Ask the Unfaithful

Episode 31: Breaking the Reaction Cycle of the Unfaithful


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In healing from infidelity, the unfaithful can often times be hostile and reactive early on in the healing process. So much so, we can fall prey to what we've identified as 'The Reaction Cycle of the Unfaithful.' From guilt and shame to anger and resentment to defensiveness and rage, we can resort to these emotions and more as we push our partners and spouses away, further wounding and even sabotaging the entire process. It's at this point that the betrayed will think to themselves, "But, they were the ones that went outside the marriage.....why are they being so reactive? Shouldn't WE be the ones who are allowed to be reactive?"

But why are we so reactive? Is it childhood? Is it just shame? Is it guilt turned inward?

Today on Ask the Unfaithful, we look deep into the heart and mind of the unfaithful in an attempt to understand why we can be so reactive and unsafe in our own recovery journey. We identify signs of the reaction cycle, how the cycle may have started and how to eventually break free and find a new, healing pathway of humility and ownership. Just because we've fallen prey to this cycle, doesn't mean we're doomed to repeat it for the entirety of relationship or marriage. However, without an intervention and new way of thinking and addressing the cycle, we're going to stay stuck, alienating our partners, spouses and even ourselves.

Today's podcast not only identifies the cycle but provides a framework for breaking free of it's power, creating emotional resilience and identifying the underlying emotions that started the cycle in the first place. For more help including coaching or information about working with James or Sam as well as attending an intensive please email us at [email protected]

 

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