Ask the Unfaithful

Episode 15: 5 Ways the Unfaithful are Defensive and Reactive


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Have you ever felt like your partner or spouse was consistently defensive and/or overly reactive every time their actions were called into question? It can feel like having a normal conversation with them is impossible as every time their actions are brought up, their reactions are over the top and somehow they find a way to blame everyone else but themselves. It's maddening as one spouse said to us recently. The good news is, there are explanations for this sort of behavior. Sometimes we unfaithful don't even know we are being defensive and fall prey to the fact that we very wrongly think we don't have any issues; it's our betrayed who really has issues. When we're unsafe, our reactions are unsafe and our ability to own our choices or accept our consequences is not only unsafe but alarming to everyone else but ourselves. When defensiveness is our go to, we're displaying evidence that we're not safe, not getting it and not in a place to do the heavy lifting of reconciliation or restoration. The better news is, once we humble ourselves and accept influence both from our partner and safe, trained experts, we can change, heal and ultimately find freedom. I wonder if you or your partner are struggling with defensiveness or unjustified reactivity? I wonder if you need help to understand why you or your partner are so defensive? We go deep today to share insight into these behaviors and provide insight into steps one can take to rid their lives of these toxic traits. Join us today for an in depth look at the mind, heart and actions of the unfaithful.

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