The Art of Manliness

Familiarity Breeds Contempt (And Other Underappreciated Consequences of Digital Communication)


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There has been a lot of cultural discussion of the way digital technologies and social media contribute to things like political polarization and adolescent depression.

But as I'll explore with Nicholas Carr, the author of Superbloom, our digital tools are also changing our ability to connect with others and our sense of self in less appreciated ways.

Today on the show, Nicholas unpacks why the optimistic idea that more communication is always better hasn't panned out and how the speed and volume of modern communication is overwhelming our human capacity to process information and maintain meaningful relationships. We discuss why the "messiness" of pre-digital communication might have actually been better for us, how email has evolved from thoughtful letters to rushed messages, and why seeing more of people online often makes us like them less. Nicholas also explains why having different versions of ourselves for different contexts was actually healthy and the simple rubric for better managing our relationship with digital communication tools.

Resources Related to the Podcast
  • Nicholas' previous appearances on the AoM podcast:
    • Episode #276: Utopia is Creepy
    • Episode #632: How the Internet Makes Our Minds Shallow
    • Charles Horton Cooley
    • AoM Article: More Than Ever, the Medium Is the Message
    • Connect With Nicholas Carr
      • Nicholas' website
      • Nicholas' Substack, New Cartographies
      • See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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