Fleekazoid

Whether you were the one who centered a man and drifted from your friends OR your friends disappeared so they could center a man in peace (it happens, y’all). This is a firsthand perspective on what it feels like to be that friend who let men disrupt her circle, and how that isolation either happens to you or because of you.

We’re looking at all sides of it in this exact order, and closing it off with when it's time to cut the cord or how to close the gap, IF it’s reconcilable.

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For the naive who may not understand what insecurity and malignancy shows up as in friendship dynamics - this episode is about how being a “girls girl” will be weaponized by friend collectors and women aiming to level you with them.

This is about friendships in adulthood, why you can’t take on charity friendships, and how the stakes are more serious as your life decisions manifest into reality.

But dont worry - these types usually pick victims. So it’s nothing directly about you here - it’s just whoever they can get to say yes to them first.

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Walking you through the eerie, dead-on parallels between toxic relationships and toxic workplaces.

Check out my FDS collaboration episode on this topic here!

How they both love bomb, devalue, and try to drain you dry. If you’ve ever questioned why you

feel like you’re working harder just to be respected less, this is why.

I break down how these environments condition you to overextend, accept less, and fight to prove your worth until you finally leave or get left on read.

You can expect us to talk about red flags, real remedies, and how to mentally exit a situation before they try to discard you like a used-up tool.

I also give you my smoothie recipe for burnout brain (yes, we’re healing from the inside out) and strategies to stay sane without snapping or crying your way into a sad girl hangover.

And at the end? I go off-script with the chat about never going monster mode, and how eerily similar the playbook is between toxic bosses and toxic boyfriends.

Disclaimer: All commentary is based on broad workplace dynamics and not reflective of any specific company or individual. This episode is intended to help others navigate difficult professional environments with clarity, compassion, and strategy.

If you’ve been centering men to the point where you’ve lost yourself, this is a walk through of symptoms, signs, and what the other side looks like when you made it all the way out (no judgement zone).

I talk about the signs you might be a love addict, what it’s actually stealing from you, and why it’s so hard to stop chasing that high. 

We go into why “chill girl” energy is usually just low self-worth in disguise, how love addiction becomes your whole personality, and how most of us are just addicted to hope, not actual connection.

You’ll also hear the exact steps I recommend to move on and rebuild. Not just from a man, but from the whole fantasy. This isn’t about being bitter or anti-love. It’s about finally making peace with your own life and letting that be enough.

This is for the women trying to decenter men, figure out who they are outside of being desired, and stop wasting their glow on bare-minimum energy.

Let’s talk about it.

Why you’re not lazy or broken, and how to gently pull yourself out of task paralysis and flight mode after a nervous system shut down. This one’s for anyone who’s been deep in the slump from hell and is ready to feel human again.

For those who get the scaries before work (toxic work environment vibes) and feel genuinely guilty or like they’re doing something wrong by not centering work - let this episode be your reminder. 

Not making your work your entire personality is a normal thing to do, and will save you from pain and heartarche if you get laid off or find yourself affected by lay offs (like I was and announce in todays episode)

The only person who should be centering the company is *MAYBE* the person who owns it, and the version of yourself that is clocked in and being paid to care.

Decentering work is about resisting the narrative that you need to be constantly “on” for your place of your employment (unless you work for Tesla and are a surgeon or nurse, sorry besties). 

When you center yourself and claim back your personal priorities, you are well on your way to stop centering fixing a deliberately broken dynamic, and are headed back home to you.

This was created as a live stream podcast, and edited for entertainment value for YouTube and Spotify video.

The ultimate glow is the one that comes from within. That's the one that doesn't involve the external validation that we've been socially nudged to seek out.

A New Years special, this episode covers topics about how men center other men, dating apps being a trap for women who center men, and personal stories of times I learned my own personal lessons the hard way. We also discuss what to do if you have friends who center men, and we send off 2024 together by the end of it. 

Even the best get got. And you know it’s never on any shame here. This is a 2 hour, cautionary dating story-time about a man with dirty-john motivations, lying, deceptive tendencies, fake-charming qualities and scamming ways. Honestly? This story could have stopped one date in, so you know the willingness to be lied to here was peak. Alas, during the events and even up till right now, the plot was too good to stop.

You’ll scream, laugh, cry and hopefully not fall for the same traps I did

Events in this story originally took place in October 2024 and were shared as a 2024 Christmas Day story on a live stream on twitch. Walk down the path of how we got here through every moment of clarity, from first swipe to the bitter block.

Not knowing that you're perceived as a hot girl doesn't stop other people from thinking it about you, unfortunately. And there are some things hot girls just know after a life that's been well lived.

If you're new to being attractive or are on the path of going there (plot twist, we're all cuties), you can find yourself in the throws of bad faith actors, or overwhelming attention that has negative impacts. You might not even understand where that energy is coming from and why it's so pervasive.

Today's episode combines the experiences of fleeksie and guest star Fendi Faith to answer what seems like mysteries to those who found themselves in hot-girl territory.

Together in this episode, we catch those up to speed who are new to having sexual appeal, or those who are looking to own their status as a hottie, yes, even for those who have made it to this place against their own will.

This episode contains a bonus ending of unhot things to do as a girl and has zero tips for appealing to the male gaze.

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Toxic households can make you feel stuck, stagnant, and held back. Listen to this when you need to hear that you're not stuck, and why taking the first steps to get out and reclaim your individuality are the best immediately affirming actions you can make in leaving- and not just escaping, but ascending. There is more to life then the situation you're living in and today's episode is a reminder of that and actionable steps you can take.