Trevor Spring joins Luis for a tender discussion about masculinity, and how to tend our boys. Many boys and men have grown up, or are growing up, in isolation around their emotions and sexuality, with little to no physical or emotional attunement from caregivers and mentors. Porn becomes the de facto teacher prompting a chemistry shift in a frozen, dissociated body. Sexuality is learned with and from a screen, not body to body in a relationship of reciprocity. This pattern reinforces misattunement with self and partners, disconnection breeding disconnection. It also develops a habit of reliance on technology to regulate in a space where secrecy, thrill and taboo are needed as a turn on. 

This is not a matter of goodness, badness, or self discipline. What do we want outside of the porn narrative? What does this animal body actually enjoy? How can we nourish and soften into a place of self love and love-ability?  How can we connect to our feelings in a healthy way? If one can find connection and nourishment through self-relating, and partnerships, porn loses it's power. 

For those of you navigating raising boys Trevor also offers wisdom and advice on where to begin making changes. 

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