In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we're diving into one of the most talked-about but least understood challenges many women face at midlife: imposter syndrome. We're Colette and Laura, two therapists and best friends, and we're getting real about the self-doubt that shows up right when we're trying to level up in life, work, and relationships.

We unpack why imposter syndrome hits so hard in midlife, how it keeps you stuck in comparison and perfectionism, and why it's time to ditch the stilettos and stop shrinking. We also share our personal stories of growth, setbacks, vulnerability, and what it actually looks like to push through imposter feelings and get back in the arena. This one is heartfelt, funny, and packed with real tools you can use to build confidence, reframe your inner dialogue, and reclaim your space—because your worth is not up for debate.

 

Episode Highlights:

[0:00] - Kicking off with why imposter syndrome is so real for women in midlife
 [1:10] - Defining imposter syndrome and the mental trap it creates
 [2:34] - The impact of shifting identity and risk-taking at midlife
 [7:06] - Laura's story: inherited privilege and narrative excuses
 [15:08] - Perfectionism, performance pressure, and playing small
 [16:45] - The shift to embracing grit and a growth mindset
 [19:57] - Naming the struggle and the power of vulnerability
 [23:24] - Building a stack of evidence: celebrating micro wins
 [24:41] - Taking messy action and staying in the arena
 [26:35] - Rewriting the inner dialogue with self-compassion
 [27:12] - Recommended reads to help rewire imposter thinking
 [28:35] - Feeling fear means you're growing: normalizing discomfort
 [30:36] - Growing into big roles and owning your worth
 [32:01] - Ego strength vs. anxiety and visibility fears
 [33:43] - From cringe to confident: the social media journey
 [34:30] - Reflecting on each other's strengths and sharing the love

 

Links and Resources: 

• Own Your Greatness: Overcome Impostor Syndrome, Beat Self-Doubt, and Succeed in Life https://www.amazon.com/Own-Your-Greatness-Overcome-Self-Doubt-ebook/dp/B07ZZHY1Z8/ref=sr_1_1?crid= 
• The Imposter Cure: Beat insecurities and gain self-belief: https://www.amazon.com/Imposter-Cure-Beat-insecurities-self-belief/dp/1783256273/ref=monarch_sidesheet_title 
• Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well

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Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.