This isn’t about candy, calories, or control — it’s about the patterns and the thinking that keeps you stuck.In this episode, Dr. Kristin Lloyd calls out the real holiday horror story: the 4 P’s that quietly sabotage weight loss success every year — Perfectionism, Procrastination, People-Pleasing, and Powerless Thinking.

You’ll learn how these sneaky survival patterns masquerade as motivation but actually keep you looping in shame, delay, and self-abandonment. And more importantly, you’ll discover the 3 P’s that heal you: Pause, Perspective, and Practice.

Because lasting change isn’t about perfection — it’s about awareness, regulation, and repetition.

In This Episode:

* Why magical thinking (“I’ll start fresh after the holidays”) is the real trick, not the treat.

* How the 4 P’s show up in your thoughts, food choices, and emotional responses.

* The difference between connection and compliance — and why only one creates freedom.

* How “Powerless Thinking” is really a lack of pause power — and how to reclaim it.

* The Viktor Frankl principle that changes everything:“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our power to choose.”

* The 3 practices that build that space — and how to use them daily.

* Why your nervous system, not your willpower, drives your holiday habits.

* How to replace “I can’t stop” with “I can pause, and choose.”

Key Takeaways

* The 4 P’s That Haunt You:

* Perfectionism – breeds shame and all-or-nothing thinking.

* Procrastination – delays progress in the name of comfort.

* People-Pleasing – trades peace for approval.

* Powerless Thinking – convinces you “I can’t” when really, you haven’t practiced the pause.

* The 3 P’s That Heal You:

* Pause – The sacred space between urge and action.

* Perspective Shift – Seeing obstacles as opportunities for mastery.

* Practice – Repetition turns awareness into embodiment.

* Connection ≠ Compliance:Connection is self-led choice aligned with your truth.Compliance is fear-based behavior rooted in guilt, shame, or external validation.

* Your Pause = Your Power.Every pause is a portal back to your freedom, your integrity, and your self-trust.

Journal Prompts to Reflect On

* Where am I relying on magical thinking instead of mindful action?

* When was the last time I paused before reacting?

* Am I connecting — or just complying — with my goals?

* What would practicing progress instead of perfection look like this week?

Mentioned in This Episode

* Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl

* The B.L.A.S.T.E.D. Check-In (Bored, Lonely, Angry/Anxious, Stressed/Sad, Tired, Emotional, Deprived/Disconnected)

* The Survive the Holidays Masterclass Bundle – your essential toolkit for staying sane, steady, and self-led this season

Closing Thoughts

The scariest part of the holidays isn’t the candy bowl — it’s believing you’re powerless.Your pause is your power.Your perspective is your protection.Your practice is your path.

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