July 29, 2025

EP 230: Stop Making Yourself the Exception! Why >60% of Women Recover from Eating Disorders + The ONE Question to Help You Do the Same

18 minutes

Ready for some tough love, sis? If you've been walking around asking "Why me? Why do I have to struggle with this eating disorder? Why do I even bother trying to recover?" - this episode is your wake-up call. Lindsey delivers the reality check you need to stop playing victim in your own recovery story and start asking the question that changes everything: WHY NOT YOU? With 60-70% of women recovering from eating disorders, it's time to stop making yourself the exception and start making yourself the example.

Key Takeaways

You are the author of your own story - stop writing yourself as the victim

60-70% of women with eating disorders make a full recovery

Your past thinking is driving your current reality - change your thoughts, change your story

You're not too broken, too far gone, or too different to recover

Recovery Warriors ask "Why NOT me?" instead of "Why me?"

Main Topics Covered

🎭 The Story You're Telling Yourself

How you've become the main character in a story you hate

Why victim questions keep you stuck in the disorder cycle

The difference between facts and the meaning you assign to facts

How your current identity as "Woman with Eating Disorder" drives your thoughts

📊 The Recovery Statistics That Should Wake You Up

60-70% of people with eating disorders make full recovery

80% recovery rates with proper treatment (Journal of Clinical Medicine)

85% of people who complete treatment maintain long-term recovery

People who believe in recovery are 3x more likely to achieve it

🚫 Stop Making Yourself the Exception

Why "my eating disorder is different" keeps you stuck

How victim identity protects you from scary recovery work

The uncomfortable truth about avoiding weight gain fears

Why playing small feels safer than playing powerful

⚡ The Identity Shift from Victim to Recovery Warrior

Changing your default brain setting from ED thoughts to recovery thoughts

How Recovery Warriors think vs. how victims think

The power of deciding your recovery in advance

New identity statement: "I am a Recovery Warrior"

🔄 The "Why NOT You" Reframe

Old Questions → New Questions:

"Why me?" → "Why NOT me?"

"Why can't I be normal?" → "Why NOT me to have complete food freedom?"

"Why do I even bother?" → "Why NOT me to inspire others with my recovery?"

"What if I'm too broken?" → "Why NOT me to be fully recovered by next year?"

Powerful Quotes from This Episode

"You are literally writing yourself as the victim in your own life story, and then getting mad that you're playing the victim role."

"Your past and current thinking is driving your entire life. How's that working for you, sis?"

"Stop making yourself special in all the wrong ways."

"You are one decision away from changing your entire life trajectory."

"You are not a victim of your eating disorder. You are a Recovery Warrior."

Scripture References

1 Corinthians 10:13: "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind."

Romans 8:37: "We are more than conquerors."

The Come-to-Jesus Reality Check

You have been playing small in your own life

You're not too broken, too far gone, or the exception

The women who recover aren't special - they just decided to stop being the victim

You are one decision away from changing everything

Recovery is not just possible for you - it's PROBABLE

Your New Power Statement

"I am not a victim of my eating disorder. I am a Recovery Warrior who is actively choosing healing over hiding, growth over staying small, and freedom over fear. If 60-70% of women recover, then I choose to be in that majority. Why? Because WHY NOT ME?"

Homework & Action Steps

Write down: "I am a Recovery Warrior, and recovery is my new identity"

Memorize and repeat the Power Statement daily

Replace every "Why me?" with "WHY NOT ME?"

Decide in advance that you WILL recover (not hope, not maybe - WILL)

Apply to work with Lindsey at herbestself.co

Signs This Episode is For You

You've been struggling with ED thoughts for years but are ready for real support

Your biggest fear about recovery is weight gain

You catch yourself asking "Why me?" or "Why do I even bother?"

You feel like you might be "too far gone" or "too broken"

You're tired of being the victim in your own life story

The Direct Challenge

Stop asking: "Why me? Why can't I recover? Why do I even bother?" Start declaring: "Why NOT me? Why NOT full recovery? Why NOT complete food freedom?"

Ready to Stop Playing Victim?

If this episode hit you right in the heart and you're ready to shift from "Why me?" to "WHY NOT ME?" - it's time to take action.

Head to www.herbestself.co right now and fill out a client application to work with Lindsey personally. Stop doing this alone and let her help you rewrite your story from victim to Recovery Warrior.

Connect with Lindsey

Website: www.herbestself.co

Private Facebook Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com

Client Applications: www.herbestself.co

About the Host

Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She specializes in helping women stop making themselves the exception and start making themselves the example in eating disorder recovery.

If this episode fired you up and shifted your mindset, please leave a rating and review! Your support helps more women discover they're not victims - they're Recovery Warriors waiting to rise.

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By Lindsey Nichol - Certified Health Coach, Eating Disorder Recovery Coach, Food Freedom Coach, Eating Disorder Intuitive Therapy Certified

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