Ask the Unfaithful

Episode 49: Was the Unfaithful Really in Love with the Affair Partner?


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In this powerful episode of Ask the Unfaithful, we unpack one of the most misunderstood emotional experiences in the aftermath of infidelity: limerence. Often confused with love, limerence is an obsessive, fantasy-fueled state that can hijack recovery and prolong betrayal. If you've ever felt "addicted" to your affair partner or struggled to break free—even when you know the relationship is destructive—this episode is for you.

Join Sam and James as they explore:

• What limerence really is (and what it's not)

• How emotional and sexual affairs can become neurologically addictive

• The difference between a soulmate and a "woundmate"

• The role of fantasy, childhood wounds, and emotional neglect

• Early warning signs that you're in a "Limerent Spiral"

• Proven steps to break free and come back to reality

• How to recognize limerence if you are in it - or if you're a betrayed observing it

• How unfaithful partners can recognize, and heal from, the damage of limerence

• This episode is a must-listen for couples trying to rebuild after infidelity, therapists supporting betrayal recovery, and anyone caught in the grip of obsession disguised as connection.

📺 For more helpful content, we invite you to explore our companion show: Ask The Betrayed (@AskTheBetrayed on YouTube)

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