If you’ve ever been stuck in the push–pull with an avoidant partner and wondered, “Is this actually fixable, or am I just torturing myself?”… this episode is the reality check (and hope) you’ve been needing.

In this conversation, I’m joined by Rebecca and Pablo from Connection Counseling – a formerly anxious–avoidant couple who not only stayed together, but did the deep work to become secure in themselves and in their marriage.

Rebecca opens up about her experience as an anxiously attached partner, raised by an avoidant mother and unconsciously repeating that pattern in love. Pablo shares honestly from the avoidant side – the shutdowns, the urge to flee, the shame, the rock bottom moment, and what finally made him choose to change.

Together, we explore the real truth about anxious–avoidant relationships:

✨ When they can work

✨ When they absolutely shouldn’t

✨ And what it actually takes for both partners to move toward secure attachment.

If this episode hits home and you’re ready to start healing your own anxious attachment, I’ve created a free guide to help you take your first steps:

👉 Download: The Anxious Heart’s Guide to Healing Anxious Attachment

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Love, Samantha xx

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