Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 384: Can You Be Gay And Monogamous?


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Some gay men don’t think monogamy ever works because there’s too much temptation out there. At the same time, others think that non-monogamy never works because someone always gets jealous. So what’s the truth here? Today, we’re doing a deep dive into gay men’s relationships and exploring tips for successfully navigating them, whether they’re monogamous or non-monogamous.

I am joined by Tom Bruett, a licensed marriage and family therapist, trainer, and consultant who works extensively with the queer community. He is the founder of the Queer Relationship Institute and author of the new book The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men: From Honeymoon to Lasting Commitment.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

  • How can you figure out what type of relationship is best for you, without feeling pressured?
  • What do gay men who want to be monogamous need to know?
  • What do you do when you and your partner want different kinds of relationship?
  • Do you need to be monogamous first before opening up a relationship?
  • What are the key ingredients of a successful non-monogamy agreement?
  • You can check out Tom’s website to learn more about his work.

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