Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

Good on Paper & Sixth Sense of Humor


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What happens if you get to the third date and it still feels awkward? Grin and bear it? Or keep waiting for chemistry? And how can you trust that your gut is telling you the right thing?

This week, a listener shares: "I met a man who checks every box on paper. He’s kind, reliable, matches my values… but I feel absolutely nothing. No spark. No butterflies. Is something wrong with me?"

In this episode, Damona shares the truth about emotional resonance, why the three-date rule isn’t a trap, and how to tell the difference between being too picky and being truly honest with yourself. 

You’ll hear how to identify the signals your body sends you, why humor matters more than you think, and why being “decent” should never be the bar.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

  • What the three-date rule really means (and what it doesn’t)
  • Why “good on paper” doesn’t always translate to connection
  • How to tell if you're genuinely curious or just people-pleasing
  • The surprising role of humor in long-term compatibility
  • How to do an energy check after every date
  • What your nervous system is trying to tell you
  • The difference between settling and staying open
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