Doing It! with Hannah Witton

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Dr Emma Chan, who is a doctor working in mental health, the Reproductive & Sexual Health Lead at The School of Sexuality Education, and co-author of “Sex Ed: An Inclusive Guide to Relationships”. Emma discusses what current sex education neglects to mention about pregnancy, including fertility, miscarriage, and the experience of being pregnant. They and Hannah talk about reproductive rights, navigating the climate crisis while wanting to have a baby, and how to make pregnancy healthcare spaces more inclusive to trans people. Finally, Emma and Hannah discuss emotional vocabulary and the importance of teaching communication skills to help young people express themselves, as well as how we can work towards greater contraceptive equality.

CW: miscarriage

MORE ABOUT DR EMMA CHAN
- Dr Emma Chan is a doctor working in mental health, and a workshop facilitator with the School of Sexuality Education. Emma is one of the co-creators of 'Sex Ed: An Inclusive Teenage Guide to Sex and Relationships' and also regularly writes about relationship and sex related content on the blog.
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/squisquasque
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/squishsquashsquelch/
- Blog: http://www.squishsquashsquelch.com

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Alison Wiggins, who is Subject Leader for the PGCE in Social Sciences and PGCE Psychology programmes at University College London. Alison discusses how she works with teachers to remove their own personal experiences and beliefs around sex when working with students, and the importance of listening to young people and providing what they themselves tell us that they need. Alison and Hannah talk about the crossover of anti-racism work and sex education, why Alison believes primary school isn’t too early to talk about gender roles, and why Alison tells teachers to watch the Netflix show Sex Education! Hannah and Alison discuss how to create a more LGBTQ+ inclusive space in RSE for students and teachers, and why the RSE you deliver in your school won't have any impact unless the culture of your school as a whole reflects the values of equality and safety that you are teaching. Finally, they explain why we should centre pleasure (not just safety) in sex education and uphold it as an important valid reason why people have sex!

CW: brief mention of suicide, mentions of sexual harassment and violence

MORE ABOUT ALISON WIGGINS
Alison Wiggins is the Subject Leader for the PGCE in Social Sciences and PGCE Psychology programmes at IoE-UCL and leads work across ITE on PSHE, RSE and Anti-racism. She is also a tutor on the MA Education programme and contributes to the Understanding Research and Feminist Pedagogies and approaches to education modules.  Until earlier this academic year, she was also a part-time Psychology and Sociology teacher in a London Secondary school and sixth form and has been teaching for the last 14 years. She is vocal and active feminist and is passionate about building an equitable Education system and using Education and Social research as vehicles for Social Justice.  Her research interests are focused on issues of Race and Gender equity, and she is currently working with the Equality and Inclusion team in her department to develop our use of Anti-racist practice and pedagogy and is working on the creation of a new module for the MA Education focused on ‘Decolonialisation’ in education through curriculum, assessment and pedagogy.  This year, she will also be working with colleagues on cross-institutional research projects focused on the racialised experiences of Minority Ethnic student teachers and is developing an RSE specialism for all PGCE students though her collaborative work with the School of Sexuality Education. She hopes that one day she will get around to beginning her PhD!
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/ally_wiggins
- School of Sexuality Education: https://www.instagram.com/school_sexed/?hl=en

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by LalalaLetMeExplain, an anonymous sex, dating and relationships expert and a qualified social worker who has just released her first book: “Block, Delete, and Move On”. Lala and Hannah talk about what dating with self-love really looks like, why it’s more important to look for green flags than red flags when it comes to getting to know someone, and why it’s so common for there to be a disconnect between the advice we give other people and the advice we give ourselves. Lala discusses incorporating mindfulness in your approach to dating - and why you maybe shouldn’t always listen to your vagina.

CW: abusive relationships

MORE ABOUT LALALALETMEEXPLAIN
LalalaLetMeExplain is Instagram sensation - an anonymous sex, dating and relationships expert who has amassed a staggering 175k followers! A qualified social worker and dating & relationships educator, she left her 15-year career in the public sector in 2018 to bring her professional knowledge to social media. This is a smart, aware, provocative and engaging debut which empowers women to tackle the pitfalls of modern dating and helps them to successfully navigate unsatisfactory relationships with a man, and Lala’s personal experience and career as a trauma expert ensure she is uniquely positioned to write this book.

You can follow Lalalaletmeexplain on Instagram @lalalaletmeexplain: https://instagram.com/lalalaletmeexplain

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Quinn Rhodes, who is a queer, disabled trans sex writer. They talk about why Quinn is reclaiming the words “transsexual” and “faggot,”, why he feels the word “pegging” has homophobic undertones, and how companies need to stop making masturbation all about capitalism. Quinn discusses how to queer up your sex life, what gender-affirming sex truly looks like, and gives advice on how to throw the cishetnormative sexual script out of the window and figure out what actually works for you (and why lists can really help!). Brownie points for anyone who can count the amount of times Hannah and Quinn say the phrase "fucked up the ass" in this episode!

CW: mental illness, depression and suicidal thoughts

**MORE ABOUT QUINN RHODES**

Quinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, and disabled sex writer. He’s an inconvenient transsexual approaching faggotry and a sex nerd with vaginismus. Quinn writes about shame, queering sex, and his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. He can usually be found wearing stomp-on-the-cisheteropatriarchy boots and figuring out how to look more obviously queer. You can find his filthy and think-y writing about sex at onqueerstreet.com
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/onqueerstreet
- Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/onqueerstreet

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Melanie Murphy, an award winning lifestyle YouTuber, bestselling author and Hannah’s good friend! Mel talks about how relationship with her bisexuality has changed since becoming a mum, being genderless blobs with her husband, and how she navigates creating parenting content whilst also maintaining boundaries for her and her family. Mel also opens up on the impact of giving birth on her body, as well as the miracle of the body and its capacity to heal. Melanie shares her advice on around navigating your sex life with your partner after you have a baby and learning to prioritise time and making extra effort as a couple after becoming parents, and Hannah and Melanie talked about how to cope with anxiety when you're pregnant and dealing with fears of miscarriage. Finally, Hannah shares why she didn’t want to see the picture Melanie took of her vulva after giving birth!

CW: discussion of miscarriage, mention of eating disorders

MORE ABOUT MELANIE MURPHY
Melanie Murphy is an award-winning lifestyle Youtuber and best-selling Irish author from Dublin, Ireland, where she lives with her husband and one year old son. Melanie’s online content about creativity, relationships, motherhood, sexuality, confidence and mental health has attracted hundreds of thousands of followers across social media platforms and her YouTube videos have amassed over 72 million views to date. She was named Blogosphere's ‘Influencer of the Year’ in 2018 and ‘Best Social Media Star' at the 2020 Gossies.
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melaniiemurphy/
- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MelaNiie

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Sangeeta Pillai, a podcaster, activist, and speaker, and the founder of South Asian feminist network Soul Sutra. Sangeeta discusses the impact of colonisation on Indian sexuality, as well as the shame surrounding South Asian women’s sexuality. She and Hannah also talk about what the Kama Sutra is really about, and how to own your sexuality yourself.

CW: Shame, homophobia, and domestic abuse.

MORE ABOUT SANGEETA PILLAI

Podcaster, activist & speaker Sangeeta Pillai is the founder of the South Asian feminist network [Soul Sutras](https://soulsutras.co.uk/) which is all about tackling taboos within the culture.

She’s the creator of Masala Podcast silver winner at the British Podcast Awards 2021 & 2021 & also a winner at Spotify SoundUp 2018. Sangeeta is also the creator of the Masala Monologues series of writing workshops & theatre shows in the UK & the US. She has been featured on BBC Radio London, Evening Standard, Cosmpolitan, Eastern Eye, Huffington Post, BBC Asian Radio, Brown Girl Magazine and has been a writer for over 20 years.

- Twitter: https://twitter.com/soul_sutras
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soulsutras/
- Website: https://www.soulsutras.co.uk/

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Ella Dawson, who is Ella is a sex and culture critic who digs into topics we usually avoid in polite company. Ella discusses herpes - how common herpes is, how recent the stigma around herpes is, and also how sex-positive sex education can talk about STIs in a way that doesn’t exacerbate STI stigma. Ella and Hannah also talk about how talking to sexual partners about your herpes and STI status can create greater intimacy and vulnerability, leading to deeper connections and actually better sex, and how conversations that change how we think about herpes are crucial to end the stigma, shame, and fear.

CW: discussion of toxic relationships and unhealthy power dynamics

MORE ABOUT ELLA DAWSON
Ella Dawson is a sex and culture critic who drinks too much Diet Coke. In her writing, Ella digs into topics we usually avoid in polite company: from our dehumanizing culture of casual sex, to how shame keeps us silent about our mental and sexual health. Her short fiction has been published in six erotica collections, and she is currently working on her first romance novel. Find her on Twitter, Instagram and Patreon as @brosandprose.

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brosandprose/
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/brosandprose
- Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/brosandprose

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Florence and Reed, the hosts of the Fucks Given podcast and co-founders of Come Curious, to talk all things fetishes and roleplay! Reed shares about her tickle fetish and her journey with acknowledging and accepting it and being more open about it, as well reducing the shame that she's felt for years because she has a tickle fetish. Florence also talks about her fascination with lactation and how it is such a turn on for her, and whether it’s a kink or a fetish for her. This episode also gets into discussions about consensual non-consent fantasy and roleplay: what that is and, if it's something you're interested in, things to think about to do it safely and in a way that everybody is into.

CW: discussions about consensual non-consent fantasy and roleplay throughout. Also emetophobia warning around 17 minutes.

MORE ABOUT FLORENCE AND REED (COME CURIOUS)

Ethical educational sex, porn, nudity & mental health advice for everyone, founded by Florence Bark and Reed Amber.

- F**ks Given podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4nQnVqQcEn4ptshlKjtdqo
- Come Curious Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/comecurious
- Come Curious Twitter: https://twitter.com/comecurious
- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/comecurious

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In this end of year episode, Hannah and Moog, Hannah’s assistant, reflect on working on the podcast this year, the rebrand, Hannah’s pregnancy health break that put the podcast unexpectedly on pause for a while, plans for 2022 and what's going to happen with the podcast when Hannah’s on maternity leave? They talk about their favourite episodes, if pregnancy has changed my perception on any topics we've covered, the controversy over the episode on sex addiction, Moog's experience doing Ev'Yan Whitney's Sensual Selfie Challenge, and lots lots more!

CW: Brief abortion mention when we talk about Twilight, around 16 - 18 minutes. Eating disorder and body image when we talk about the Sensual Selfie Challenge at around 18 - 23 minutes.

This episode is sponsored by Zencastr, the brilliant podcasting platform we use to record all our remote episodes! Follow this link and use code 'DoingIt' to get 30% off your first 3 months: http://zen.ai/doingit

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