In Legally Blonde, Elle Woods follows her ex to Harvard Law to win him back—only to realize she’s way too good for him. But does the movie actually challenge the system, or just find a way to play by its rules?

This week, Brandon Kyle Goodman (Big Mouth, Tell Me Something Messy) joins DB to talk about why this movie still resonates, where it falls short on representation, and whether its brand of feminism is as empowering as we remember.

Plus: the camp, the class privilege, and why Hollywood can’t let a woman succeed without giving her a love story.

GUEST DETAILS Brandon Kyle Goodman is a writer, actor, and host. Best known for writing and voicing on the Netflix series "Big Mouth." Currently they host the iHeart sex podcast Tell Me Something Messy where the intention is to destroy shame around sex by talking about sex with humor and heart. They can also be seen hosting the E! news series RE!CAP covering the awards season. Instagram @brandonkylegoodman TikTok@brandonkgood website: brandonkylegoodman.com

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In Sleepless in Seattle, Annie falls for a man she’s never met, drawn in by the fantasy of who he might be. But what happens when that fantasy isn’t just in your head... and it's talking back to you? In this week's bonus episode, DB dives into the rise of AI relationships, the loneliness driving people to seek them out, and the ethical questions around forming attachments to something that isn’t human.

Mentioned in this episode: She Fell in Love With ChatGPT. Like, Actual Love. With Sex.

"Sleepless in Seattle": More like "Stalking in Seattle" (Rom-Com Vom)

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In Sleepless in Seattle, a woman hears a stranger’s voice on the radio and decides she has to be with him. A few cross-country flights, some light stalking, and one dramatic Empire State Building finale later— a recipe for true love? Or just another rom-com ignoring boundaries in the name of "destiny?"

This week, Talia Koren (Dating Intentionally) joins DB to unpack the film’s gender dynamics, its borderline obsessive premise, and why rom-coms always overlook the stable, reliable guy.

GUEST DETAILS Talia Koren is the host of the Dating Intentionally podcast which is dedicated to helping daters enjoy the process of finding an amazing match in an authentic way. On her show and Instagram, Talia shares lessons she learned from her dating "experiment" as well as wisdom from guests who are specialists, therapists, authors and other daters. IG: @dating.intentionally

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In The Wedding Planner, Steve and Mary never technically cross a physical line—but does that mean nothing shady is going on? If you’re emotionally invested in someone outside your relationship, is that cheating?

This week, DB brings in feminist relationship theory from bell hooks, Esther Perel, and Adrienne Rich to unpack emotional infidelity—what it is, why it happens, and how relationship norms shape who gets away with it.

Plus: why women are expected to tolerate emotional neglect, how to set boundaries without controlling your partner, and why emotional closeness doesn’t have to be a threat to commitment.

Mentioned in this episode:

"The Wedding Planner": Girlbossing, Gaslighting, and Groom-Stealing" (Rom-Com Vom)

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J.Lo and Matthew McConaughey star in one of the most early 2000s rom-coms of all time, complete with a near-death meet-cute and a love triangle that ignores all workplace ethics. But is The Wedding Planner actually romantic...? Or just a lesson in emotional cheating?

This week, comedian Liza Treyger joins DB to unpack the film’s messy gender politics, its weird obsession with wedding culture, and why Steve might be one of rom-com history’s most gaslight-y love interests.

GUEST DETAILS Named one of Variety’s “Top Ten Comics to Watch,” and a comic who 'shines where sex and politics intersect’ by The New York Times, Liza’s first ever hour-long comedy special entitled “Night Owl” is heading to Netflix and will drop globally on January 28, 2025. It comes on the heels of “Glittercheese,” a half-hour she taped for Comedy Central, as well as a half-hour she put together for Netflix’s stand-up collection “The Degenerates.” A true multi-hyphenate, in addition to working in film and television, Liza hosts the successful podcast That’s Messed Up: An SUV podcast (Exactly Right Media) which averages over half a million monthly downloads.

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It’s a concept we all grew up with, and it’s certainly shaped the way Hollywood tells stories about sex, but have you ever stopped to ask where the idea of virginity even came from? In this bonus episode, DB breaks down the history of virginity as a social construct, how it’s been used to control women, and why the hymen was never a reliable “proof” of anything.

What would sex look and feel like if it wasn’t about losing something? Let’s rethink the way we talk about first-time sex!

Mentioned in this episode:

"The 40 Year Old Virgin": The Bro Comedy That Hates Women

Planned Parenthood on Virginity

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The 40-Year-Old Virgin launched a comedy empire—but does it still hold up, or is it best left in the mid-2000s? From outdated jokes to cringeworthy gender politics, this Judd Apatow classic has a lot to answer for. 

This week, comedian and Bechdel Cast co-host Caitlin Durante joins DB to break down its virginity-obsessed premise, the way it treats female pleasure as a punchline, and why so many early 2000s comedies leaned on casual misogyny and homophobia for laughs.

GUEST DETAILSCaitlin Durante is a comedian, writer, and co-host of The Bechdel Cast, a podcast that examines movies through an intersectional feminist lens. You can follow me on Instagram at @caitlindurante and check out caitlindurante.com

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Dating is a minefield for all of us, but it comes with additional challenges for disabled folks. In this bonus episode, DB discusses the biggest challenges and what people should know about dating with a disability, featuring answers from Steve Way and Danny Kurtzman.

From navigating first dates to dealing with misconceptions, they share their perspectives on love, sex, and relationships—plus what needs to change in how the world sees disability and dating.

Mentioned in this episode: 

"Good Bad Things": Authentic Disability Representation and Interabled Love (Rom-Com Vom)

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This week on Rom-Com Vom, we’re switching things up! Instead of cringing our way through a rom-com relic, we’re talking about a brand-new release that’s changing the game and pushing the genre forward.

Good Bad Things puts a disabled love story front and center—no pity, no clichés, just a rom-com that finally gets it right. Danny Kurtzman, the film’s star, co-writer, and producer, and Steve Way, executive producer, join DB to talk about breaking stereotypes, rewriting rom-com history, and what it really means to see yourself on screen.

Plus: the deep friendship at the heart of this love story, the worst disability tropes that need to die, and why it matters who gets to tell these stories.

GUEST DETAILS Danny Kurtzman is a physically disabled actor, model, entrepreneur, and advocate for the disabled community. Today Danny's passion lies in making this world a more powerful place for all disabled individuals by using his platform to spread his disability pride and tell the world that despite being physically disabled that he says "there's nothing wrong with my body." Danny just wrapped his first feature film, Good Bad Things, where he's the main actor alongside the talented Brett Dier and Jessica Parker Kennedy. Danny also co-wrote and Produced Good Bad Things with his childhood friend and talented director Shane D. Stanger.

Steve Way is a substitute teacher by day and stand up comedian by night. He was born with Muscular Dystrophy and is an advocate for disability awareness. Steve performs stand up in the NJ/NY area, motivational speeches around the country, can be seen on the Hulu show Ramy.

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Juno frames adoption as the simple alternative to abortion—but is that really the case? In this bonus episode, Dr. Gretchen Sisson returns to answer more of our biggest questions about adoption, including why adoption isn’t the “solution” it’s often made out to be, how birth mothers experience relinquishment, and what her research for Relinquished uncovered about the realities of adoption in the U.S.

Mentioned in this episode:

"Juno": Adoption Politics and Teen Pregnancy Tropes (Rom-Com Vom)

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