In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I’m breaking down the difference between healthy needs and unhealthy needs in love. Most couples aren’t fighting about the dishes or the sex or the late nights at work, they’re fighting to feel respected, safe, valued, and prioritised. We’re talking about respect, emotional safety, consistency, accountability, affection, and repair and how those differ from control, reassurance-testing, avoidance, mind-reading, and over-functioning. Having needs doesn’t make you needy, it makes you human. But when you don’t understand your needs or you try to meet them through fear and control, intimacy starts to erode.If you listen and realise you’ve been fighting about symptoms instead of the real issue underneath, good. That’s not failure, that’s awareness. When you can separate healthy needs from anxious coping, you stop weaponising love and start building something secure.WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com