In this deeply honest episode, we sit down with Nora Neiterman, creative director, brand strategist, and founder of Unsweetened New York, to talk about what happens when success comes at the cost of yourself. Nora shares how building a powerful, authentic brand while juggling motherhood, caregiving, and perfectionism eventually pushed her into full-blown burnout, and why ignoring the warning signs is so common for women in midlife.

Together, we explore the hidden toll of living in constant overdrive and why healing doesn’t start by doing more, but by slowing down. Nora opens up about perimenopause, grief, nervous system work, psychedelic therapy, and the surprising ways her creativity returned once she finally listened to her body. If you’re feeling exhausted, disconnected, or quietly wondering how long you can keep going like this, this conversation will land.

Episode Highlights:

 [2:01] – From fashion school to building Unsweetened New York
 [4:00] – The moment that sparked the brand and why authenticity resonated so deeply
 [7:35] – Why women connected so powerfully to unapologetic messaging
 [9:31] – Advice for women with an idea who feel “too busy” or “too late”
 [12:28] – Why midlife is actually the prime time to pivot and build something new
 [14:24] – When passion turns into pressure and the freight train won’t slow down
 [17:56] – Early warning signs of burnout that are easy to ignore
 [19:52] – Sleep deprivation, stimulants, and living in constant overdrive
 [22:08] – Perfectionism, resentment, and struggling to ask for help
 [25:46] – Perimenopause, grief, and the slow approach of the wall
 [31:21] – Starting over with micro-steps instead of more “stacking”
 [33:15] – Psychedelic therapy, intention setting, and unexpected healing
 [35:52] – Letting go of alcohol, stimulants, and old coping mechanisms
 [38:56] – Reconnecting with creativity by learning how to feel again
 [39:58] – Final reflections on authenticity, healing, and choosing yourself

Links & Resources:

Unsweetened New York Website: www.unsweetenednewyork.com

Unsweetened NY on Instagram: @unsweetenednewyork
Nora on Instagram: @noraneiterman

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The holidays are here, and if you’re already feeling that mix of excitement, pressure, and low-key dread, you’re in good company. In this episode, we dig into why holiday burnout hits women so disproportionately hard, how old expectations keep sneaking in, and what we can actually do to reclaim joy, presence, and a sense of sanity this season. From perfectionism and invisible labor to new traditions and deliciously low-effort holiday moments, we’re getting honest about what has to shift.

Together, we explore the inner work, the practical strategies, and the gentle permission slips that help us show up for the holidays in a way that feels good—without losing ourselves or burning out in the process. If you've ever felt torn between wanting magic and wanting a nap, this is your episode.

Episode Highlights:

[0:03] – Kicking off the convo: why holiday burnout hits women hardest
 [1:54] – Laura reflects on past years of over-functioning through the holidays
 [3:08] – The pressure of “perfect” holidays and the invisible mental load
 [4:52] – The struggle of asking for help and shedding generational conditioning
 [6:11] – Family-of-origin expectations and the identity tied to holiday perfection
 [9:03] – The emotional payoff vs. resentment check-in
 [10:08] – Letting go of perfect, simplifying, and knowing your “why”
 [12:22] – Delegation, releasing control, and tolerating the discomfort
 [14:11] – When your aesthetics get in the way of shared experiences
 [15:40] – Creating new rituals and letting go of traditions that no longer fit
 [18:18] – Low-effort connection and shared experiences that truly matter
 [20:03] – Embracing flexibility and shifting holiday dates without guilt
 [21:44] – Managing blended family holidays and redefining “the day”
 [22:22] – Avoiding consumer overwhelm and choosing experiences over stuff
 [23:52] – Gift ideas that foster connection (and zero clutter)
 [25:18] – Silent Book Clubs, parallel play, and refreshing social rituals
 [26:55] – Reclaiming meaningful ritual with creativity and openness
 [27:55] – The power of daily gratitude and shifting the emotional tone
 [28:15] – Preparing for others’ disappointment when you take things down a notch
 [28:40] – Emotional maturity, boundaries, and choosing what truly matters
 [30:01] – Final reminders for a holiday season rooted in joy, not pressure

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In this heartfelt and revealing episode, we dive deep into the patterns, red flags, and emotional toll of loving someone who just can’t meet you emotionally. We’re joined by our brilliant friend Dr. Marni Feuerman—psychotherapist, author of Ghosted and Breadcrumbed, and relationship expert regularly featured in outlets like Psychology Today and SELF. Together, we unpack the signs of emotional unavailability, why so many women get stuck in these painful dynamics, and how to reclaim your power and self-worth in love.

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a loop of confusing relationships, holding out hope for someone to change, or caught in the charm of a man who’s all spark and no follow-through, this episode is for you. We explore everything from love bombing and ghosting to deeper therapeutic patterns rooted in childhood attachment. Whether you’re dating, healing from heartbreak, or helping a friend, this conversation offers insight, validation, and practical advice to help you break free and choose healthier love.

Episode Highlights:

[0:02] - Welcoming Dr. Marni and introducing her book Ghosted and Breadcrumbed
[2:45] - What defines emotional unavailability and its many forms
[5:00] - Dating dynamics: the seductive yet misleading early connection
[6:27] - Ghosting explained—why it happens and how it impacts the nervous system
[11:37] - Breadcrumbing: what it is and how it keeps you stuck
[14:37] - What healthy dating should look like (hint: it’s consistent)
[18:23] - When emotional inconsistency feels like love (but isn’t)
[22:44] - Why some men are emotionally unavailable: socialization, trauma, and patterns
[27:17] - The dark triad: narcissism, charm, and emotional manipulation
[31:54] - Affairs with married men: why they’re more common than you think and rarely end well
[38:00] - Hard truths about “being the one he’ll finally choose”
[42:37] - How therapy and self-awareness help you break the cycle
[45:25] - The danger of “projects” and choosing from compassion instead of compatibility
[48:53] - Attachment wounds, revising your definition of love, and healing forward
[49:43] - Final encouragement from Dr. Marni and where to find her work

Links & Resources

• Dr. Marni Feuerman’s Book: Ghosted and Breadcrumbed: Stop Falling for Unavailable Men and Get Smart About Healthy Relationships 
• Website & Free Checklist: www.drmarnionl

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In this Thanksgiving episode, we’re settling in together—just like we would the night before a big holiday—to talk about the messy, heartfelt, complicated world of family dynamics. Even though both of us are having quieter Thanksgivings this year, we’re deep in our own real-life family seasons, and this conversation comes straight from the thick of it. We explore why the holidays stir up so much, why cut-offs have become so common, and how we can show up for ourselves without losing connection to the people we care about.

We also dive into emotional tolerance, boundaries that actually work in real life, and the surprising ways expectations shape our holiday experience. If you’ve ever found yourself caretaking, peace-keeping, bracing for a “difficult someone,” or wondering how to handle the big personalities at the table—this episode will meet you right where you are.

Episode Highlights:

 [0:03] – Opening the Thanksgiving conversation and why this episode feels especially timely
 [1:16] – How our own holiday plans are shaping the way we’re thinking about family this year
 [2:49] – The pressure to perform during the holidays and why “doing less” may feel better
 [3:31] – Colette’s recent family gatherings and the emotional residue they stirred up
 [4:17] – Real stories from reunions and why so many adults are dealing with family cut-offs
 [5:34] – How cut-offs impact entire family systems and why they rarely bring relief
 [7:21] – Understanding emotional bandwidth and the “dial” approach to relationships
 [9:46] – Avoidance, repair, and why making the first move feels so vulnerable
 [11:46] – When someone can’t meet you emotionally—and how to interpret that
 [14:51] – The painful power dynamics created by the least emotionally developed family member
 [16:29] – Caring for everyone but yourself: preparing meals, hosting, and old relational wounds
 [17:22] – The essential role of expectations and how they can make or break a holiday
 [18:46] – Triangulation, family cliques, and protecting your emotional space
 [20:00] – Setting boundaries without being pulled into old patterns
 [21:58] – Self-care strategies when staying with—or hosting—challenging family members
 [23:20] – The nuance of “don’t abandon yourself” and holding two truths at once
 [25:56] – Choosing what’s worth addressing—and what you can let go for your own peace
 [28:09] – Why cut-offs are increasing and the need for a deeper cultural conversation
 [29:45] – Setting limits, protecting yourself, and managing difficult personalities
 [30:55] – Releasing holiday perfectionism and lettin

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In this episode, we're joined by one of our absolute favorite authors and experts, Dr. Meg Jay, PhD. She's a clinical psychologist and bestselling author of The Defining Decade and The 20-Something Treatment, and she dives deep with us into why our 20s are such a defining time—and how many of the same principles can also empower us in midlife.

We explore identity capital, weak ties, economic uncertainty, and how to better support our 20-something children as they navigate early adulthood. If you're in your 40s or 50s and parenting adult children, or just looking to reimagine your own next chapter, this conversation is packed with validation, insight, and incredibly practical advice. You do not want to miss this one!

Episode Highlights:

 [0:40] - Welcoming Dr. Meg Jay and fangirling over The Defining Decade 

[3:36] - Why your 20s are the most uncertain and anxiety-filled decade 

[5:53] - The myth of the carefree 20s and how financial constraints factor in 

[8:17] - The stress of unstructured life after college and the reality of job-hopping 

[10:12] - Identity capital: what it is and why it matters 

[14:57] - Learning from jobs you don't love (hello, Rolling Stone fashion closet!) 

[16:20] - How perfectionism and enabling parenting can keep 20-somethings stuck 

[20:05] - The "redefining decade": applying these principles to midlife 

[21:22] - The power of weak ties and how to actually use them 

[24:25] - Gen Z vs Gen X: similarities, differences, and the impact of social media 

[26:21] - Economic challenges and the nuance of living with your parents 

[30:06] - Launching vs enabling: helping adult children become independent

[33:20] - Teaching resilience: tolerating uncertainty without pathologizing it 

[34:08] - From cooking to job skills: the basics that build real confidence 

[36:18] - Helping young adults recognize and activate their own agency 

[38:50] - Dating intentionally: choosing your partner is choosing your family 

[42:09] - Avoiding emotional entanglement before compatibility is clear 

[44:57] - Trial, error, and the wisdom of approaching dating like job searching

 Links & Resources:

• Dr. Meg Jay’s Website: https://megjay.com/ 
• Dr. Meg Jay’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmegjay 

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In this episode of Insights From the Couch, we’re diving deep into what Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) really is—and what it’s not. Forget the casual "I'm so OCD" comment—this conversation is all about the real, often misunderstood experiences of those living with this challenging and complex disorder. We're joined by two of our favorite experts: Dr. Brady Bradshaw, a child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist, and Dr. Robyn Cohen, a developmental neuropsychologist. Together, we explore the many faces of OCD, from harm OCD to contamination fears, and mental compulsions that happen entirely inside someone’s mind.

We’re also pulling back the curtain on the often-overlooked aspects of OCD like the shame, stigma, and difficulty getting an accurate diagnosis. Whether you’re someone navigating OCD, a therapist wanting to learn more, or a loved one trying to understand what’s going on—this episode offers education, empathy, and evidence-based strategies for healing. Plus, we talk treatment, including exposure and response prevention (ERP), medication, and what real recovery can look like.

Episode Highlights:

[0:26] - Welcome and overview of today’s topic: the real story behind OCD
 [1:31] - Meet Dr. Bradshaw and Dr. Cohen: their roles and experiences with OCD
 [3:02] - What OCD actually is vs. common misconceptions
 [6:10] - Breaking down the subtypes: harm, contamination, symmetry, hoarding, and more
 [8:10] - Mental compulsions explained with powerful real-life examples
 [11:01] - Is OCD just intense anxiety? Exploring how it's neurologically distinct
 [13:20] - The overlap of OCD with ADHD, autism, trichotillomania, and body-focused repetitive behaviors
 [17:42] - The diagnostic challenge: why OCD is often missed or misdiagnosed
 [21:43] - What’s going on in the brain during OCD—and how treatment changes the brain
 [23:44] - Living with OCD: analogies, partner dynamics, and the emotional toll
 [25:27] - The gold standard: treatment options like ERP and when meds are needed
 [28:19] - The importance of working with experienced ERP-trained therapists
 [32:53] - Pushing the limits with exposure—and why it works
 [37:50] - Naming the OCD: why it helps and how it shifts control
 [39:13] - The importance of trust and creativity in therapeutic interventions
 [40:07] - Relationship OCD and health anxiety—subtypes or something else?
 [43:03] - How to support a loved one with OCD (without enabling compulsions)
 [46:35] - Final takeaways: treatment works, and there’s real freedom on the other side
 [47:36] - Where to find Dr. Bradshaw and Dr. C

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We are beyond excited to welcome the brilliant Tonya Lester to the couch this week! As a psychotherapist, writer, and author of the new book Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself, Tonya joins us for a raw and resonant conversation about how women lose their voices in relationships, how to reclaim them, and why it’s never too late to start showing up fully for yourself.

We dig into some of the most pressing issues we see with women in midlife—emotional labor, resentment, perfectionism, and the dreaded “burned out pursuer” dynamic. Tonya shares powerful truths about why many marriages break down long before anyone leaves, what holds women back from setting boundaries, and how we can all take emotional risks to wake up to the lives we want. This is an honest, compassionate, and deeply validating episode that will leave you feeling seen, fired up, and ready to push back in all the right ways.

Episode Highlights:

 [0:26] – Welcoming Tonya Lester and her powerful new book
 [2:04] – From acting to therapy: Tonya’s journey into couples work
 [4:28] – The repeated story of women hitting their breaking point
 [7:47] – What pushback really looks like in relationships
 [10:04] – Burned out pursuers: when women have nothing left to give
 [13:50] – Why powerful women lose their voice in marriage
 [15:34] – The “bad deal” many women are stuck in
 [16:03] – Are women outgrowing men?
 [17:24] – The invisible labor of “man keeping”
 [18:49] – How women are penalized for assertiveness at work
 [22:55] – Perfectionism: it’s not about excellence, it’s about anxiety
 [27:29] – Visibility, risk-taking, and the fear of not being good enough
 [30:23] – Reclaiming your life force after years of disconnection
 [31:58] – Weather vane emotions: resentment, jealousy, anger
 [35:52] – The long, slow process of waking up to your needs
 [38:36] – What if the outcome isn’t what you hoped for?
 [40:58] – Modeling empowered living for the next generation
 [42:05] – Tonya’s biggest hope for readers of Push Back

Links and Resources: 

• Tonya Lester’s website: https://www.tonyalester.com/ 
• Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself — Available on Amazon, Bookshop, and Barnes & Noble
• Psychology Today Blog: Staying Sane Inside Insanity

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In this deeply moving episode, we sit down with the brilliant author and military spouse-turned-memoirist, Heather Sweeney. Her new book Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage takes us inside the complex emotional terrain of identity loss, divorce, resilience, and ultimately, self-discovery. Heather's story is not just one of heartbreak, but of reclaiming voice, power, and purpose—especially for women navigating life after a long-term partnership.

We talk about everything from the layered reality of military marriage to the quiet courage it takes to start over. Heather shares what it's like to lose yourself inside someone else’s story—and how she found her way back. If you’re feeling stuck, alone, or like your identity has been swallowed by your roles, this episode is your permission slip to rediscover who you are.

Episode Highlights:

 [0:00] – Introducing Heather Sweeney: Writer, military spouse, and memoirist
 [1:35] – From blogging to bylines: Heather’s journey to becoming a published author
 [3:42] – Riding the roller coaster of military life and finding connection online
 [5:38] – Heather’s national writing credits and how she landed in The New York Times
 [8:38] – The invisible load of military marriage and emotional isolation
 [10:41] – Losing identity in someone else’s career—and the silent toll it takes
 [15:00] – Why divorce was always “in the air” and how it evolved over years
 [19:43] – The emotional aftermath of a partner’s divorce request
 [23:25] – Financial freedom as the catalyst for leaving
 [26:03] – Navigating in-house separation and the complicated new normal
 [28:20] – Military custody realities: long-distance parenting and letting go
 [31:31] – The bridge from loss to liberation: reclaiming your voice
 [33:56] – Building a new relationship from a place of strength and clarity
 [36:52] – Advice for women at the edge of leaving: where to begin
 [39:34] – Heather’s reflections on rediscovering herself through writing and therapy
 [40:13] – Where to find Heather’s book and follow her journey

Links and Resources:

·         Order Camouflage: http://posthill.to/B0F316HJTD 

·         Website: https://www.heatherlsweeney.com/ 

·         Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/writersweeney 

·         Substack: https://heathersweeney.substack.com/ 

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Ever feel like your toddler is trying to break you? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re joined by the incredible Devon Kuntzman—toddler parenting expert and author of the brand new book Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Handle Tantrums and Power Struggles and Raise Resilient Kids Without Losing Your Mind. We dive into the real talk about toddler behavior, emotional regulation, and how we as parents can stay sane and connected in the chaos.

Whether you’re in the thick of toddlerhood yourself, preparing for grandparenting, or just love understanding the "why" behind those tiny tornadoes, this conversation is packed with empathy, science-backed strategies, and hope. Devon gives us a totally refreshing reframe on discipline, tantrums, and screen time—and we also explore how much has changed (and how much hasn’t) in parenting over the decades.

Episode Highlights:

[0:00] Meet Devon and her just-launched book on toddlerhood
 [3:06] Redefining what “toddler” really means
 [4:33] What’s changed in the way we understand toddler behavior
 [7:48] Why toddler meltdowns aren’t bad behavior—they’re communication
 [9:47] Parenting styles: from controlling commander to confident guide
 [12:49] Real-world scenario: what to do when your toddler hits you
 [15:24] Teaching kids to cope with emotions instead of just punishing behavior
 [17:19] The importance of reparenting yourself while raising your child
 [18:24] How to avoid permissiveness while still setting healthy limits
 [21:08] It’s okay to be overwhelmed—and why repair is more powerful than perfection
 [25:00] Devon’s 4-step process for repairing relationships after a parenting slip
 [27:27] Generational gaps: parenting now vs. then
 [29:53] Navigating boundaries with your child and your parents
[32:04] Real talk: toddlers and restaurants are not always a match
[33:53] What’s the deal with screens? Devon breaks down screen time and brain health
[35:32] Parenting isn’t passive—it’s the hardest job you’ll ever love
[37:56] Self-compassion, strong-willed toddlers, and hilarious parenting fails
[39:44] Final takeaways: discipline that connects, teaches, and sets limits

Links and Resources: 

🍼 Transforming Toddlerhood by Devon Kuntzman: https://www.transformingtoddlerhood.com/book/

📲 Follow Devon on Instagram: @transformingtoddlerhood

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In this intense and emotionally charged episode, we dive deep into some of the most chilling and perplexing true crime cases involving mothers who committed unimaginable acts against their own children. From psychological abuse to cold-blooded murder, we’re peeling back the layers on what happens when motherhood takes a dark, dangerous turn.

We explore the twisted motivations and complex psychopathology behind cases like Unknown Number, Casey Anthony, Lindsay Clancy, Ruby Franke, and her notorious partner Jodi Hildebrandt. We’re not just recapping the crimes—you’ll hear our raw reactions as therapists and mothers, and we’ll take you into the murky territory of trauma, sociopathy, narcissism, and the haunting dynamics of parent-child bonds gone horribly wrong.

Episode Highlights:

[0:00] - Kicking off with our Midlife Masterclass and a true crime deep dive
[1:24] - “Mothers Gone Wrong” intro and a therapist’s disbelief at these cases
[3:00] - Breaking down the “Unknown Number” Netflix documentary
[5:54] - The big reveal: a mother as the digital abuser of her own daughter
[10:22] - Exploring Munchausen by proxy, sociopathy, and attention-seeking behavior
[13:32] - Control, puppet-mastery, and compulsive lying
[19:31] - Is pathological lying an addiction?
[22:41] - Shifting to Ruby Franke and the cult-like influence of Jodi Hildebrandt
[26:14] - Exploitation, rigidity, and mental manipulation in parenting
[30:16] - The horrifying rescue of Ruby Franke’s emaciated son
[32:47] - Discussing Lindsay Clancy and the reality of postpartum psychosis
[36:52] - The tragic consequences of untreated mental health struggles
[38:45] - Revisiting Casey Anthony from a therapist’s lens
[42:12] - Sociopathy hiding behind maternal faces
[45:01] - Wrapping up with empathy for victims and a plea for prevention
[46:50] - Community callout and how to stay connected

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Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.