In this episode, Ash sits down with husband, father, and business owner James Date to explore what life looks like after addiction—and how recovery has reshaped the way he moves through the world.

James shares how community, service, and genuine connection became the anchors of his sobriety, transforming what once felt like isolation into a life rich with meaning and purpose. He speaks openly about the power of vulnerability, the role of daily routines and prayer in keeping him grounded, and how embracing honesty has deepened his relationships at home and beyond.

Together, Ash and James confront the lingering stigma around addiction and discuss the strength it takes to ask for help. Through moments of reflection and gratitude, James reveals the quiet joy found in showing up authentically each day—a reminder that recovery isn’t just about living without substances, but about rediscovering who you are underneath it all.

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to James Date and His Journey

02:54 The Importance of Connection and Community in Recovery

05:52 Daily Routines and Spiritual Practices

08:58 The Role of Surrender in Recovery

11:58 Compassion and Kindness in Daily Life

15:01 Finding Joy in Service and Helping Others

17:57 The Impact of Sponsorship in Recovery

21:03 The Struggles of Identifying as an Addict

24:03 Behind the Smile: A Photo Reflection

26:53 The Journey to Acknowledging Addiction

30:08 Understanding the Roots of Addiction

32:54 The Ongoing Journey of Recovery

36:18 Understanding Alcoholism and Addiction

38:30 Rock Bottom Moments

42:14 Finding the Right Rehab

49:34 The Journey of Outpatient Recovery

51:23 The Importance of Vulnerability

56:54 Reconnecting with Self and Family

01:02:25 Non-Negotiables for a Fulfilling Life

Connect with James below:

Instagram: @slayingsober

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Upcoming Workshops:

A Return To You | One Day Retreat 

Sunday 22nd February, 2026

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The Embodied Woman Retreat | Gold Coast | May 2026 

Rest and Renew Holistic Retreat in Bali | August 2026

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