So What Now? with Carla and Dex

EP 26: The Truth About 50/50 Love and Trauma Bonds


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Hey friends, it's Carla and this week's episode of So What Now was a whole mix of "wait, what?" and "absolutely not."

We kicked things off with Ayesha Howard, who recently responded to the backlash around her decision to keep her baby. And listen… her response didn't move me. At all. I said what I said, and I still feel the same way.

Then we got into this Florida city trying to roll out a 4-day school week, which sounds cool until you realize... parents still work 5. So who's watching the kids on that fifth day? Make it make sense. Policies like this just make parenting even harder, and we had a lot to say about it.

Of course, we couldn't resist a little detour into celebrity mess this time it's the Beckhams. Apparently the two brothers aren't speaking because the younger one is now dating his big brother's ex. Yes, you read that right. We unpacked that drama and asked the real question: Is it ever okay to date your sibling's ex? (Spoiler: I have strong opinions)

And then we got a little deeper. Gabrielle Union recently walked back her old stance on 50/50 relationships, saying it came from a place of trauma. That opened the door for us to dig into the 4 trauma response types Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn. Which one are you? Are you a mix? Dex and I broke it all down and, let's just say, we learned a lot about ourselves in the process.

As always, thanks for showing up, listening, and being part of this wild little podcast of ours. We're grateful for y'all every week.

– Carla

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