You think a vacation will give you a break, but with a narcissist, it often becomes something else entirely.

In this episode, I’m talking about what it’s really like to travel with a narcissist. I’ve seen it over and over again, what should be a time to relax turns into a carefully orchestrated setup for control, intimidation, and emotional exhaustion. If you’ve ever come home from a trip feeling more anxious, confused, or even physically sick, you’re not imagining it.

I walk through the subtle ways narcissistic abuse shows up while traveling like taking you somewhere they know you’ll hate, “forgetting” something important, or isolating you from your support system. These things might seem small on their own, but together, they create an environment that’s anything but safe.

I also share strategies you can use if you feel stuck saying yes to the trip. What can you do to feel more in control? How do you protect your energy when you’re trapped on a flight, stuck in a car, or stranded in a hotel? And most importantly, how do you start seeing the pattern for what it is?

If vacations have ever felt more like punishment than peace, this episode will help you understand why and give you a few tools to take with you, no matter where you go.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Why Travel with a Narcissist Feels So Different

03:04 Narcissistic Tactics and Control During Vacations

08:02 Real Examples of Manipulation on Trips

16:27 How Abuse Shows Up at the Airport and in Transit

22:01 On-Vacation Behavior: Control, Coercion, and Isolation

28:02 The Aftermath: Post-Trip Anxiety and Physical Illness

32:32 Long-Term Impact on How You Experience Travel

35:46 Strategies to Protect Yourself While Traveling

42:07 Grounding Techniques and Internal Boundaries

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