Have you ever felt like you're living someone else's version of a "good" relationship? That moment when you realize you've been checking boxes you never actually chose for yourself? I've been there, and it's time we talk about moving from relationship "shoulds" to relationship "coulds."

In this episode, I'm sharing my journey from living a picture-perfect life on the outside while hiding a painful reality behind closed doors. Together, we'll explore how to break free from inherited relationship scripts and create connections that truly honor who you are.

What You'll Discover:

• How to identify relationship "shoulds" that were installed in you like unwanted software
• Why giving yourself permission to want more isn't selfish—it's essential
• A step-by-step process for creating your authentic relationship vision
• Practical tools to transform your vision into living, breathing reality

Key Insights:

Uncovering Inherited Beliefs: I share how I felt threatened when my husband's girlfriend made him lunch - not because I wanted to make lunch, but because I'd absorbed the belief that "good partners feed their partners." We'll explore where these beliefs come from and how to choose which ones actually serve you.

The Desire Inventory: Learn how to conduct a judgment-free exploration of what you truly want in relationships, without apology or explanation.

Designing Your Authentic Relationship: Explore dimensions like power dynamics, attention needs, and personal boundaries to craft connections that energize rather than drain you.

Making It Real: Discover practical tools including "connection conversations" that focus on the quality of relationships rather than labels or hierarchy.

Remember: Your perfect relationship doesn't look like anyone else's - and that's exactly how it should be.

Resources Mentioned:

• Free Guide: "Let's Talk About It: Your Guide to Ethically Non-Monogamous Conversations"
• Book Reference: "Unbound" by Kasia Urbaniak
• Beyond Monogamy Program: elleciapaine.com

Join me as we challenge conventional notions of what relationships "should" be and explore the endless possibilities of what they "could" be. It's time to create connections that feel like coming home to yourself, not leaving yourself at the door.

Ready to dive deeper? Download my free guide, "Let's Talk About It: Your Guide to Ethically Non-Monogamous Conversations" at elleciapaine.com/conversations and start buil

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