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November 05, 2024 Stop Projecting In Your Relationships & Forgiveness

Stop Projecting In Your Relationships

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1. How do I know if I'm projecting my insecurities onto my partner? 2. Why do people project their emotions and fears in relationships? 3. What are the signs that projection is causing problems in my relationship? 4. How can I stop projecting my past experiences onto my current relationship?

Projecting Your Emotions in Your Relationship

Projection in relationships is a common but often unnoticed behavior that can lead to misunderstandings, unnecessary conflicts, and emotional distance. When we project, we take our own fears, insecurities, and unresolved feelings and attribute them to our partner, seeing them not as they are but as a reflection of our inner landscape. This unconscious habit can erode intimacy, leaving us feeling isolated and disconnected.

Understanding the Roots of Projection

Projection often stems from unresolved trauma; limiting beliefs, false identities, or negative emotions we carry within ourselves. For instance, if we struggle with feelings of inadequacy, we might project this insecurity onto our partner by interpreting their actions as criticism or disinterest, even when this isn’t the case. Projection acts as a mirror for our inner struggles, bringing our fears and doubts to the surface, yet projecting them outward rather than addressing them within.

Signs You Might Be Projecting

Do you find yourself blaming your partner for issues that, upon reflection, might stem from your own fears? Do you interpret neutral actions or words through the lens of past hurts or anxieties? When we project, we often feel triggered by small things, experiencing reactions that may seem out of proportion to the situation. Recognizing these signs is the first step to healing the pattern of projection.

The Path to Greater Intimacy

When we stop projecting, we open the door to genuine, authentic connection. We see our partner as they are, not as a reflection of our fears. This clarity builds trust, understanding, and intimacy, fostering a relationship grounded in truth and mutual respect. By recognizing and healing our projections, we move closer to the loving and fulfilling relationships we truly desire.

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Transcriptions:

1 00:00:03.120 --> 00:00:12.440 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: Live from the universe. This is Dr. Erin signing in to say, Hello! How are my divine loves? How's my community? How are you guys doing.

2 00:00:12.610 --> 00:00:24.190 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: What I know for sure is that you are divine. You are an all-knowing, all-powerful, spiritual being, having a human experience. And so today, I want to get our mind right.

3 00:00:24.420 --> 00:00:32.470 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: and really come tapping into source within, so that you can take on this week powerfully living in alignment with your truth

4 00:00:32.540 --> 00:00:38.789 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: and in your mission and in your purpose and calling. So let's do this thing, taking a deep breath into the nose.

5 00:00:40.470 --> 00:00:47.999 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: taking such deep breath that when you inhale your actual diaphragm is completely expanding

6 00:00:48.070 --> 00:00:51.540 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: and holding the breath at the top and exhaling out.

7 00:00:51.760 --> 00:01:00.680 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: And I'd like you to do this 3 times, inhaling and holding and what you're doing when you are expanding that diaphragm, you are resetting the neurological system

8 00:01:01.250 --> 00:01:11.009 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: and exhaling out. And as you do this at your own pace, breathing in as slow as possible as deep as possible. What we are doing is we are tuning in.

9 00:01:11.350 --> 00:01:14.019 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: We are resetting the neurological system

10 00:01:14.130 --> 00:01:16.589 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: so that we can come into

11 00:01:16.970 --> 00:01:22.770 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: the peace and the silence, and coming into the higher frequency

12 00:01:22.780 --> 00:01:32.870 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: that is actually so finite that that is the stillness, and at the very center point is no frequency. It's called 0 point field.

13 00:01:32.900 --> 00:01:35.380 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: and that is the God source within you.

14 00:01:35.690 --> 00:01:38.110 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: And so tapping into that today.

15 00:01:38.340 --> 00:01:42.639 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: into that all-knowing, unified essence of who you are.

16 00:01:43.270 --> 00:01:44.930 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: I know today

17 00:01:45.090 --> 00:02:06.430 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: is a session to remember who you are, and to live in alignment with the highest order, no longer handing your power over to the external world. Being a sovereign being, which means you are not the effect of anything of the external world, because this is all an illusion, the matrix we are coming into 1st Cause 1st source the I am. And in that I'm declaring for myself

18 00:02:06.450 --> 00:02:17.739 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: and for each and everyone who is listening today, and for everyone across the globe, the galaxies, all sentient beings, all masters, all angels, all guides. I know we are one, and I say yes

19 00:02:17.830 --> 00:02:26.949 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: to what we choose to focus on and create and manifest the highest, highest thing which is you, which is the unique divine expression of God's source.

20 00:02:27.210 --> 00:02:34.630 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: I simply release this as my word is law, as together we say. And so it is. And so it is okay.

21 00:02:34.700 --> 00:02:52.320 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: So today, what I want to go over is this week's universal law distinction. There is only one universal law. It's a law of cause and effect, and there's different distinctions of understanding how the law works, which is the spiritual law of manifesting. It's the very advanced teaching of law of attraction.

22 00:02:52.660 --> 00:03:14.459 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: So today, first, st I want to go over this. And then what I want to do is talk to you about a case, study about toxic relationships, and really stop projecting in your relationships. And what that really takes and how to spot when you're projecting, or somebody in your life is projecting, and how to actually handle it from both sides.

23 00:03:14.460 --> 00:03:24.089 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: So let's do this thing. So first, st let's just do our spiritual daily spiritual practice. You know, everyone has their own daily spiritual practice. If you're in

24 00:03:24.370 --> 00:03:32.700 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: my membership or in any of my programs we teach having a powerful daily spiritual practice. And the reason why is because even if you do all your inner work.

25 00:03:32.830 --> 00:03:35.455 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: even if you you know

26 00:03:36.340 --> 00:03:52.670 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: you know, do all your trauma work. You're still going to need to get your mind right? Okay, you need to get your mind right, and having a daily spiritual practice is imperative. I don't care how much work you've done. If you don't have a spiritual practice, you're going to come back into the effect. It's like, imagine that at every cell

27 00:03:53.050 --> 00:04:08.289 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: there is the frequency again, at the point is 0 point, and it gets really high vibration in the very center. And as you go way out to the outside like a torus field, it gets into a lower frequency. That's the world that we see out here. That's the external world.

28 00:04:08.420 --> 00:04:14.629 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: So we don't want to live in the external world. We want to be really tapped into that inner source.

29 00:04:14.670 --> 00:04:22.740 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: But having this external experience. Okay. So having a daily spiritual practice is all about always staying connected to your true self.

30 00:04:23.270 --> 00:04:24.260 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: So

31 00:04:24.530 --> 00:04:39.169 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: the universal law distinction of this week we live. This also. We want to embody the universal law, to know it in our logical mind, and who we are and who we embody what we embody. So this week's law is the law of forgiveness

32 00:04:39.530 --> 00:04:42.559 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: which comes down to this mantra or this affirmation.

33 00:04:42.700 --> 00:04:46.780 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: Release all judgments and set yourself free

34 00:04:46.920 --> 00:04:55.660 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: when you release judgment right? You've cast yourself out of the Garden of Eden the moment that you judge or put a positive or negative meaning. That's polarization.

35 00:04:55.820 --> 00:04:58.350 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: So this is a law of releasing

36 00:04:58.580 --> 00:05:16.770 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: and really being released also from the chains of judgment. Right? We don't have to judge anyone because universal law just takes care of everyone's cause and effect of whatever they've done. We don't have to act like God for somebody else. Okay, that's not our place in this universe. Okay, when you forgive, you get yourself back.

37 00:05:17.020 --> 00:05:23.039 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: When you forgive, you get your energetics back, you cut all cords, you do soul retrieval right when you forgive

38 00:05:23.400 --> 00:05:37.509 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: you. Give yourself back to yourself. You're no longer the victim. It doesn't mean that you, when you forgive somebody, doesn't mean it, don't you? Don't have the cause and effect of maybe you don't want them in your life, or maybe there's legal things you have to do, whatever. But forgiving is really about energetics.

39 00:05:38.360 --> 00:05:47.709 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: Right? This is the restoration of energetic ties of bondage. It is not about letting someone off the hook of cause and effect. Universal law will do that

40 00:05:47.780 --> 00:05:51.850 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: it's about freeing yourself from the jail of victimhood.

41 00:05:52.170 --> 00:06:10.050 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: Okay, so just taking that into our day, our week, our life embodying that, remembering that anytime we have judgment anytime. We want to, you know. Hold resentment for anyone we get to remember, hey? If I do that it's not going to turn out very well for me, I'm going to become the effect of that. Okay?

42 00:06:10.080 --> 00:06:15.000 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: So the law of forgiveness may you take that into this week and into this day?

43 00:06:15.460 --> 00:06:21.890 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: Okay, taking a deep breath in going into a case study of a client. And

44 00:06:22.490 --> 00:06:27.489 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: the topic today is stop projecting in your relationships.

45 00:06:27.590 --> 00:06:41.319 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: So we 1st wanted to define what is projecting. Right projecting is really pointing the finger. You made me feel this way because of you. I'm experiencing this because of you. This is your fault. Right? That's projecting.

46 00:06:41.470 --> 00:06:48.710 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: Projecting is also like looking through a filter, because all of us have this filter. It's called a trauma filter.

47 00:06:48.840 --> 00:06:51.340 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: and we will literally

48 00:06:51.490 --> 00:06:53.580 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: hear every conversation.

49 00:06:53.820 --> 00:07:15.530 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: experience everything within our relationship through a filter. Okay, so this client case study is a client came to me, and she actually wanted to be more expressed in her business. She wanted to be more expressed, and making more money, and and being, you know, finding her truth in her business and her mission, but she kept feeling like something was holding her back.

50 00:07:16.250 --> 00:07:22.000 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: And what often happens because people come for different things, you know, to work with me.

51 00:07:22.030 --> 00:07:34.149 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: But 9 out of 10 clients are dealing with dysfunctional relationships. Okay, whether it be with a parent, whether it be with a sibling, whether it be with their partner, a peer or a client. Right?

52 00:07:34.190 --> 00:07:54.510 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: 9 out of 10 people are dealing with dysfunctional relationships. Some are more extreme, some are less extreme, but the truth is that they usually come, and they have upsets and their upsets in their relationships are zapping their energy, and that is impacting their ability to make more money or get more clarity in their business, or show up at whatever level.

53 00:07:54.730 --> 00:08:08.589 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: So pretty much every client I work with we have to deal with their relationships, their dysfunctional relationship. Because if we don't clear up their energetics, it's not it. It leaks into all different areas of their life, right?

54 00:08:08.640 --> 00:08:11.829 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: So the upsets that usually happen

55 00:08:11.920 --> 00:08:41.650 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: are what is called projecting. I'm upset because my partner, you know, whatever isn't being empathetic enough to me, they're not. He's not hearing me right, or I'm upset because my partner or my mom did this, and and she's, you know, doing XY, and Z right. It's always an upset and that upset is taking their energy and their focus. So we have to deal with the this projecting and deal with the upset and obviously deal with deeper going on

56 00:08:41.870 --> 00:08:44.350 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: so that they can get freed up in their energetics.

57 00:08:44.360 --> 00:09:06.930 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: So the topic is how you know, stop projecting in your relationships. So we have to again define what is projecting. It's pointing the finger. Right? It's blame, shame, guilt, game. It is saying. You're making me feel this way. So one. We have to educate ourselves in, not a blunt way, but a metaphysical way. The truth is that no one can make you feel

58 00:09:06.930 --> 00:09:14.810 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: any way. You are the creator of your emotions. You're the creator of your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions, and your reality right?

59 00:09:14.820 --> 00:09:36.959 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: You are choosing to either. Stay in that environment, right? We can't say we're not going to be effective. If we put our hand in the fire, we're going to feel something right. If we stay in an environment we're going to feel something we can only control. We can control within our own meaning and attachment and energetics around. But we can choose to put ourselves into an environment where we have choice over our thoughts, our feelings, our emotions. Okay.

60 00:09:37.230 --> 00:09:41.759 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: so we have to 1st educate ourselves and understand truth.

61 00:09:42.130 --> 00:09:49.300 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: The metaphysics is that you're the creator of your reality. Okay? So then, we have to really take a look at. So what's happening?

62 00:09:49.470 --> 00:09:51.020 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: You know, the upset

63 00:09:51.040 --> 00:09:55.739 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: emotions are amazing. You know, we're all usually so afraid of emotions.

64 00:09:55.990 --> 00:10:12.350 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: and for me, I'm a very like my emotions are so intense. I'm empathetic. I feel the whole race consciousness. It's intense in my body sometimes. Okay, so it's taken me a long time to master my emotions and use my emotions instead of being used by my emotions.

65 00:10:12.500 --> 00:10:35.359 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: So in this, obviously, you can't go into the whole lesson. If you're in my membership and in one of my programs, you will really understand and go through the processes of transforming the emotion going through the process of doing the deep trauma work. But we have to recognize that one. We have to know that we do not. No one can create our emotions same for our clients. If you're listening because you want to master spiritual coaching for yourself.

66 00:10:35.400 --> 00:10:39.629 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: or you want to master spiritual coaching for your clients to have clients. Right?

67 00:10:40.540 --> 00:10:44.610 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: So one, we have to know that no one can create someone else's emotions.

68 00:10:44.860 --> 00:11:06.680 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: Number 2 is we have to look at what is being projected right? What is being projected? It's usually through a trauma filter. So having to do one's trauma work is imperative. I don't know how anyone coaches or does any work with any client without doing their trauma work. It'd be impossible on mine, because it always is the trauma identity. What happens in trauma is something happens.

69 00:11:06.690 --> 00:11:31.059 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: Trauma is not what happens to you. Trauma from a spiritual perspective is what happens within you. It's the decisions that are made in that traumatic incident, and it usually looks like, Hey, I'm not lovable. Something's wrong with me. I can't trust anyone. Everyone leaves, whatever it is. It's called the trauma command. Okay, it's an imprint, it is. It's the energetic. It can also come from trauma in this lifetime.

70 00:11:31.170 --> 00:11:47.360 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: Trauma of last time of trauma from your ancestor lineage. Right? It's it's what calls it's like the curse in the it's the masterclass of the soul. It's the soul's assignment. It's this masterclass, this lifetime, and this is a repetitive things that will project out into

71 00:11:47.520 --> 00:12:05.770 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: your character, your persona in this lifetime right? So this client came for wanting to make more money, wanting to be more expressed in their business. But we had to deal with the upsets and had to clear up the energetics in her relationship. And once we cleared up the things in her relationship automatically

72 00:12:05.970 --> 00:12:16.080 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: she started making more money. There was just more flow in her business. Everything started happening right. So people come with certain things. But you, as you know, or for yourself.

73 00:12:16.400 --> 00:12:36.120 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: you have to realize, hey? It may not even be the issue over here with money and expression in my business it may be actually the command of I'm not worthy is projecting into my relationship and the money and my career. It's 1 identity and that identity, that false identity, that limited perception, identity.

74 00:12:36.150 --> 00:12:40.699 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: is actually out picturing into what we call the vibrational match of your life. Okay.

75 00:12:40.770 --> 00:12:41.870 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: so

76 00:12:42.040 --> 00:12:49.089 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: again, stop projecting in your relationships. You need to realize you're the creator of your emotions and feelings.

77 00:12:49.090 --> 00:13:12.060 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: and that you are seen through your own trauma filter. And so once you've done your inner work, people have a delusion, they think oh, you'll just never be triggered in a relationship again. You're never going to be, you know, having emotions, I feel like that is a lie. But what it does is you birth, your truth. We actually create our life's manual within the membership portal, right within. And when we really clear of what are our standards.

78 00:13:12.330 --> 00:13:25.429 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: what are our core values. What is our ideal scene with the people who are around? What are our deal breakers around who are around? And when we do that then we can know when we're getting triggered in a relationship or upset and go, hey, what's really going on?

79 00:13:25.750 --> 00:13:45.879 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: Is this something pulling up for me within myself. Or is this something that I'm not aligning in this relationship? So I can either go, hey, I'm just not vibing this relationship, and I can go my separate way without making them wrong, and me wrong, and I can just accept it and go. Hey, we're just not on the same. We just don't see life the same. We don't vibe, or I can say, Hey, I care about this relationship.

80 00:13:46.330 --> 00:13:53.480 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: And I'm actually willing to work through this and and have an inspiring conversation, instead of blaming and shaming the person

81 00:13:53.620 --> 00:14:05.560 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: of how they're not listening to me or hearing me, or whatever I can actually have an enrolling conversation, and I can actually embody that which I seek. And usually, if you don't say anything to the other party, and you embody what you seek.

82 00:14:05.660 --> 00:14:11.759 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: they will begin to rise, or they'll take themselves out of your universe. It's really simple, it's magic.

83 00:14:11.930 --> 00:14:13.630 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: I'll tell you. It's miraculous.

84 00:14:13.640 --> 00:14:26.349 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: it is divine principle. It is spiritual law it is manifesting. This is the embodiment of the spiritual mastering, spiritual coaching truly and truly. Okay. So in this, I'm knowing a powerful week.

85 00:14:26.350 --> 00:14:45.749 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: As we went over the universal law of forgiveness, knowing there's only one universal law, and we went over the distinction that all clients, including yourself, have to deal with your relationship issues, because that is what is actually the same identity that's projecting your relationships. It's zapping. All your energy is projecting into your health

86 00:14:45.850 --> 00:14:53.679 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: and your career, and your vitality, and your money, and all of the above. And so I'm just knowing a beautiful divine life, taking

87 00:14:53.830 --> 00:14:55.139 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: a breath in

88 00:14:56.310 --> 00:15:01.270 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: and exhaling out and knowing a powerful week, living in principle, living in truth.

89 00:15:02.740 --> 00:15:07.869 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: recognize that all of life is a masterclass for us to get developed in our spiritual abilities.

90 00:15:07.980 --> 00:15:15.200 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: so that when we leave the spiritual realm we can go through all consciousness and know exactly how to direct consciousness

91 00:15:15.500 --> 00:15:16.860 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: for eternity.

92 00:15:17.030 --> 00:15:37.790 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: I say, yes, this I release this. Let go ask that we say, and so it is, and if you have not already, you can grab the spiritual coach planner, the coach session planner below, and you can also join the the membership and get your mind right, and do all this deep, deep work, all your deep work for yourself or for your clients. Okay, have a beautiful blessed day.

93 00:15:45.600 --> 00:15:58.349 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: And so if you haven't already, you can grab the coach session Planner Link, below, and if you're ready to do your deep dive into doing your trauma work, really doing your inner work and birthing your life's purpose and your life's manual.

94 00:15:58.350 --> 00:16:17.130 DR. ERIN | Doctor of Divinity: you can come and grab the link below to join the membership there, as well as for people who want to get developed in business and get certified in our work. There's other programs as well have a beautiful, blessed day. You guys, you can go to drarintv. That's DRER. IN, TV, have a beautiful, blessed day, and may you live your truth.

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