Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 388: How To Initiate Sex (Essential Listen)


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Initiating sex is something that a lot of people struggle with. So why is it hard, and how can we make it easier? That’s what we’re talking about in today’s show. In this episode, we’re revisiting a wonderful conversation I had with Vanessa and Xander Marin, the co-hosts of the “Pillow Talks” podcast and co-authors of the book, Sex Talks: Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life.

Some of the questions we answer include:

  • Why is initiating sex so hard for so many people?
  • What are the dos and don’ts of sexual initiation?
  • How do you figure out your initiation style?
  • How do you say “no” to a partner’s initiation attempt without hurting their feelings?
  • Are there ways to encourage your partner to initiate sex more often?
  • Make sure to check out Vanessa and Xander’s website, and visit their YoutubeInstagram, and TikTok to learn more. And be sure to get a copy of Sex Talks!

    Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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