Flying Free

Escaping the Man Everyone Admired: Lisa's Story [331]


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What happens when the man everyone admires is the one silently destroying your soul behind closed doors?

In this gripping episode, I sit down with Lisa: a strong, truth-telling woman who walked through 40 years of emotional and spiritual abuse in her marriage. From the trauma of date rape on her first date, to the covert spiritual manipulation in a seemingly “perfect” Christian home, Lisa vulnerably shares how she survived, how she healed, and how she’s now helping other women rise.

This episode is not just a story. It’s a reclamation.

Key Takeaways: 

  • “You’re not crazy—he just told you that you were.” Lisa unpacks the slow unraveling of decades of covert abuse masked as devotion.
  • How Christian culture kept her trapped in a narrative of self-blame, silence, and “submission.”
  • The pivotal role of trauma-informed therapy, especially EMDR, in unlocking the truth and breaking the trauma bond.
  • Lisa’s experience with betrayal by Christian counselors and the devastating weaponization of Scripture.
  • Why she now calls it an escape—not a divorce.
  • The healing power of boundaries, honest storytelling, and godly anger.
  • What real love looks like after abuse—and yes, it can come at 66.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here 

Related Resources:

  • Want to listen to some more survivor stories? Check out Erin’s story and Marie’s story
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