It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

Falsely Blamed? How to Protect Yourself and Respond


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Exploring Targets of Blame and How to Best Manage Them
Bill and Megan tackle the challenging topic of being a target of blame from a high conflict individual. They provide insight into protecting yourself and managing difficult accusations.

In this eye-opening episode, Bill and Megan define what it means to be a target of blame and how this manifests. They discuss tactics for minimizing your risk of becoming a target, as well as managing situations where false accusations spread. The hosts share perspective on correcting misinformation while avoiding escalation.

Questions we answer in this episode:

  • How can you reduce the risk of becoming a target of blame?
  • What is the best way to respond when falsely accused?
  • When is it appropriate to correct the record with documents?
  • How do you avoid reinforcing hostile behavior?

Key Takeaways:

  • Becoming aware of high conflict personalities can help you recognize unhealthy blame.
  • Don't get hooked into defending yourself - it often backfires.
  • Provide brief, factual information to correct false claims.
  • Tailor your response to who needs what information.
  • Keep yourself calm while asserting the truth.

This insightful episode equips listeners with strategies for protecting themselves when unfairly blamed. Bill and Megan deliver compassionate perspective that can help anyone managing a high conflict situation. Their guidance empowers us to respond thoughtfully when targeted.

Links & Other Notes

  • BOOKS
    • High Conflict People in Legal Disputes
    • It’s All Your Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything
    • It’s All Your Fault at Work: Managing Narcissists and Other High Conflict People
  • ARTICLES
    • Six Tips to Avoid Becoming Someone’s Target of Blame
    • Personality awareness: The key skill to dealing with high-conflict people
  • Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
  • Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
  • All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
  • You can also find these show notes at our site as well.


Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

  • (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
  • (01:36) - A Target of Blame
  • (02:21) - Term’s History
  • (04:35) - Avoiding Becoming a Target
  • (13:28) - How to Behave
  • (16:29) - Extreme Example
  • (18:55) - Paper Trail for Protection
  • (21:02) - Red Flags
  • (23:58) - Finding Balance
  • (27:13) - Wrap Up
  • (27:32) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: How to End a Hostile Conversation

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