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  • Ep 84 with Amanda Asproni, MA, LMHC: Rebuilding Sexual Intimacy After Infidelity

    Can a couple truly rebuild sexual intimacy after infidelity? And what happens when you've spent years rebuilding trust, working through betrayal trauma, and repairing your marriage, but physical intimacy still doesn't feel the same?

    In this episode of Sam's Healing Podcast, I sit down with Amanda Asproni, MA, LMHC, psychotherapist and sex therapist, to explore one of the most overlooked aspects of infidelity recovery: rebuilding sexual intimacy after betrayal.

    For many couples, the initial crisis of infidelity eventually settles. Trust begins to return, communication improves, and the relationship starts to feel safe again. But what happens when the emotional healing has progressed and sexual intimacy is still a struggle?

    The truth is, rebuilding trust doesn't automatically mean rebuilding sexual connection.

    Amanda and I discuss why betrayal trauma can continue to affect intimacy long after the affair, how childhood experiences and sexual trauma influence our ability to connect, and why avoiding difficult conversations about sex can leave couples feeling disconnected even years into recovery.

    In this conversation, they explore:

    ◾ Why sexual intimacy can remain difficult even after years of infidelity recovery

    ◾ How betrayal trauma affects physical and emotional connection

    ◾ Why safety and trust must come before rebuilding sexual intimacy

    ◾ The role of childhood sexual abuse, shame, and past experiences in intimate relationships

    ◾ Why unfaithful partners may struggle to communicate their sexual needs after betrayal

    ◾ How couples can begin having honest conversations about intimacy without judgment or pressure

    ◾ Why professional guidance can help couples rebuild a healthy, fulfilling sexual relationship

    Whether you're a betrayed partner struggling to feel comfortable with intimacy again or an unfaithful partner committed to rebuilding your marriage, this conversation offers insight into what it takes to move beyond simply surviving infidelity.

    Healing isn't just about putting the affair behind you. It's about creating a relationship where both partners can feel safe, connected, and genuinely known.

    Recovery is possible. Rebuilding intimacy is possible. But these conversations require honesty, patience, accountability, and a willingness to address what may have been left unspoken.

    Watch the full episode and join Sam and Amanda as they discuss what sexual healing after infidelity can look like.

    Connect with Amanda Asproni, MA, LMHC:

    Email: [email protected]

    Connect with Sam:

    Website: www.samshealingpodcast.com

    Email: [email protected]

    If you're navigating betrayal trauma, recovering from infidelity, or working toward rebuilding trust in your marriage, subscribe to Sam's Healing Podcast for conversations about healing, accountability, and relationship recovery.

    29 min
  • Ep 83 with Amanda Asproni, MA, LMHC & Michael Webb, LPC: Why Can't They Just Own What They Did?

    You tell your unfaithful partner how much they've hurt you, and instead of understanding your pain, they get defensive.

    Suddenly, you're arguing. You're explaining yourself. You're trying to get them to understand something they should already understand. And somehow, the conversation becomes about THEIR feelings instead of the pain THEY caused.

    Sound familiar?

    For betrayed partners, defensiveness can feel like another betrayal. It leaves you feeling unheard, invalidated, and wondering if your partner will ever truly understand the damage they've done.

    But here's something we need to talk about: Why do unfaithful partners become so defensive, even when they know they're the ones who caused the pain?

    In this episode of Sam's Healing Podcast, I'm joined by two incredible psychotherapists, Amanda Asproni, MA, LMHC, and Michael Webb, LPC, for an honest conversation about one of the biggest obstacles to healing after infidelity: DEFENSIVENESS.

    We unpack what's really happening underneath those defensive reactions, how childhood experiences and unresolved emotional wounds can affect someone's ability to be vulnerable, and why some unfaithful partners struggle to sit with the very pain they've caused.

    We also explore how defensiveness can become a way to escape shame, guilt, and emotional discomfort—and how that pattern can keep couples stuck long after the affair has ended.

    But understanding WHY someone becomes defensive doesn't excuse the behavior.

    As a formerly unfaithful partner, I know how uncomfortable it can be to face the pain you've caused. But if you want to rebuild trust, repair your relationship, and become a safer partner, you have to be willing to do the uncomfortable work.

    And for betrayed partners, this conversation may help you understand why your partner reacts the way they do, without feeling responsible for fixing it.

    Because healing from infidelity isn't just about ending the affair. It's about learning how to show up differently, take accountability, and create the emotional safety that betrayal destroyed.

    Whether you're the betrayed partner trying to be heard or the unfaithful partner struggling to understand your own reactions, this is a conversation you don't want to miss.

    Watch the full episode, and let me know in the comments: Has defensiveness been one of the biggest obstacles in your healing journey?

    49 min
  • Ep 82 with Kim Petroni, MA, BCC, CPC, ERCEM: What Disclosure Should and Should Not Look Like

    When you've been betrayed by someone you love, sometimes the hardest part isn't just what they did. It's wondering if you finally know the whole truth.

    What else are they hiding? How many more lies are there? And how are you supposed to rebuild trust when you don't even know what to believe anymore?

    If you've experienced infidelity, you know how exhausting it can be to live with those questions. The trickle truth, the continued deception, and the fear of another discovery can leave you feeling like the ground beneath you is constantly shifting.

    In this episode of Sam's Healing Podcast, I'm joined by Kim Hansen Petroni, MA-Counseling, BCC-Board Certified Coach, CPC-APSATS, ERCEM, Brainspotting Practitioner, to talk about one of the most important and often misunderstood parts of infidelity recovery: therapeutic full disclosure.

    Kim brings both professional expertise and her own personal experience with intimate betrayal and high-conflict divorce to this conversation. Together, we unpack why the disclosure process matters, what can go wrong when it's rushed or mishandled, and how telling the truth can become the foundation for genuine healing and relationship recovery.

    In this episode, we talk about:

    • Why continued lies and trickle truth can cause even more damage after infidelity.
    • What therapeutic full disclosure really looks like and why the process matters.
    • Common mistakes that can create additional trauma for betrayed partners.
    • Why knowing every painful detail isn't always necessary to begin healing.
    • How unfaithful partners can move beyond shame and take responsibility for their actions.
    • The role of polygraph testing in the full disclosure process.
    • Why both partners need support, preparation, and guidance throughout recovery.
    • How rebuilding trust and reconciliation after infidelity are possible when both partners are committed to change.
    • Finding support when betrayal leads to separation or high-conflict divorce.

    One of the biggest things I hope you take away from this conversation is that the truth matters.

    Not because it erases the betrayal. Not because it makes everything okay. But because you cannot begin rebuilding a relationship on a foundation of continued deception.

    And if you're the betrayed partner, I want you to understand something: You deserve the truth. You deserve the opportunity to make informed decisions about your future. And you deserve support as you navigate one of the most painful experiences a relationship can go through.

    If you're the unfaithful partner, telling the truth may be one of the hardest things you'll ever have to do. But real accountability means being willing to face that discomfort instead of continuing to hide from it.

    Can couples really heal after infidelity? Absolutely.

    I've seen people do the work. I've seen relationships recover. And while that doesn't mean every relationship will survive, it does mean that betrayal doesn't have to define the rest of your story.

    Whether you're trying to rebuild your marriage, struggling with betrayal trauma, or simply looking for a healthier way forward, I hope this conversation gives you some clarity, encouragement, and, most importantly, hope.

    Because healing is possible. And you don't have to navigate it alone.

    CONNECT WITH KIM HANSEN PETRONI

    Learn more about Kim's therapeutic full disclosure support, betrayal recovery coaching, divorce support, and additional resources.

    Website: https://www.coachinghope4u.com

    CONNECT WITH SAM:

    Website: https://samshealingpodcast.com

    Email: [email protected]

    If this conversation resonates with you, please subscribe to Sam's Healing Podcast, share this episode with someone who needs to hear it, and leave a comment below.

    Remember, there is hope. There is healing. And your story doesn't have to end with betrayal.

    31 min
  • Ep 81 with Lauren LaRusso, MSEd, LPC, LMHC: They Cheated. Why Am I Doing the Work?

    If I didn't cause the affair, why am I the one who has to do all this work to heal from it?

    That's a fair question. You didn't choose the betrayal. You didn't choose the lies, the loss of safety, or having the life you thought you had suddenly blown apart.

    So why should you have to change?

    Lauren LaRusso and I get into that question in this episode, because there's an important distinction here:

    Doing your own healing does NOT mean taking responsibility for someone else's infidelity.

    It doesn't excuse what they did.

    It doesn't make the affair okay.

    And it doesn't let the unfaithful partner off the hook.

    Your healing is about YOU.

    Lauren is a licensed psychotherapist, infidelity expert, author, and betrayed spouse herself. She knows what it's like to want the life you had before discovery back — and to eventually realize that after betrayal, there really is no going back to exactly what was.

    So what do you do with that?

    In this episode, we talk about:

    • Why wanting your old relationship back can actually be part of grieving what you lost

    • Why the betrayed partner can get stuck waiting for the unfaithful partner to "fix" everything

    • Why chasing certainty after infidelity will keep you spinning — and why safety and stability matter more

    • What rebuilding self-trust actually looks like after someone you trusted became a stranger

    • Why the unfaithful partner has to learn to tolerate discomfort instead of asking the betrayed partner to make things easier for them

    • Why accountability means more than saying you're sorry — the unfaithful has to be willing to go first and do the work

    One of the things Lauren says in this conversation really matters:

    You didn't choose what happened to you.

    But you do get to choose what you do with it.

    And that's not about turning betrayal into some kind of gift. We're never going to tell you to be thankful you were cheated on.

    It's about getting to a place where what someone else did no longer gets to decide who you become.

    For the betrayed, that may mean rebuilding your relationship with yourself, learning to trust your own judgment again, grieving what's gone, and creating safety inside yourself.

    For the unfaithful, it means humility. Empathy. Accountability. Learning how to sit in discomfort without expecting the person you hurt to rescue you from it.

    Because if you want to rebuild trust after infidelity, your betrayed partner shouldn't have to drag you through your own recovery.

    Lauren's new book, Beyond Infidelity: How to Turn the End of Your Relationship Into the Beginning of Your Life, was written from both her professional experience and her own experience as a betrayed spouse.

    Learn more about Lauren, her work, and Beyond Infidelity here:

    https://www.laurenlarusso.com/

    If you're dealing with infidelity, betrayal trauma, affair recovery, rebuilding trust, or trying to understand what healing after betrayal actually looks like, subscribe to Sam's Healing Podcast.

    And check out more episodes for honest conversations about the betrayed experience, the unfaithful experience, accountability, trust, forgiveness, and what it actually takes to recover after infidelity.

    36 min
  • Ep 80 with Amanda Asproni: Why Can't the Unfaithful Partner Explain Why They Cheated?

    How can someone say they love you… and still cheat on you?

    That's one of those questions that can keep a betrayed partner spinning for a very long time.

    Because if they loved me, why would they do this?

    Was I not enough? Was something missing in our marriage? Were they unhappy and I just didn't see it? And when they tell you, "I don't know why I did it," that answer can make the betrayal feel even harder to understand.

    In Episode 80, I'm joined by Amanda Asproni to talk about what may be happening underneath some of those behaviors.

    Amanda specializes in complex trauma, betrayal trauma, infidelity, compulsive sexual behavior, developmental trauma and relationship intimacy. And in this conversation, we get into something I think is incredibly important for both the betrayed and the unfaithful to understand: trauma reenactment.

    Sometimes the behavior we see in adulthood didn't begin in the marriage.

    Old wounds around abandonment, powerlessness, neglect, abuse, attachment and not feeling seen or heard can follow us into our adult relationships. And if those wounds are never dealt with, they can start showing up in ways we don't always recognize.

    In this episode, we talk about:

    • Why someone can love their spouse and still make choices that completely destroy trust
    • Why some unfaithful partners genuinely struggle to answer, "Why did you cheat?"
    • How unresolved childhood trauma can get replayed inside an adult relationship
    • Why resentment, powerlessness, emotional withdrawal and compulsive behavior can be connected to much older wounds
    • How affairs or other acting-out behaviors can become a way of escaping feelings someone doesn't know how to deal with
    • Why understanding the deeper "why" does not mean excusing infidelity
    • How betrayed partners can begin separating their spouse's choices from their own worth
    • Why saying "I'll never do it again" isn't enough if the underlying pattern is never understood

    And we talk about something the betrayed partner desperately needs to hear: Understanding why someone cheated does not mean excusing what they did.

    They are still responsible for their choices.

    But understanding the deeper "why" can help the unfaithful partner stop giving surface-level answers — and it can help the betrayed partner begin separating their spouse's choices from their own worth.

    Because after betrayal, it is so easy to turn everything inward.

    What was wrong with me?

    What did they have that I didn't?

    Why wasn't I enough?

    But sometimes what happened has much less to do with your value as a partner and much more to do with wounds and patterns your spouse brought into the relationship long before you ever entered the picture.

    That doesn't take away the pain.

    But it may help you begin to understand it differently.

    If you've been trying to make sense of infidelity, betrayal trauma, repeated affairs, compulsive behavior or the confusing actions of an unfaithful partner, I think this conversation will give you a lot to think about.

    Listen to my full conversation with Amanda Asproni.

    You can learn more about Amanda and her work here:

    Website: https://www.healingaffairscounseling.com

    Email: [email protected]

    If this episode has helped you feel a little less alone in your healing, subscribe and check out the other conversations here on the channel.

    There's a lot about betrayal that doesn't make sense at first.

    Sometimes understanding the "why" is part of figuring out what comes next.

    31 min
  • Ep 79: When the Betrayed Feel Like They Were Not Enough with Melissa Elguera

    Today Melissa Elguera returns to the podcast for a conversation around one of the most painful questions betrayed partners can carry after infidelity:

    Did my partner actually love the affair partner?

    When you've seen the messages, heard what was said, or learned how deep the affair went, hearing "it didn't mean anything" can be incredibly hard to understand.

    In this episode, Melissa and I talk about:

    • Why an unfaithful partner may become attached to how the affair makes them feel, rather than simply the affair partner themselves
    • The role of escapism, avoidance, shame, dissociation, and emotional immaturity in infidelity
    • Why betrayed partners naturally try to make sense of the affair through thoughts like "I wasn't enough," "I didn't matter," or "they chose someone else over me"
    • What Melissa calls "meaning making" and how betrayal can connect with older attachment wounds, abandonment fears, and beliefs about your worth
    • How to begin depersonalizing betrayal without excusing the choices that were made
    • Why betrayed partners can become consumed with messages, timelines, sexual details, and other pieces of the affair
    • The grief that often sits underneath the need to understand every detail
    • Why healing may require grieving the loss of safety, trust, innocence, and the relationship you thought you had
    • What the unfaithful partner needs to understand about validation, defensiveness, and being willing to sit with the pain they caused
    • How both betrayed and unfaithful partners can begin moving out of survival patterns and into deeper healing

    Melissa also shares from her own experience with betrayal and the painful question she had to work through:

    "Did I matter enough for you to be faithful to me?"

    We talk about how someone can love you and still make choices that deeply wound you—and why their behavior does not determine your value.

    Understanding the deeper reasons behind betrayal does not make betrayal okay.

    It does not remove accountability.

    And it does not mean the betrayed partner should simply stop hurting.

    But understanding what happened can sometimes help you separate another person's destructive choices from what you believe those choices say about you.

    If you've been betrayed, your life can be rebuilt.

    If you've been unfaithful, what you did does not have to become your identity.

    Healing requires honesty, courage, grief, accountability, and a willingness to stop running from what hurts.

    Remember, you can heal and you can find new life.

    To Work With or Learn More About Melissa Elguera:

    Website: https://identitylife.coach/what-is-coaching

    Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/identity.life.coach

    TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@identitylife.coach

    Melissa Elguera

    Trauma & Somatic Healing Coach

    Master Certified Life Coach

    Certified Coach & Supervisor for Character Formation Coaching

    To Healing,

    Sam

    [email protected]

    34 min
  • Ep 78: Why It's So Hard for the Betrayed to Heal Alone with Adam Nisenson

    Betrayal is already painful. Doing it alone makes it heavier.

    For many betrayed men, infidelity doesn't just hurt the relationship. It hits confidence, identity, self-worth, masculinity, and the way you see yourself.

    On this episode of Sam's Healing Podcast, Sam sits down with his good friend Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink.

    Adam specializes in helping men navigate betrayal trauma, infidelity, and recovery. He also brings something you can't learn from a textbook: he's been a betrayed partner himself.

    Together, we talk about why betrayal can become such an isolating experience for men—and what happens when you're left alone with your own thoughts for too long.

    Your mind can become an echo chamber.

    Was I not enough?

    Was I not attractive enough?

    Successful enough?

    Good enough?

    Adam describes this as "betrayal dysmorphia"—when someone else's choices begin changing the way you see yourself.

    And the longer those thoughts stay hidden, the louder the shame can become.

    That's why brotherhood matters.

    Sometimes one of the most powerful things a betrayed man can hear from another man is simply:

    "Me too."

    Not because it takes the pain away, but because suddenly you realize you're not crazy, you're not the only one, and you don't have to keep carrying everything by yourself.

    We talk about vulnerability, shame, intrusive thoughts, self-worth, accountability, and why real brotherhood isn't just about validating your pain. It's also having men around you who will challenge you, support you, and help you move forward.

    Because healing isn't about building your identity around being betrayed.

    It's about finding yourself again.

    In this episode, we discuss:

    • Why betrayal can feel so isolating for men

    • The "echo chamber" created by shame and intrusive thoughts

    • How betrayal can distort confidence and self-worth

    • Adam's concept of "betrayal dysmorphia"

    • Why vulnerability and being witnessed matter

    • The difference between support and simply commiserating

    • How brotherhood can help you heal, grow, and move forward

    ABOUT BROTHERHOOD N' BETRAYAL

    We're also announcing Brotherhood N' Betrayal, a men's healing retreat for those who have been cheated on.

    📅 January 22–24, 2027

    📍 Inn Cahoots | Austin, Texas

    This is a growth-focused weekend for betrayed men to connect, learn, heal, and do the work alongside other men who understand.

    This isn't about sitting around bashing partners or staying stuck in what happened.

    It's about you doing your work, rebuilding self-trust, finding brotherhood, and deciding what kind of man you want to be moving forward.

    Complete your registration by November 1, 2026 and save $250.

    Space is intentionally limited.

    For full retreat details and registration, visit:

    Sam's Healing Podcast: https://www.samshealingpodcast.com

    The Betrayal Shrink: https://www.betrayalshrink.com/brotherhood-n-betrayal

    You don't have to let silence win.

    And you don't have to do this alone.

    34 min
  • Ep 77: How to Heal From Infidelity and Divorce: Rebuilding Trust in Yourself with Dana Killion

    After infidelity and divorce, you don't just lose your marriage. You lose yourself.

    You lose trust in your judgment. You lose faith in your ability to see the truth. You lose the person you thought you were.

    And that's the hardest betrayal of all.

    When Dana Killion discovered her husband had been living a secret life after 25 years of marriage to a high-functioning alcoholic, she didn't just face divorce. She had to rebuild trust in herself from the ground up. And she's here to show you exactly how.

    This isn't about saving the marriage. This is about saving YOU.

    About Dana Killion:

    Dana Killion is the author of Becoming Unbreakable: A Big Sister's Guide to Trauma—the practical roadmap for anyone healing from infidelity, divorce, and loss. Her book teaches you how to rebuild trust in yourself after betrayal, break free from cycles of trauma, and reclaim your identity. Dana didn't just survive infidelity recovery. She transformed her pain into a guide that helps thousands heal from divorce trauma and betrayal.

    PREORDER NOW: Becoming Unbreakable: A Big Sister's Guide to Trauma is available for preorder and launches September 10, 2026.

    In this episode, Dana teaches you how to heal from infidelity and rebuild trust:

    • Why rebuilding trust in yourself is more important than rebuilding trust with your partner—and how to do it
    • How to heal from infidelity when you feel like you "should have known"—the self-blame trap
    • The real difference between healing from divorce and staying stuck in betrayal trauma
    • Practical tools for rebuilding your identity after infidelity shatters who you thought you were
    • Why your nervous system is still in shock after betrayal—and what to do about it
    • How to stop asking "Why didn't I see it?" and start asking "Who am I becoming?"
    • Breaking free from the cycles that keep people stuck in infidelity recovery for years
    • What real healing from divorce looks like, step by step

    If you've discovered infidelity, you need to hear this.

    You weren't stupid. You weren't blind. You trusted because you're a trusting person—and that is not a flaw. That is your goodness.

    Healing from infidelity and divorce doesn't start with forgiving him. It starts with forgiving yourself. And Dana shows you exactly how to rebuild trust in yourself so you can move forward—whether that's rebuilding your marriage or building a beautiful new life.

    "Betrayal doesn't break your marriage. It breaks your reality. But here's what they don't tell you: it can also rebuild you." — Dana Killion

    If you're navigating infidelity recovery, divorce healing, betrayal trauma, or loss, this episode on how to heal after betrayal is for you.

    There is a way through.

    Samuel

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samuel_healing

    Website www.samshealingpodcast.com

    Email: [email protected]

    Connect with Dana Killion:

    Website: https://www.danakillion.com/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dana_killion_author

    Book: Becoming Unbreakable: A Big Sister's Guide to Trauma

    Preorder: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Unbreakable-Sisters-Guide-Trauma

    ** Available September 10, 2026

    35 min
  • Ep 75: Healing the Shame and Patterns Behind Porn Addiction with Jeremy Lipkowitz

    What does real recovery from porn addiction look like when simply "stopping" isn't enough?

    In this episode of Sam's Healing Podcast, Sam sits down with Jeremy Lipkowitz, founder of Unhooked Academy and host of the Unhooked Podcast, for an honest conversation about moving beyond sobriety and addressing the shame, emotions, and patterns that often live underneath compulsive behavior.

    Jeremy shares how porn addiction can become a way of escaping stress, anxiety, loneliness, boredom, insecurity, and other uncomfortable emotions—and why relying on willpower or chasing another sobriety streak may not create the deeper change needed for long-term recovery.

    Together, Sam and Jeremy explore what it means to understand the behavior rather than simply fight it, how mindfulness can help create space between an urge and an action, and why recovery is ultimately about building a life rooted in connection, purpose, integrity, and fulfillment.

    In this episode, we talked about:

    • Why shame can keep porn addiction hidden and make recovery harder

    • Looking beyond sobriety as the only measure of recovery

    • Understanding the emotions and patterns underneath compulsive porn use

    • Why willpower and "white-knuckling" only go so far

    • Using meditation and mindfulness as tools for recovery

    • Learning to sit with loneliness, boredom, stress, and discomfort instead of escaping them

    • Jeremy's four-phase recovery framework: Reset, Rewire, Rebuild, and Restore

    • The role of habits, environment, relationships, and connection in lasting change

    • Building a meaningful and fulfilling life beyond addiction

    If you've struggled with porn addiction—or you love someone who has—this conversation offers a compassionate look at what recovery can become when the focus shifts from simply avoiding a behavior to understanding yourself and creating meaningful change from the inside out.

    About Jeremy Lipkowitz

    Jeremy Lipkowitz is a former Buddhist monk, meditation teacher, and ICF-certified executive coach who helps high-achieving men break free from compulsive behaviors—especially porn addiction—and build lives of integrity, discipline, and deep fulfillment.

    With more than 13 years of meditation experience and hundreds of days spent in silent retreat, Jeremy blends ancient wisdom with cutting-edge science to guide individuals toward emotional resilience and personal freedom.

    A former genetic researcher who earned Bachelor's and Master's degrees in Genetics & Genomics and pursued a PhD at Duke University, Jeremy left academia after confronting his own struggles with addiction, shame, and self-judgment. A period of monastic training in Myanmar deepened his mindfulness practice and marked the start of a lifelong commitment to personal growth and service.

    As the founder of Unhooked Academy and host of the Unhooked Podcast, Jeremy is a leading voice in destigmatizing porn addiction and educating the public on effective, science-based recovery strategies. His work helps men overcome shame, understand the neuroscience of addiction, and create lasting transformation through mindfulness, emotional intelligence, and habit change.

    For over a decade, Jeremy has taught at universities, recovery centers, and global companies across the U.S. and Asia. His calm, grounded presence and ability to bridge analytical thinking with inner work make him a sought-after guide for professionals and executives looking to reclaim their lives from digital distractions and self-sabotaging patterns.

    Credentials & Training

    • CPCC, Co-Active Training Institute

    • ACC, International Coaching Federation (ICF)

    • Certified Teacher, Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute (SIYLI – developed at Google)

    Connect with Jeremy:

    Website: https://unhookedacademy.com

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeremylipkowitz2

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JeremyLipkowitz

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz

    Connect with Sam's Healing Podcast

    Website: https://www.samshealingpodcast.com

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samuel_healing

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61572200762649

    Subscribe to Sam's Healing Podcast for more honest conversations about recovery, healing, betrayal trauma, relationships, and personal growth.

    35 min
  • Ep 74: Why the Unfaithful & Betrayed Both Miss Each Other's Needs with Michael Webb

    You keep trying to do everything right.

    But nothing seems to get through.

    The betrayed feels invisible. Unheard. Like their pain doesn't matter.

    The unfaithful feels attacked. Misunderstood. Like they're being punished forever.

    And the distance between them grows.

    What if the problem isn't that one of you is wrong? What if you're both responding to something so deeply rooted that you don't even know it's there?

    In this episode, Michael Webb—a therapist with 30 years of experience—breaks down the processing bias. He reveals how your childhood literally trained you to look for betrayal, abandonment, and danger. And why, no matter how hard you try, that part of you is still running the

    show in your marriage.

    Whether you're the betrayed or the unfaithful, this conversation will change how you understand what's actually happening. It's not about blame. It's about understanding. And understanding is where healing begins.

    In this episode, we talk about:

    ◾ What processing bias is and how your childhood created yours

    ◾ Why you were trained to look for betrayal—even when it's not there

    ◾ Ego states and parts work: understanding the different versions of you

    ◾ Why the unfaithful often can't see the damage they've caused

    ◾ What the betrayed actually needs (and it might not be what you think)

    ◾ How emotional maturity changes everything in recovery

    ◾ The prefrontal cortex, survival mode, and why your brain is working against you

    ◾ How to move from your child-self back into your adult frame of mind

    If you feel stuck in your healing right now, this episode is for you.

    You are not broken. You are not unlovable. You are responding to patterns that were set long before your marriage.

    And those patterns can be healed.

    The most connected relationships aren't built on perfect partners. They're built on two people willing to understand themselves—and each other—deeply.

    There is hope for you. And there is a way through.

    "Clarity brings awareness, and awareness brings healing." - Michael Webb

    - Samuel

    Connect with me:

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samuel_healing

    Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samshealingpodcast

    www.samshealingpodcast.com

    Connect with Michael Webb:

    Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/michael-webb-flower-mound-tx/90215

    Available for therapy in Texas and coaching nationwide

    44 min

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