The Art Of Coaching

E378 | How to Silence Your Inner Critic and Give Yourself More Credit


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This episode is for a very specific type of person. 

Those of you who are hard on yourself, and if you're being honest, it's to an unhealthy degree. The perfectionist who struggles to recognize their own accomplishments, who tears themselves apart over minor slip-ups, and maybe even finds it hard to fully celebrate the wins of others. Not because of jealousy, but because the voice in your head has been trained to fixate on what’s missing instead of what’s been earned.

Maybe you’re not wired this way all the time, but after a big achievement, you felt... nothing. Maybe even a little depressed that it didn’t feel like more. We know many of you in our audience fall into one of these camps—and this episode is for you.

Here’s a little premeditated tough love: at some point, it has to be good enough. 

So how do we move past this all-or-nothing mentality we’ll never win? How can we celebrate our accomplishments without dulling our edge?

In this episode, Brett breaks down:

  • The 70% Rule—it’s immeasurable value and how it can be applied in both creative work and business
  • How to celebrate milestones while preserving the lessons from when you fell flat on your face
  • Who drains your joy, how to cut them out, and the hard truth: you might be doing it to others too
  • Ways to be your own hype man without softening your edge
  • Practical tools for when you hate your own work—and how to get to the root of why that happens
  • During the episode, Brett opened up about the various challenges he’s faced while writing his new book. If you want early access to updates, release info, and behind-the-scenes content, follow along at artofcoaching.com/book.

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    We're teaming up with professionals like Taylor Somerville and Lauren Vestal to introduce breathwork, recovery strategies, and techniques to help you downregulate and bring some peace back into your day-to-day life. You’ll also get space to move, connect, and troubleshoot how to have the tough conversations you've been avoiding—so you can show up for yourself as much as you do for everyone else.

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    📍Folsom, CA – August 9-10

    Referenced Resources:

    Article: The Imperfectionist 

    E208 | Robert Greene: Mastering Human Nature & Facing Your Flaws

    Related Episode:

    E259 | Understanding and Overcoming Perfectionism

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