Freedom from Attachment

I used to believe I had to sneak up on love. I thought I had to put my demands out there, yet act stealth, like I wasn’t demanding. I was trying to “get” love from someone who did not want to give it, and then I would blame them when it didn’t work (even though I was acting like I didn’t want anything). Craziness, right?

There is an intensity to this game, and as much as you try to shove it down or make it disappear, it doesn’t go away… so you try to be sneaky in your attempts to get what you want. But you actually end up acting the opposite of subtle or stealth because your feelings take over and run the show. When someone doesn’t give us what we want, we feel like we need to steal it. Listen in to learn why love is something you HAVE, not something you TAKE. There’s a big difference.

I used to believe I had to sneak up on love. I thought I had to put my demands out there, yet act stealth, like I wasn’t demanding. I was trying to “get” love from someone who did not want to give it, and then I would blame them when it didn’t work (even though I was acting like I didn’t want anything). Craziness, right?

There is an intensity to this game, and as much as you try to shove it down or make it disappear, it doesn’t go away… so you try to be sneaky in your attempts to get what you want. But you actually end up acting the opposite of subtle or stealth because your feelings take over and run the show. When someone doesn’t give us what we want, we feel like we need to steal it. Listen in to learn why love is something you HAVE, not something you TAKE. There’s a big difference.

Fear can dominate us whether we’re aware of it or not. And it’s tied to our emotions, so it can’t be unraveled on an intellectual level. To see what’s behind it, we must drop our defenses, shun the mental compartmentalization of feelings that our subconscious patterning wants… and feel it. Doing so may lead to the dark night of the soul, a place of true transformation. It ain’t pretty, though, and most people avoid it at all costs. Numbing and distracting are much easier, but they never result in true change.

How do you call upon this fear and get to the journey of the dark night of the soul? Triggers. Opening yourself up and asking to be triggered is a blessing because it will show up in the areas where you need to confront your fears. Think of a trigger, if you feel it somewhere in your body—there is fear. I welcome them because each time it’s an opportunity to take a new and different action, or at least just feel. Do you ever avoid certain people or situations because you know it’ll bring up all sorts of uncomfortable feelings? Perhaps you would have to confront something about yourself that you’re unwilling to. Diving head-first into those situations leads to that place of transformation and healing.

You have to go through the eye of the storm to see the truth and release yourself from your previous perceptions and beliefs. It’s a path to self-actualization. If you truly want freedom from your fears, go get emotionally triggered and surrender to it. I suggest taking baby steps, and I’ll talk you through it.

Fear can dominate us whether we’re aware of it or not. And it’s tied to our emotions, so it can’t be unraveled on an intellectual level. To see what’s behind it, we must drop our defenses, shun the mental compartmentalization of feelings that our subconscious patterning wants… and feel it. Doing so may lead to the dark night of the soul, a place of true transformation. It ain’t pretty, though, and most people avoid it at all costs. Numbing and distracting are much easier, but they never result in true change.

How do you call upon this fear and get to the journey of the dark night of the soul? Triggers. Opening yourself up and asking to be triggered is a blessing because it will show up in the areas where you need to confront your fears. Think of a trigger, if you feel it somewhere in your body—there is fear. I welcome them because each time it’s an opportunity to take a new and different action, or at least just feel. Do you ever avoid certain people or situations because you know it’ll bring up all sorts of uncomfortable feelings? Perhaps you would have to confront something about yourself that you’re unwilling to. Diving head-first into those situations leads to that place of transformation and healing.

You have to go through the eye of the storm to see the truth and release yourself from your previous perceptions and beliefs. It’s a path to self-actualization. If you truly want freedom from your fears, go get emotionally triggered and surrender to it. I suggest taking baby steps, and I’ll talk you through it.

Fear can dominate us whether we’re aware of it or not. And it’s tied to our emotions, so it can’t be unraveled on an intellectual level. To see what’s behind it, we must drop our defenses, shun the mental compartmentalization of feelings that our subconscious patterning wants… and feel it. Doing so may lead to the dark night of the soul, a place of true transformation. It ain’t pretty, though, and most people avoid it at all costs. Numbing and distracting are much easier, but they never result in true change.

How do you call upon this fear and get to the journey of the dark night of the soul? Triggers. Opening yourself up and asking to be triggered is a blessing because it will show up in the areas where you need to confront your fears. Think of a trigger, if you feel it somewhere in your body—there is fear. I welcome them because each time it’s an opportunity to take a new and different action, or at least just feel. Do you ever avoid certain people or situations because you know it’ll bring up all sorts of uncomfortable feelings? Perhaps you would have to confront something about yourself that you’re unwilling to. Diving head-first into those situations leads to that place of transformation and healing.

You have to go through the eye of the storm to see the truth and release yourself from your previous perceptions and beliefs. It’s a path to self-actualization. If you truly want freedom from your fears, go get emotionally triggered and surrender to it. I suggest taking baby steps, and I’ll talk you through it.

Fear can dominate us whether we’re aware of it or not. And it’s tied to our emotions, so it can’t be unraveled on an intellectual level. To see what’s behind it, we must drop our defenses, shun the mental compartmentalization of feelings that our subconscious patterning wants… and feel it. Doing so may lead to the dark night of the soul, a place of true transformation. It ain’t pretty, though, and most people avoid it at all costs. Numbing and distracting are much easier, but they never result in true change.

How do you call upon this fear and get to the journey of the dark night of the soul? Triggers. Opening yourself up and asking to be triggered is a blessing because it will show up in the areas where you need to confront your fears. Think of a trigger, if you feel it somewhere in your body—there is fear. I welcome them because each time it’s an opportunity to take a new and different action, or at least just feel. Do you ever avoid certain people or situations because you know it’ll bring up all sorts of uncomfortable feelings? Perhaps you would have to confront something about yourself that you’re unwilling to. Diving head-first into those situations leads to that place of transformation and healing.

You have to go through the eye of the storm to see the truth and release yourself from your previous perceptions and beliefs. It’s a path to self-actualization. If you truly want freedom from your fears, go get emotionally triggered and surrender to it. I suggest taking baby steps, and I’ll talk you through it.

Fear can dominate us whether we’re aware of it or not. And it’s tied to our emotions, so it can’t be unraveled on an intellectual level. To see what’s behind it, we must drop our defenses, shun the mental compartmentalization of feelings that our subconscious patterning wants… and feel it. Doing so may lead to the dark night of the soul, a place of true transformation. It ain’t pretty, though, and most people avoid it at all costs. Numbing and distracting are much easier, but they never result in true change.

How do you call upon this fear and get to the journey of the dark night of the soul? Triggers. Opening yourself up and asking to be triggered is a blessing because it will show up in the areas where you need to confront your fears. Think of a trigger, if you feel it somewhere in your body—there is fear. I welcome them because each time it’s an opportunity to take a new and different action, or at least just feel. Do you ever avoid certain people or situations because you know it’ll bring up all sorts of uncomfortable feelings? Perhaps you would have to confront something about yourself that you’re unwilling to. Diving head-first into those situations leads to that place of transformation and healing.

You have to go through the eye of the storm to see the truth and release yourself from your previous perceptions and beliefs. It’s a path to self-actualization. If you truly want freedom from your fears, go get emotionally triggered and surrender to it. I suggest taking baby steps, and I’ll talk you through it.

When you’re with the person you're attached to, do you ever feel as though you’re being pulled by some strange force to control them in an effort to bring them closer to you? Just the thought of letting go and allowing them to do what they want creates this panicked fear of abandonment. What if they leave? Or how about staring at your phone, waiting for them to contact you. You’re SO fixated that you can’t move away from it, afraid you might miss something.

We try to control others when we ourselves feel out of control. It’s a battle within us, and it messes with our self-worth, making us feel hopeless and without value because we’re not receiving the validation we need. It can feel like clinging to a life raft, trying not to drown in unwanted, painful feelings. What happens next is we start making rules like “I won’t look at my phone between 7pm-midnight,” but that just makes us feel worse. Not only are we trying to control our emotions, but we start to label ourselves as right or wrong based on those rules (Damn, I just looked at my phone—I’m so weak). It’s quite a painful cocktail.

Rules don’t help us to let go of control. Learn how to do it slowly and effectively to release those painful feelings.

When you’re with the person you're attached to, do you ever feel as though you’re being pulled by some strange force to control them in an effort to bring them closer to you? Just the thought of letting go and allowing them to do what they want creates this panicked fear of abandonment. What if they leave? Or how about staring at your phone, waiting for them to contact you. You’re SO fixated that you can’t move away from it, afraid you might miss something.

We try to control others when we ourselves feel out of control. It’s a battle within us, and it messes with our self-worth, making us feel hopeless and without value because we’re not receiving the validation we need. It can feel like clinging to a life raft, trying not to drown in unwanted, painful feelings. What happens next is we start making rules like “I won’t look at my phone between 7pm-midnight,” but that just makes us feel worse. Not only are we trying to control our emotions, but we start to label ourselves as right or wrong based on those rules (Damn, I just looked at my phone—I’m so weak). It’s quite a painful cocktail.

Rules don’t help us to let go of control. Learn how to do it slowly and effectively to release those painful feelings.

When you’re with the person you're attached to, do you ever feel as though you’re being pulled by some strange force to control them in an effort to bring them closer to you? Just the thought of letting go and allowing them to do what they want creates this panicked fear of abandonment. What if they leave? Or how about staring at your phone, waiting for them to contact you. You’re SO fixated that you can’t move away from it, afraid you might miss something.

We try to control others when we ourselves feel out of control. It’s a battle within us, and it messes with our self-worth, making us feel hopeless and without value because we’re not receiving the validation we need. It can feel like clinging to a life raft, trying not to drown in unwanted, painful feelings. What happens next is we start making rules like “I won’t look at my phone between 7pm-midnight,” but that just makes us feel worse. Not only are we trying to control our emotions, but we start to label ourselves as right or wrong based on those rules (Damn, I just looked at my phone—I’m so weak). It’s quite a painful cocktail.

Rules don’t help us to let go of control. Learn how to do it slowly and effectively to release those painful feelings.