Ask the Unfaithful

Episode 41: Why Do the Unfaithful Take Things Personally?


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Why do we unfaithful take things so personally? It can feel like every ounce of feedback we receive is taken with an underlying belief that something is wrong with us, or you the betrayed are unhappy with us, or we consider ourselves worthless. Additionally, we unfaithful are masters at making every conversation about us, our feelings, our disagreeing with your concerns or our need for validation. But sadly, we were the ones who went outside the marriage and if anyone has a right to take things personally, it's the betrayed.

Today, we explore a variety of both intriguing but also complex reasons why we unfaithful take things so personally in life and in recovery work.

While none of these serve as excuses or justification to be reactive, defensive or insecure they are reasons that can explain our behavior and help ultimately lead to personal healing and restoration. To refuse to admit we struggle with any or all of these issues is to remain blind to our own need for personal reflection and individual recovery work.

If you're an unfaithful, perhaps it's time to reflect upon the above 8 causes of hyperreactivity in your life? Maybe it's time to consult an expert on whether these issues and more are not only prevalent in your life, but are also impeding any progress you're trying to make with your partner, your family or even just yourself?

While you may relate to all of them or just some of them, rest assured that doesn't disqualify you from the potential to heal or find personal transformation. The answer is not always working harder, but smarter. There are in fact, reasons the unfaithful are reactive and resort to defensive tactics when their character flaws are discussed. And.....while a safe atmosphere is key, it's vital we are able to be safe for open dialogue and honest discussion on how our choices have wounded so many.

Today you'll hear just that: open and safe dialogue into the mind, heart and inner workings of the unfaithful spouse.

We See You Because We Are You.

James and Sam

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