What if your desire to avoid hurting anyone is actually the reason you ARE hurting them? What if you're actually hurting YOURSELF by living out this desire too?

Boundaries don't hurt others, despite the loud voices that tell you otherwise. Healthy boundaries aren't meant to control other people, ensure they think well of you, or make you into a prickly cactus no one can approach. They're a way of living your truest self and your highest calling, while honoring the personhood of everyone around you.

Listen to learn more about:

• The lie that keeps many women in bondage to poor boundaries.
• Possible responses to setting boundaries, and how to reframe your thinking about them.
• The truth that can set you free to live with healthy boundaries and without the guilt!
• How healthy boundaries reflect the heart of Jesus and the way he lived on Earth.

Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here

If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com

I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list.

You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.com

In our interview with Patrick Doyle, find out:

• How do you know you’re dealing with someone who isn’t safe?
• What is the number one goal of an unsafe church and an unsafe person?
• What are the two rules for knowing if someone is safe or not?
• What is the number one way to protect yourself from an abusive relationship?

Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources: 

• Connect with Patrick on Facebook.
• Sign up to receive email updates about upcoming events and materials from Patrick.
• If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com
• I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download
• You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.com
• And finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.com

Patrick Doyle has over thirty years of working with people from all over in treatment centers, churches, and through his office. His authentic and transparent way of leadership has drawn followers from all over the world. As a public speaker and coach, Patrick takes difficult conversations head on; communicating hard truths with honesty and safety. He is passionate about connecting with people so that they may see their individual value and as a result, experience the freedom from the lies that destroy their wellness of spirit. His hope is that people will partner with him in helping others see, believe, and act on their intrinsic value.

Patrick lives in beautiful Southern Oregon. On his down time, he enjoys spending time with his two adult sons, reading a good book, or experiencing a new adventure with people he is close with.

How do you respond when your partner sends you two totally different messages? One message says he loves you and will do anything to make things right. The other message says you're making a big deal out of nothing, and you're actually the problem. Which message is true?  In this episode, Daphne, Natalie, and Rachel talk about:

• What your partner is really communicating and how you can know for sure. 
• How religious teachings like "your heart is desperately wicked, and who can know it?" and "assume the best" perpetuate domestic abuse.
• Where conviction really comes from.
• A simple way to reframe your experience so you can get unhooked from the lies.
• How authentic love doesn't bind people but rather sets them free.

Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here 
 

If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com

I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list.

You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.com

In this episode we interview financial planner, Leah Hadley. Find out:

• The importance of having a financial advisor trained in divorce settlements/planning.
• Why not knowing anything about finances or your marital financials DOESN'T mean you can't get a fair shake!
• Resources/strategies to prepare yourself for divorce (or even if you're already in the middle of one).

Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources: 

• Connect with Leah on Facebook
• Divorce Bundle: Her Most Popular Resources for Clarity and Organization During Divorce
• When It’s Just Not Working: A Practical Divorce Guide for Stay-At-Home Moms
• FREE Divorce Recovery Guide
• If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com
• I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download
• You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.com
• And finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.com

Leah Hadley will tell you she’s had a lot of challenging financial times in her adult life-becoming a parent of three overnight, getting divorced, and losing her job, to name a few- times when careful financial planning was critical to her peace of mind. Now a best-selling author, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), Master Analyst in Financial Forensics (MAFF), and an Accredited Financial Counselor (AFC), Leah Hadley is the founder of Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions and Great Lakes Investment Management. She is committed to strengthening families through financial wellness.

You've been telling him for years how hurtful his behavior is. Literally begging him to stop. It's like beating your head against a wall. You've reached your breaking point. Then he tosses out a question your heart longed to hear from the beginning:

"What can I do to fix this?"

Right at the end. Right before your feet hit the pavement. Right before you've given up.

What now?

Learn about 3 critical aspects of this scenario:

• What this question actually means.
• Why he never asked it before.
• Ways to respond that won't lead you right back onto the hamster wheel of death.

Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here

If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com

I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list.

You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.com

When Lynn, a widow and registered nurse, met her abuser for the first time, she thought he was a safe bet. Who could be safer than a pastor and former missionary? But once he had her hooked in, he tore down her dignity and identity through shaming and neglect. Lynn shares her long journey of waking up to the shaking reality that even religious leaders can be wolves in sheep's clothing. 

• Find out what abusive spiritual leaders do when they counsel other abusers.
• Learn about some of the more subtle kinds of domestic abuse. 
• Discover the key all survivors need to have to unlock the door of their prison. 

Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here

If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com

I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list.

You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.com

You're the problem. An angry woman, a discontent wife, a troublemaker, the ungodly one. You've heard this over and over, in your mind, at church, and from your husband. Why can't you get it together? Where do all the rage, frustration, and ugliness come from?    What if the question is the answer?   Abusers don't ask if they are abusive.    Natalie, Daphne, and Rachel discuss the common reactions women have in destructive marriages that bring shame and confusion along with: 

• The need to see that our abusers try to force a reaction by exploiting their intimate knowledge of us.
• How/why it is so common for counselors, pastors, family, and friends to slap the label of "abuser" on a victim (and why you don't have to care).
• The key to freedom from this horrible merry-go-round: CHOICE! 

Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here

If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com

I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list.

You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.com

What if I lose my kids? How can I stand up for myself in the process of divorce when my husband seems to hold all the cards? How will I keep it together as I climb this ladder out of hell? These questions haunt women in abusive marriages who want to escape.

There is hope and there are answers.

In this episode, Wendy Hernandez, a Phoenix family law attorney, divorce coach, founder of the Hernandez Family Law Firm, and creator of the Command the Courtroom YouTube channel and online programs, covers several critical topics for divorcing women, including:

• Why the fear of losing your kids is based on lies/misconceptions
• The kind of documentation and questions you should have, before or while you are using a lawyer (including how to find a good one or deal with a bad one).
• How EMPOWERING divorce can be as you set boundaries for a NEW life...of HOPE!

Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Command the Courtroom YouTube Channel
• FREE Best Interests Checklist
• Twenty-One Day Challenge
• Power In the Truth Affirmation Deck
• If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com
• I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download
• You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.com
• And finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.com

Having tried over 1,000 cases during her 24 years as a litigator, Wendy is a courtroom warrior who has tackled every type of family law matter — from divorce to child custody and everything in between. Sharing secrets learned from the country’s top law professors at the University of Notre Dame Law School and during her battles on the family law front lines, Wendy is passionate about helping not only her clients, but also those representing themselves, to feel competent, confident and comfortable in the courtroom. 

Trust is risk. Trust forces us to decide what we believe, make choices based on those beliefs, and respect what others choose to believe and do. We aren't called to control others, please everybody, or even defend our decisions. But we are called to live bravely using the knowledge, experience, and power we have. 

• Trusting God doesn't mean we all make the same choices.  
• We are only responsible for our choices.
• Allowing others to be who they are/make their own choices is trusting God and allows us to live in freedom. 

Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here

If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com

I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list.

You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.com

Have you ever been told to let the past be the past (even though the past is your present and your present is a prison disguised as a marriage)?

Robin walked on eggshells and hid herself away to survive. After years in an abusive marriage, she believed God didn’t love her and that he hated divorce more than anything. She was taught that her body wasn’t her own, and her job was to make her husband happy at all costs. But no matter how small she became, it was never enough. No matter how hard she tried, he was never happy. When she dared to bring up her concerns or ask her husband to stop harming her and the kids, he blamed her, and the cycle began again. Robins talks about:

• How Flying Free has helped (and can help you too)
• Red flags from her marriage (great for those hoping to avoid toxic relationships in the future)
• How the church made things worse (and why she eventually went against all she’d been taught)

Since gaining freedom from her husband, Robin no longer lives in fear in her own home. She is sure of God’s love and knows that what he really hates is abuse. There is also, finally, distance between the past and her present.

Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here

If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com

I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list.

You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.com