I find it fascinating when people think they can tell someone to “get over it” or “move on” and actually think it will work. It’s ultimately an act of superiority (“What’s wrong with you that you can’t get past this?”), which is triggered by an underlying insecurity. Maybe that person struggles with their own ability to deal with disappointment, so they make themselves feel better by putting down another person’s coping mechanism. We all have insecurities based on our belief systems. Belittling or shaming does nothing to “convince” them your way of seeing or doing things is better, so when you catch yourself doing this, STOP.

Everything in life is seen through our own lens. This perception is based on our beliefs, which is how we form opinions. It’s all subjective and there is no absolute right or wrong. The same situation can be viewed completely differently based on each person’s life experiences, so it’s futile to think you can make someone see things your way. This can be very difficult for people to accept because we’re so attached to our way of thinking… it’s part of who we are. But that resistance keeps us stuck and frustrated. Nothing new can get in, so we continue to look at life through our own confirmation bias, enforcing our limited perceptions which support our limited opinions and maintain our limited view of life.

Learn how to accept life as it is, and stop trying to change the perceptions, opinions and actions of others. It’s a losing battle.

I find it fascinating when people think they can tell someone to “get over it” or “move on” and actually think it will work. It’s ultimately an act of superiority (“What’s wrong with you that you can’t get past this?”), which is triggered by an underlying insecurity. Maybe that person struggles with their own ability to deal with disappointment, so they make themselves feel better by putting down another person’s coping mechanism. We all have insecurities based on our belief systems. Belittling or shaming does nothing to “convince” them your way of seeing or doing things is better, so when you catch yourself doing this, STOP.

Everything in life is seen through our own lens. This perception is based on our beliefs, which is how we form opinions. It’s all subjective and there is no absolute right or wrong. The same situation can be viewed completely differently based on each person’s life experiences, so it’s futile to think you can make someone see things your way. This can be very difficult for people to accept because we’re so attached to our way of thinking… it’s part of who we are. But that resistance keeps us stuck and frustrated. Nothing new can get in, so we continue to look at life through our own confirmation bias, enforcing our limited perceptions which support our limited opinions and maintain our limited view of life.

Learn how to accept life as it is, and stop trying to change the perceptions, opinions and actions of others. It’s a losing battle.

I used to believe I had to sneak up on love. I thought I had to put my demands out there, yet act stealth, like I wasn’t demanding. I was trying to “get” love from someone who did not want to give it, and then I would blame them when it didn’t work (even though I was acting like I didn’t want anything). Craziness, right?

There is an intensity to this game, and as much as you try to shove it down or make it disappear, it doesn’t go away… so you try to be sneaky in your attempts to get what you want. But you actually end up acting the opposite of subtle or stealth because your feelings take over and run the show. When someone doesn’t give us what we want, we feel like we need to steal it. Listen in to learn why love is something you HAVE, not something you TAKE. There’s a big difference.

I used to believe I had to sneak up on love. I thought I had to put my demands out there, yet act stealth, like I wasn’t demanding. I was trying to “get” love from someone who did not want to give it, and then I would blame them when it didn’t work (even though I was acting like I didn’t want anything). Craziness, right?

There is an intensity to this game, and as much as you try to shove it down or make it disappear, it doesn’t go away… so you try to be sneaky in your attempts to get what you want. But you actually end up acting the opposite of subtle or stealth because your feelings take over and run the show. When someone doesn’t give us what we want, we feel like we need to steal it. Listen in to learn why love is something you HAVE, not something you TAKE. There’s a big difference.

I used to believe I had to sneak up on love. I thought I had to put my demands out there, yet act stealth, like I wasn’t demanding. I was trying to “get” love from someone who did not want to give it, and then I would blame them when it didn’t work (even though I was acting like I didn’t want anything). Craziness, right?

There is an intensity to this game, and as much as you try to shove it down or make it disappear, it doesn’t go away… so you try to be sneaky in your attempts to get what you want. But you actually end up acting the opposite of subtle or stealth because your feelings take over and run the show. When someone doesn’t give us what we want, we feel like we need to steal it. Listen in to learn why love is something you HAVE, not something you TAKE. There’s a big difference.

I used to believe I had to sneak up on love. I thought I had to put my demands out there, yet act stealth, like I wasn’t demanding. I was trying to “get” love from someone who did not want to give it, and then I would blame them when it didn’t work (even though I was acting like I didn’t want anything). Craziness, right?

There is an intensity to this game, and as much as you try to shove it down or make it disappear, it doesn’t go away… so you try to be sneaky in your attempts to get what you want. But you actually end up acting the opposite of subtle or stealth because your feelings take over and run the show. When someone doesn’t give us what we want, we feel like we need to steal it. Listen in to learn why love is something you HAVE, not something you TAKE. There’s a big difference.

I used to believe I had to sneak up on love. I thought I had to put my demands out there, yet act stealth, like I wasn’t demanding. I was trying to “get” love from someone who did not want to give it, and then I would blame them when it didn’t work (even though I was acting like I didn’t want anything). Craziness, right?

There is an intensity to this game, and as much as you try to shove it down or make it disappear, it doesn’t go away… so you try to be sneaky in your attempts to get what you want. But you actually end up acting the opposite of subtle or stealth because your feelings take over and run the show. When someone doesn’t give us what we want, we feel like we need to steal it. Listen in to learn why love is something you HAVE, not something you TAKE. There’s a big difference.

Fear can dominate us whether we’re aware of it or not. And it’s tied to our emotions, so it can’t be unraveled on an intellectual level. To see what’s behind it, we must drop our defenses, shun the mental compartmentalization of feelings that our subconscious patterning wants… and feel it. Doing so may lead to the dark night of the soul, a place of true transformation. It ain’t pretty, though, and most people avoid it at all costs. Numbing and distracting are much easier, but they never result in true change.

How do you call upon this fear and get to the journey of the dark night of the soul? Triggers. Opening yourself up and asking to be triggered is a blessing because it will show up in the areas where you need to confront your fears. Think of a trigger, if you feel it somewhere in your body—there is fear. I welcome them because each time it’s an opportunity to take a new and different action, or at least just feel. Do you ever avoid certain people or situations because you know it’ll bring up all sorts of uncomfortable feelings? Perhaps you would have to confront something about yourself that you’re unwilling to. Diving head-first into those situations leads to that place of transformation and healing.

You have to go through the eye of the storm to see the truth and release yourself from your previous perceptions and beliefs. It’s a path to self-actualization. If you truly want freedom from your fears, go get emotionally triggered and surrender to it. I suggest taking baby steps, and I’ll talk you through it.

Fear can dominate us whether we’re aware of it or not. And it’s tied to our emotions, so it can’t be unraveled on an intellectual level. To see what’s behind it, we must drop our defenses, shun the mental compartmentalization of feelings that our subconscious patterning wants… and feel it. Doing so may lead to the dark night of the soul, a place of true transformation. It ain’t pretty, though, and most people avoid it at all costs. Numbing and distracting are much easier, but they never result in true change.

How do you call upon this fear and get to the journey of the dark night of the soul? Triggers. Opening yourself up and asking to be triggered is a blessing because it will show up in the areas where you need to confront your fears. Think of a trigger, if you feel it somewhere in your body—there is fear. I welcome them because each time it’s an opportunity to take a new and different action, or at least just feel. Do you ever avoid certain people or situations because you know it’ll bring up all sorts of uncomfortable feelings? Perhaps you would have to confront something about yourself that you’re unwilling to. Diving head-first into those situations leads to that place of transformation and healing.

You have to go through the eye of the storm to see the truth and release yourself from your previous perceptions and beliefs. It’s a path to self-actualization. If you truly want freedom from your fears, go get emotionally triggered and surrender to it. I suggest taking baby steps, and I’ll talk you through it.

Fear can dominate us whether we’re aware of it or not. And it’s tied to our emotions, so it can’t be unraveled on an intellectual level. To see what’s behind it, we must drop our defenses, shun the mental compartmentalization of feelings that our subconscious patterning wants… and feel it. Doing so may lead to the dark night of the soul, a place of true transformation. It ain’t pretty, though, and most people avoid it at all costs. Numbing and distracting are much easier, but they never result in true change.

How do you call upon this fear and get to the journey of the dark night of the soul? Triggers. Opening yourself up and asking to be triggered is a blessing because it will show up in the areas where you need to confront your fears. Think of a trigger, if you feel it somewhere in your body—there is fear. I welcome them because each time it’s an opportunity to take a new and different action, or at least just feel. Do you ever avoid certain people or situations because you know it’ll bring up all sorts of uncomfortable feelings? Perhaps you would have to confront something about yourself that you’re unwilling to. Diving head-first into those situations leads to that place of transformation and healing.

You have to go through the eye of the storm to see the truth and release yourself from your previous perceptions and beliefs. It’s a path to self-actualization. If you truly want freedom from your fears, go get emotionally triggered and surrender to it. I suggest taking baby steps, and I’ll talk you through it.