In this episode, Kimberly and Tyson discuss the magnitude of pornography including addiction, nervous system regulation, and recovery. Tyson describes his own personal journey being addicted to and then healing from porn addiction and how that informs his work with men and couples today. He discusses the prevalence of porn, how it functions with technology and AI, and how many men use it to either up-regulate or down-regulate their nervous systems. Rather than moralizing porn and porn addiction, Tyson describes how to find healing and freedom through channeling real life force as well as advice for women who may have partners or sons addicted to, or exposed to, pornography.

 

Bio

Tyson Adams is a trauma-informed IFS men's coach, somatic bodyworker and psychedelic facilitator. After spending 20 years addicted to pornography, he outgrew it ten years ago and has found his passion and purpose in helping other men master their lifeforce energy. He also co-facilitates men's work leadership intensives and works with couples experiencing intimacy challenges. When he's not working you'll catch him on a rock wall or riding a slackline in sunny San Diego.

 

What He Shares:

–His own addiction and healing from porn

–The normalization and prevalence of porn

–Porn and the nervous system

–Advice for women and mothers

–How to heal from porn addiction

 

What You’ll Hear:

–Tyson’s first introduction to porn at early age

–Boyhood innocence being fractured

–Secrecy, shame, and hiding with internet porn

–Joined fraternity in college

–Porn chairman in fraternity

–Normalization of porn and drinking

–90 percent of porn has some form of violence

–A third of internet searches is porn

–Expecting partners to mimic porn content

–Normalization of extreme sexual behaviors from porn

–Highjacking nervous system

–No age verification 

–Comparing ourselves to AI models

–War on nervous system and spiritual warfare

–Installing browser blockers on children’s devices

–Ages 8-9 typically first exposure to porn

–BARK.us Blocker and search tracker

–Importance of early conversations with children

–Importance of community in these conversations for men and boys

–Blind spot in mens’ groups around sex and sexuality

–Inflation of power causing harm in mens’ groups

–How and why Tyson ended porn addiction

–Psychedelic use with studying pornography

–Preys on trauma and normalizes behaviors 

–Men using porn to activate energy and nervous system regulation

–Women and porn addictions

–Seminal fluid as a life force

–Healthy number of ejaculation frequency 

–Not moralizing porn addiction

–Women blaming themselves for partner’s porn addiction

–Seek therapy and trusted community help in partner’s addiction

–Hope and healing is possible

–Open communication and repair

–Developing archetypes with sex worker

–One on one work and IFS sessions

–From thinking to feeling way to orgasm

–Nervous system resetting with clients

–Convergence of technology, porn, and psychedelics

 

Resources

Tyson Adams' Website 

IG: @tysonadams__