterosexuality!!). Finally, Hannah and Alayna discuss different sexuality labels, bisexual erasure, experiencing desire, and the baby-gay phase of excitement.

✨MORE ABOUT ALAYNA JOY ✨
Alayna Joy is a Canadian LGBTQ content creator who brings her frank and funny perspective to a wide range of topics, sexuality and wellness being her specialties. When she’s not creating online content, Alayna is teaching mindfulness, compassion, and inclusion at workshops, conventions and schools across North America.
- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrzizGkW-Dgv9sN9vVHAN4Q
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missfenderr/
- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@missfenderr

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Kimberly Foster, who is the founder of For Harriet, a multi-platform digital community for Black women, and they discuss sexuality, race, sexual liberation, and pop culture. Kimberly and Hannah talk about the difference between the spectacle of sexual liberation as we see it in the media and real, personal sexual liberation. and how to critique the media messages we receive about Black peoples and especially Black women. Finally, Hannah and Kimberly discuss blackfishing, the “mixed race aesthetic”, radical imagination, and, of course, the Kardashians.

✨MORE ABOUT KIMBERLY FOSTER✨
Kimberly Foster is a writer, cultural critic and founder and editor-in-chief of For Harriet, a multi-platform digital community for Black women, and Black Girls Gather, a national live event series.
- For Harriet: http://forharriet.com/
- For Harriet YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ForHarrietdotcom
- For Harriet Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/for.harriet/
- For Harriet Twitter: https://twitter.com/forharriet
- Kimberly’s website: http://www.kimberlynfoster.com/
- Kimberly’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlynfoster/
- Kimberly’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/KimberlyNFoster

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Dr Anand Patel, who is a doctor specialising in sexual function. Anand discusses his experience as a biology teacher and with teaching sex ed in school as well as why it’s important for more GPs to have training around sexual health. He and Hannah talk about men’s and people with penises’ sexual function, from early ejaculation to delayed ejaculation and the physical and psychological causes of erectile dysfunction. Finally, Hannah and Anand discuss Viagra, performance anxiety, and some “dick housekeeping”.

✨MORE ABOUT DR ANAND PATEL✨
I’m a doctor specialising in sexual function, working with health care professionals and the public to challenge views, reduce embarrassment and improve understanding.

I’m a GP based in inner London and work at the Centre for Men’s Health on Harley Street treating sexual dysfunction and testosterone deficiency. I am a committee member of the British Society for Sexual Medicine and secretary to the Primary Care Testosterone Advisory Group. I’ve decoded sexual desires on Channel 5’s My Secret Sex Fantasy and most recently I co-host The Pleasure Podcast with Naomi Sheldon, focusing on sex, relationships and intimacy.

- Twitter: https://twitter.com/therealdranand
- The Pleasure Podcast Twitter: https://twitter.com/thepleasurepod

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Michelle Elman, who is a life coach and author. Michelle discusses her new book The Joy of Being Selfish, and boundaries - setting them, communicating them and respecting them. She and Hannah talk about “empowered dating”, and the assumption that meeting someone IRL is better than through an dating app. Finally, Hannah and Michelle discuss the TV show Normal People, and how virginity is a scam.

Apologies that my audio in this episode is slightly distorted - not sure what happened to my microphone for this one! But hope you enjoy the conversation nonetheless.


✨MORE ABOUT MICHELLE ELMAN✨
Michelle Elman is a five-board accredited Life Coach and is most known for her campaign Scarred Not Scared. She has an active social media presence with over 300k followers across her accounts. She has appeared on Sky News, Loose Women, Channel 5 News, BBC Radio London, BBC Radio 5 Live, LBC sharing her expert opinion, as well as radio worldwide from Hong Kong to Los Angeles to Ireland. Her TedX talk "Have You Hated Your Body Enough Today?" has been viewed over 50,000 times and her debut book "Am I Ugly?" was released in 2018. She has also written for a number of reputable publications including Huffington Post, Grazia, Metro, MTV and Stylist. In 2020, she was named as one of The Sun's 50 most inspirational women in the UK. She recently launched her life coaching podcast "In All Honesty" and her new book "The Joy Of Being Selfish" is being published in 2021.

- The Joy of Being Selfish: Why you need boundaries and how to set them: https://www.waterstones.com/book/the-joy-of-being-selfish/michelle-elman/9781787396777
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/ScarredNtScared
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scarrednotscared/


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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Jamie Windust, who is a model, contributing editor at Gay Times, and a recently published author with their book ‘In Their Shoes: Navigating Non-Binary Life’. Jamie discusses their book and about gender euphoria. They and Hannah also talk about what chosen family is and why it’s so important, as well as the role of fashion and make-up in Jamie’s journey discovering their gender. Finally, Hannah and Jamie discuss the dating, depedestaling romance, and what’s in Jamie’s Snapchat archive.

✨MORE ABOUT JAMIE WINDUST✨
Jamie Windust is an award-winning editor, author, model and contributing editor at Gay Times. Their work focuses on discussing through their notable wit and humour, LGBTQ+ and trans specific issues across the world, as well as specifically within the fashion and beauty industries. They have worked and spoken for the likes of TEDxLondon, Gucci, Huffington Post, i-D and Sky News.

- In Their Shoes: Navigating Non-Binary Life: https://www.waterstones.com/book/in-their-shoes/jamie-windust/9781787752429
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/jamie_windust
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamie_windust/


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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Lady Charlotte Rose, who is a multi-award-winning sex worker, radio presenter, author, political campaigner, mother, and serial wanker. Lady Charlotte Rose discusses both in person sex work as well as sex work in online spaces. She and Hannah talk about the UK laws around sex work and the campaign for decriminalisation, and what the difference is between decriminalisation and legalisation. Finally, Hannah and Lady Charlotte Rose discuss experiences in the sex industry, apps that exist for sex workers’ safety, and how COIVD has affected the sex industry as a whole.

✨MORE ABOUT LADY CHARLOTTE ROSE✨
Introducing the 1st lady of sex, the multi award winning sex worker, radio presenter, author, political campaigner, musical performer, mother and serial wanker, Lady Charlotte Rose:
- Personal Twitter: https://twitter.com/_charlie_rose
- Political Twitter: https://twitter.com/1stladyofsex
- Radio show: https://twitter.com/rosetalkssex
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/1stladyofsex/

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Ruby Rare, who is a queer non-monogamous sex educator. Ruby discusses her new book ‘Sex Ed: a Guide for Adults’, and what it was like writing a book in lockdown. She and Hannah talk about Ruby’s love for being nude, her body positive life drawing class, and how queerness can allow people to write their own rules about sex and relationship structures. Finally, Hannah and Ruby answer questions from Instagram about consent, delayed ejaculation, and queer sex, and Ruby talks more about her jelly fetish!

✨MORE ABOUT RUBY RARE✨
Ruby Rare is a queer, non-monogamous, pink-haired sex educator on a mission to get people talking more confidently and inclusively about sex. She’s an ambassador for Brook, the UK's leading sexual health charity for young people, co-founder of Body Love Sketch Club, a body positive life drawing class, and when the world is less pandemic-y she runs workshops for adults on porn, pleasure, and non-monogamy. Her debut book Sex Ed: A Guide for Adults is out now.

- Twitter: https://twitter.com/_rubyrare
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rubyrare/
- Sex Ed: A Guide for Adults: https://www.waterstones.com/book/sex-ed/ruby-rare/9781526628374
- Body Love Sketch Club: https://www.instagram.com/bodylovesketchclub/

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Jules Margo, who is the co-founder and COO of Hot Octopuss, a sex toy company that champions inclusivity and accessibility in their products and marketing. Jules discusses sex toy technology and development, and some of the exciting things happening in the sex toy industry. She and Hannah talk about the intersection of disability and sexuality as well as Hot Octopuss’s focus on accessibility in their sex toys. Finally, Hannah and Jules discuss how COVID-19 has affected sex toy sales, long distance relationships, and people getting into solo kink, and answer some of your questions from Instagram about toy recommendations, how to clean your sex toys, and whether more expensive sex toys are really worth it.

✨MORE ABOUT JULES MARGO AND HOT OCTOPUSS✨
Julia Margo co-founded the premium British company Hot Octopuss in 2011 with her good friend, Adam Lewis. As Chief Operating Officer, Julia directs Hot Octopuss’s marketing department and leads its public relations team. Her expertise stems from roles in top UK organisations including the think tank Demos, the consumer group Which? and the medical research charity Genesis Research Trust. She is also a published author on social change, wellbeing and consumer issues. Jules lives in London with her 3 children.

- Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jules.margo/
- Personal Twitter: https://twitter.com/jules_margo
- Hot Octopuss: https://www.hotoctopuss.com/
- Hot Octopuss Twitter: https://twitter.com/HotOctopuss

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Dr Karen Gurney, who is a clinical psychologist, psychosexologist, and author of the book “Mind the Gap: The Truth about Desire and how to Futureproof Your Sex Life”. Karen discusses desire and also the myths around the average frequency of sex. She and Hannah talk about how we have no actual measurement for desire, and what good sex actually is. Finally, Hannah and Karen discuss how to find out what good sex is for you, the idea of sexual currency, and whether or not scheduling sex is a good idea.

✨MORE ABOUT DR KAREN GURNEY✨
Dr Karen Gurney (@thesexdoctor), is an NHS clinical psychologist/psychosexologist on a mission to improve the sex lives of the nation by translating research and clinical experience to normalise and improve people’s relationship with sex. She believes that sex is always political and brings this intersectional perspective plus her vast experience in this field (and with marginalised groups such as the LGBTQ+ community) to challenge people’s thinking. She is also Director of The Havelock Clinic, an independent sexual problems service offering innovative, accessible and low cost online workshops for better sex as well as free downloadable tools and worksheets. As part of her mission to educate, inform and challenge widely held ideas that harm people’s sex lives she did her first TEDx talk and wrote her first book, ‘Mind The Gap: the truth about desire and how to futureproof your sex life’ in 2020.
- Mind the Gap: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52243236-mind-the-gap
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesexdoctor/
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/karengurney5
- Website: https://thehavelockclinic.com/

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Stephanie Yeboah, who is a plus size style blogger, author, journalist, and content creator. Stephanie discusses her debut book, Fattily Ever After, and the histories of and differences between the fat acceptance and body positive movements. She and Hannah talk about how the body positive movement has changed over the years, as well as discussing dating and the fear of loneliness. Finally, Hannah and Steph discuss the racist stereotypes and assumptions about Black women and their bodies as well as the hypersexualisation of Black women and the desexualisation of fat Black women.

CW: Brief mention of sexual abuse and violence to minors in relation to R Kelly. Timestamps: 34:42 - 35:40.

✨MORE ABOUT STEPHANIE YEBOAH✨
Stephanie Yeboah is a plus-size style blogger, fat acceptance advocate, freelance writer, public speaker, sometimes-broadcaster and debut author. Find out more:
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanieyeboah/
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/stephanieyeboah
- Website: https://www.stephanieyeboah.com/

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